COUNSELLING

I thought that what Counsellors essentially did was listen to you and gently guide the discussion so that you began to see the possible solutions for yourself and then make the decision as to which solution was best for your well-being.

But petallus, was that private treatment? I wouldn't have thought you had much choice under the NHS.

The counsellor should definitely have qualifications.
As someone said there are different styles. Cognitive behavioural therapy, and its variations, seems to be the main one in vogue at the moment. In a way it does offer practical solutions, you're give a target to achieve for the next session, aiming to help the personal to have more control over their feelings. There's usually a time limit for number of sessions.
Another type is pure behavioural therapy, used especially for phobias. Then there was the Rogerian approach, which gives the person a gentle lead to ramble on and work things out for themselves, with validation from the therapist. And also different types of psychoanalysis, which can take years.

Yes Ana it was private treatment.

Much more difficult if you have to rely on the NHS.

The other day I came across people collecting for a charity which provides counselling for soldiers traumatised after serving in Afghanistan. Some are suicidal. The government gives them no help at all and the charity provides private sessions at a cost of £40 each.

Thanks so much to everyone for taking the time to comment. I eventually had my assessment today, with some problems along the way. She said she is referring me for counselling, although I thought that had been done already. But it will be at least a month. This is with the NHS, as I could not afford to pay. i wonder if it is worth trying another antidepressant. the last one I took, made me feel worse, and I cannot bear the thought of feeling worse than i am now. I need to see my GP again.The one I was taking was called SER........I think, cannot remember the name.

It was probably Sertraline. I did not last one day on it as I was sitting around retching! But I know others who have felt very well on it.

I have been given a different type of anti-depressant and am OK on it. I have had to gently build up the dose and work out the best time of day to take it for me - but I got there in the end. It felt pretty slow though!

Worth discussing with GP and seeing if there is one that will suit you better - I really do think the key is to start on a minute dose and build it up very gradually so your body can adapt to it.

I do hope that you will start to feel better soon.

Mariana I'm sorry you are depressed, Depression is an illness and you need to source some treatment for it like you would with any other illness. I am a trained counsellor, I work for the NHS and an adolescent counselling service so see clients from age 10 up. I am registered and accredited with BACP and have professional indemnity insurance. This is expected within the NHS and if you decide to see a private counsellor they should also have all these in place in order to practise and would have no problem in proving that to you.

Unfortunately anyone can set themselves up as a private counsellor with the minimum of qualifications and experience and this is why the government has said all counsellors should be registered by next year to be able to work. Most reputable counsellors belong to a professional body and all should have regular monthly clinical supervision so their work is monitored. There are other professional bodies beside BACP but it is one of the most well known. It expects it's counsellors to abide by its code of ethical guidelines which is in place to protect the client.

Counsellors should have a minimum of a post graduate diploma to be fully trained and many ( like myself) have a Masters in counselling and there are many theoretical orientations to choose to train in. Many counsellors then go on to have further training in a specialism they are interested in( mine is in Bereavement). Go back to your GP and find out how long you will have to wait for your sessions, the person who you initially saw is probably an assessor who will now pass you on to a counsellor colleague in your local primary mental health support service (in the NHS) and most places have a waiting list of at least several weeks but you will be seen. and the counsellor should contact you directly when an appointment is available.

No matter how the counsellor is trained the most important part of the sessions is the client/counsellor relationship and you need to build up trust with your counsellor for it to work for you. If you do not feel comfortable and " click" with them do not be afraid to ask to see someone else. Also antidepressants can work well in tandem with therapy and research has shown that both together work better for depression than either on their own so discuss a change or increase of medication with your GP at your next consultation. I imagine the one you are currently taking is Sertraline but there are several others to try, sometimes you need to try more than one before you feel they are helping you, you will know when it is working you will realise your mood has lifted enough to help you cope better day to day and increase your motivation/concentration and zest for life. Good luck try a few adjustments and see what happens. Am happy to speak with you if you would like to pm me.

Counsellor No.1
I was referred at the age of 10 after my parents were divorced, because I was getting 'tummy ache' when it was time to go to school. I was told it would go away if I ignored it, and labelled a neurotic hypochondriac from a broken home.

The long term consequence of that diagnosis is that it has blighted my healthcare for life. After I was diagnosed with a heart arrhythmia they denied it for 22 months, telling me that they'd never seen any arrhythmia even after I given them my own copy of an ECG.

Counsellor No.2
This bloke was the one I got most sense from, but he left the job after a few weeks. Before he went, he told me why he was quitting: "I'm fed up of the way the patients are patronised, and fed up of pretending we're helping when we know we aren't". He explained how they think that they can cure people by convincing them that they just need to view their problems rationally, when in reality they are quite capable of seeing their situation rationally as it is. Pretty much exactly what Smail argues.

