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My daughter died ten days ago

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AlieOxon Fri 15-May-15 15:04:21

Of acute pulmonary oedema, we have just heard.
She hadn't seen her consultant for four years for her kidney condition
She probably wasn't taking her potassium pills.
We didn't know she was risking her life. She probably didn't.
.....and I am really angry.

There is a black hole in the middle of our family.

But what I really want to say is that although the condition she had is very rare (Gitelman's Syndrome, if you want to look it up) that I have found there is a similar risk in people with heart conditions who are taking some diuretics.

We should have known that she was at risk. From what I find, this is only recently realised by the medical profession about GS patients - there may be only 1500 in Britain. I don't know if heart patients are warned.
I feel this should be better known.

Soutra Thu 11-Jun-15 18:37:24

I too will be thinking of you and wish you all possible strength for this last service a Mum can do for her dearest Daughter We were not meant to outlive our children and your grief will be compounded by sharing that of your daughter's partner and her children. I can imagine little worse but you have been so amazing up to now, I know you can do it.
Once tomorrow is past I truly hope you can find some peace of mind and comfort from shared memories of happier times.
There will be many tears shed by your fellow Grannies on GN. and I just hope you can feel our "virtual" hands holding yours and helping to bear you up. sadsad flowers

TriciaF Thu 11-Jun-15 18:46:21

I'll be thinking of you too tomorrow Alie.
I haven't posted on this thread before, but followed it and send our prayers that your dear daughter will be put to rest at last.

ffinnochio Thu 11-Jun-15 18:57:57

Alie You're often in my thoughts, and will be especially so tomorrow. flowers

Jomarie Thu 11-Jun-15 20:02:31

Alie - Thinking of you and your loved ones - so hard for you all - be brave.

soontobe Thu 11-Jun-15 20:09:21

Best wishes for tomorrow flowers

loopylou Thu 11-Jun-15 20:17:54

Very much thinking of you and your family x

POGS Thu 11-Jun-15 20:29:01

Thinking of you Alie. flowers

Anne58 Thu 11-Jun-15 20:35:38

Love, strength, and some understanding to you all, and a wish that you can find the odd moment to remember good things and smile.

baubles Thu 11-Jun-15 20:56:35

I think of you often Alie and will do tomorrow. Wishing you strength. flowers

Mishap Thu 11-Jun-15 21:02:44

Thinking of you and all your family.

AlieOxon Thu 11-Jun-15 21:14:39

Thanks, folks.

pinkprincess Thu 11-Jun-15 23:53:09

Thinking of you.

My sister lost her daughter to suicide a few years ago.It caused a big hole in the family.

Marelli Fri 12-Jun-15 03:59:46

My thoughts are with you for today, Alie.

Marelli Fri 12-Jun-15 04:07:27

Thinking of you today, Alie. We'll all be with you. flowers xx

Marelli Fri 12-Jun-15 04:10:00

Sorry for the double posts. Don't know how that happened.

Mamie Fri 12-Jun-15 05:51:48

Thinking of you and wishing you strength for today Alie. flowers

kittylester Fri 12-Jun-15 06:17:51

Just popped on to say I hope all goes as you hope today and I will be thinking of you. flowers

MariClaire Fri 12-Jun-15 07:10:46

Alie I am thinking of you, your daughter and family today. I hope you see all those many lives your daughter has touched, and whose goodness lives on in them. Your courage over these many days has inspired us. Wishing you an extra burst of strength today.flowers and hugs.

Anya Fri 12-Jun-15 07:26:20

Alie we will all be thinking of you today flowers

AshTree Fri 12-Jun-15 07:30:22

We're all with you, all holding your hand today Alie. flowers

Marmight Fri 12-Jun-15 07:34:29

With you today Alie. Be brave - but not too brave xx

Lona Fri 12-Jun-15 08:03:25

Thinking of you all Alie flowers

hildajenniJ Fri 12-Jun-15 08:15:03

My thoughts and prayers are with you today Alie. flowers for all your family.

Eloethan Fri 12-Jun-15 08:37:34

My thoughts are with you and your family today Alie.

glassortwo Fri 12-Jun-15 08:42:28

Alie my thoughts are with you and the family today. flowers