I'm not going to tell him.....

You sound as if you are a strong person ga, someone who will not be easily scared until there is something to be scared about. You know that this will very likely turn out to be nothing to worry about, so why put your DH through the worry, spoiling his adventure and his special time saying goodbye to a lifelong friend? I'm sure that under any other circumstances you would have told him right away, but these are special circumstances, once-in-a-lifetime circumstances.
I do so understand why you feel you want to keep this to yourself for the time being. And, as you say, he can be on a flight home and be with you in a very short time if you find that you do after all need him.
I really wish you all the best, both of you, and hope the outcome is as you expect so that your DH can enjoy his goodbyes and his cycle home. And I hope he doesn't get too cross with you
Good luck

If I'm honest I expected more of you to say I should tell my husband.

I have had lots of medical problems and so tests don't faze me at all and I would usually go to the hospital on my own by choice. Sometimes my mother in law comes with me, but that's more for her sake than my own because she's a gem and likes to feel she's being supportive. I am not being brave, nor am I overly worried. I'm taking to heart the consultant's view that the lump in my throat is most likely to be benign, but if it is not then throat cancer, caught early, is treatable. The consultant said that they will know more when they see the MRI scan and may then do a biopsy. If I am found to have cancer I will tell my husband and he can fly home the same day - fortunately, due to other circumstances, we have already made a contingency plan for him to fly home immediately if the need arises. If, as is hoped, the lump is benign then we can share our adventure stories when he gets home.

When he has been reassured that I wasn't very worried I hope he will appreciate my reasons for not telling him sooner. He once had tests and didn't tell me until they came back all-clear so I'm fairly certain he'll understand.

Well ga you know your DH better than any of us lot so I reckon what you have decided to do will be right for the pair of you!

Good luck with the tests and fingers crossed it's not cancer and can easily be treated. Enjoy your trip to Norway in the meantime.

UPDATE
Well, I told my lovely mother in law today - and she was as wonderful as always. She was really supportive of my decision not to tell my husband and said that she would do exactly the same thing in the circumstances. I was actually quite stressed about telling her because I don't want her to spend the next ten days worrying, but she took it very well and is coming with me to the hospital when I have the MRI scan. She's not sharing the news with my father in law until after we've left tomorrow as she thinks he might inadvertently let the cat out of the bag.

Glad you have someone to go with you. Wishing you all the best.

UPDATE no 2
As planned, my mother in law came to the hospital with me today and I had both an MRI and also, unexpectedly, an MRA (which is when they inject a dye). It takes 5 days to process apparently and then I can expect to hear from the consultant. My father in law has been let in on the news now and agrees that keeping quiet is the right thing to do under the circumstances.

We had a lovely time with our Norwegian friends, although it was sad to see them looking so frail and ill - now my Wonderful Man is on his cycling trip and we keep in touch every day so if he needs to get home quickly he can do. (We have a plan in place because our son in law is on a tour of duty at the moment.)

Grannyactivist If this were me I would tell someone close just to have a support network, but I would not say anything to your husband for the reasons you state.

Bless you.

I had two lumpectomies in my left breast years ago, so I know how scary a time this is. x

Sorry I did not read the updates

(((hugs))) Ga - please keep us posted.

So glad you had a lovely time and your DH is doing all the things he wanted to do. Your PIL sound lovely. Praying that all will be well for you.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you ga.

ga just [hugs], pleased you have the support of your MiL.

Keeping everything crossed for you. So pleased you have your MiL's support - she sounds like a gem, lucky you!

UPDATE no 3:
My consultant has been on holiday so I only got my results letter today. He says there is a need for me to have a biopsy under general anaesthetic, but that I can go home from hospital the same day.

Fortunately my Wonderful Man will be home on Saturday, so the timing is very good - I am always very sick after a general anasthaetic so I wouldn't have wanted to have that procedure without him nearby to look after me. I'm still feeling very positive and lots of friends are praying for me, but my poor mother in law is very worried now, I can tell.

Here's hoping for good news soon

Very much keeping my fingers crossed for you ga, I too wouldn't have told my DH.

Do tell the anaesthetist that ga's make you very sick, there are new drugs that they can give you before you come round. The last time I had a ga, four years ago, was the first time I hadn't been sick for days afterwards.

? and hug x

I second looplou's suggestion - I was very sick after a GA, and told the anaesthetist the next time I needed one. He adjusted the drugs accordingly and I was absolutely fine afterwards.

Good luck ga, I am keeping everything crossed for you. and (((hugs)))

Glad that OH will be with you to deal with the sick!! I hope that it all goes well - you seem to be getting excellent speedy treatment and they are being very thorough. Good luck with it all.

Good luck from me too Ga - just realised the coincidence in your abbreviated name! You know we are all wishing you well.

Thanks for the tip about telling the anaesthetist about the sickness - I've always suffered from terrible sickness for days afterwards - hopefully s/he can give me something to avoid it this time.

One son has now finished exams and the other one will be done by a week tomorrow, so I feel I've managed not to add an unnecessary burden and can tell them all the (hopefully good) news when the deed is done.

What a brave, wonderful, selfless person you are*ga*. I hope all goes well for you

Sending you and ga Let's hope the bipsy gives you the all clear. (I love your choice of the word 'worrisome', it's the first time I've heard it in years! It goes with 'tiresome' and 'bothersome'. So descriptive!)

If it were me I'd tell my DH purely to allow him to make his own decision armed with the same information that you have. I'm not a worrier I suppose I'm an optimist as far as health is concerned so my choice to tell him wouldn't be based on fear of what could be but simply to treat him as an equal. I wouldn't and haven't told anyone other than him in similar circumstances.

Wishing you a positive outcome.

Ah sorry, I hadn't read the full thread and didn't notice the date. Please ignore my wholly irrelevant post.

Still wishing you well and sending positive vibes though.

Good luck with the biopsy ga. I hope all goes well. Glad that the timings worked out well an your DH will be there for support. for you, from me.