Counsellor No.3
This one was a complete drip. After a year of saying "mmm" every time I opened my mouth, he said:

"Well, do you think you're any better?"
"Do you?"
"Er......y-yes...........so, do you?"
"No"
"Well I'm discharging you, if you want any more you'll have to go back to your GP."

Three down, one to go.

Counsellor No.4
She just sat there smirking like a Cheshire cat, and thwarting any rational conversation by being systematically obtuse. I walked out after I had to sit at work listening to staff repeating what I had said to her. She was also trying to suggest that my parents had been abusing me.

No.5?
The advocate that I've been allocated to assist in making a complaint is an Ex-NHS mental health worker. Apart from defending the NHS and watering down my complaint at every opportunity, she was doing what people like that do best: trying to manipulate me into thinking that I'm deluded about the events that I'm trying to complain about.

Wow Crun you have been unlucky and had a bad time! Keep going with your complaint, if any of your previous counsellors have BACP membership there is a rigorous complaint procedure for clients to pursue and they will apply sanctions to a in incompetent/ negligent counsellor and withdraw their membership. If this happens counsellors have to comply with whatever BACP asks them to do to improve their practice before they can have their membership back. It is difficult to get work at all without some kind of professional body membership. I'm really sorry you've had a bad time. I recently saw a client who came to me after 3 disastrous encounters with other practitioners and I said how courageous he was to keep trying. He has come back to me for several groups of sessions with space in between to reflect and process the therapy and I know it has helped him because he's told me so and I can see it.

Please don't give up, there is a person out there who can help you. Counselling can and does work for many people . It is the counsellors job to try and make it easier for you.

hi there I had a phone assessment in November 14, a week later I had an appointment to go to group councelling for 8 weeks, after 4 weeks I was approach by the councellor and given an appointment for 1-1. I have been going on a weekly basis and it has really helped with the situations I was having, at first they allow you 8 weeks and then they can go on longer if you need it, mine went on for 20 sessions unfortunately because it was NHS funded my sessions had to end even though I still need help, I have been told I can go back in 3 months the trouble with that is if your not completely recovered you can go back to where you started. I think you should give it a try if you are offered it, some people recover quicker than others and believe me it does help even if you just talk. good luck smile

hi there I had a phone assessment in November 14, a week later I had an appointment to go to group councelling for 8 weeks, after 4 weeks I was approach by the councellor and given an appointment for 1-1. I have been going on a weekly basis and it has really helped with the situations I was having, at first they allow you 8 weeks and then they can go on longer if you need it, mine went on for 20 sessions unfortunately because it was NHS funded my sessions had to end even though I still need help, I have been told I can go back in 3 months the trouble with that is if your not completely recovered you can go back to where you started. I think you should give it a try if you are offered it, some people recover quicker than others and believe me it does help even if you just talk. good luck

I forgot to mention group counselling - I too had this a long time ago for an ongoing problem and found it very helpful. In fact it became almost addictive and I didn't want to stop! Made many good friends.
In the end I had to stand on my own 2 feet, but kept some of the friends.

I would love to go to group counseling, but as far as I know it is not available where I live

The sessions I went to were in the psychiatric unit of a local general hospital. Perhaps these don't exist any more?

Yes they do TriciaF, as do the ones at the psychology department. The cuts mean they are even harder to access now than in recent years, sadly.

I had a breakdown at work whilst in my early 50's, and actually have no recollection of the day itself. My DH was call ed from work to "rescue" me and he said that all I kept saying was "I do not want to be put on any drugs" over and over, so I obviously felt strongly about that. My GP arranged for me to have a number of sessions with a counsellor, and it worked! It took time and I was off work for quite a few weeks but eventually got there and there has been no repeat. I was told, which came as a complete surprise that I was very depressed. I was lucky IMO that I didn't take any drugs, and so I knew that as I felt better I WAS better and it wasn't the drugs masking anything. I am probably wrong in that opinion, but it was how I felt at the time.

My doctor has prescibed more tablets, but keep on a smaller dose for longer. So I shall see how that goes. I really did not want to take any medication, becase so far, I am not on any other medication, but I guess that is good, as they will not clash !

"if any of your previous counsellors have BACP membership there is a rigorous complaint procedure "

They're all NHS. There's a one year time limit on making complaints, and it all happened decades ago. The complaint I'm drafting is about them repeatedly lying about my heart arrhythmia.

I see todays media is full of the CQC report into the prejudiced treatment of mental health patients.