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Sleeplessness

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Nonnie Mon 03-Sept-18 15:42:52

Does anyone have a cure? Tried over the counter meds but they make me feel awful next day. Tried warm milk and various things before bed but they don't work. I have a bedtime routine, I don't have a TV in the bedroom and don't look at PC or phone before bed. I feel very tired so don't see the point in getting up and doing something to tire myself out. I never nap in the daytime and suffer the same if I have had a quiet day, a busy day or a physically demanding day. When I finally get to sleep, sometimes as late as 5 am, I sleep soundly, it is getting to sleep that is the problem. After about 5 days of this I finally get a good night's sleep but then it all starts again.

Coconut Wed 05-Sept-18 14:07:11

Bamm .... I’ve had the burning and tingling feet for a while now. Had loads of tests like you but was just told that I have damaged nerves from years of “ inappropriate footwear” ! I do feel it’s linked to Restless Leg Syndrome which of course no one knows the cause and there is no cure. It gets bad n long flights plus sitting in a theatre etc The only thing that alleviates it for me is the Body Shop Peppermint leg and foot spray .... instant bliss !

Nonnie Wed 05-Sept-18 14:07:53

amber my thyroid was removed a number of years ago and I am on quite a low dose of thyroxin which is monitored so I doubt that is the issue.

newnanny I have monitored it and the days I am physically busy all day are just as bad as the days when I can't seem to get motivated at all. My phone tells me how many steps I have taken each day so it is easy to monitor.

A few people have mentioned lavender oil, doesn't work for me.

beejo took pills the last 2 nights and did sleep better but feel awful today, as if I haven't slept so not a lot of point.

Farrsan thanks but doesn't work for me.

knspol luckily my mind doesn't do much more than almost switch off and I don't have any of the other issues you mention. I just lie there awake.

Gabriella I am tired when I go to bed and too tired to even read when I can't sleep so getting up and doing something is not really an option.

Sarah I have never been known to drop off on the sofa. DH does, in and out of sleep all evening and then sleeps as son as he head hits the pillow. Wish I could too.

annep that sounds dreadful and I would take pills in that situation. I do have to be careful because of the other meds I'm on though.

gigi1958 Wed 05-Sept-18 14:25:12

I did not read through all these posts to see what was suggested but...I use Melatonin every night and have so for the past 5 years and thus far no side affects only great sleep and hallucinogenic dreams! LOL going to sleep is like an adventure I never know what my dreams will be.
I take 1.0 Mg of Melatonin which is a tiny dose and I am considering going even lower to .05 mg.

I generally take it 1 hour before bed time also it does take several consecutive nights in order for it to work so don't think because after 1-3 nghts nothing happens that it won't eventually work, keep using it.

GabriellaG Wed 05-Sept-18 14:48:39

cc Try separate bedrooms. Bliss.

annep Wed 05-Sept-18 14:58:44

Definitely separate bedrooms. (sorry DH). Nonnie try a lower dose and take it maybe two hours before bedtime. Probably a couple of times will help you get into a better sleep pattern. And yes I do think pills should be kept to a minimum and cgeck with doctor if yoy take others. Its clear that there is no one cureall as wirh many problems. We are all different.
Will someone tell me what melatonin is. can I buy it otc?

annep Wed 05-Sept-18 15:08:54

urmstongran that sounds ^exhausting* lol.

mapleleaf gregorian chants - yes you are not alone. love the monks. Omnes Laudate Gentes is good too ( not quite gregorian but nice. Album on youtube

madmartha yes I do that at times!

Re magnesium- my potassium level went very high. Doctor blamed it on magnesium supplement I was taking???

stevej4491 Wed 05-Sept-18 15:45:38

Nonnie I could have written word for word your letter.I've been like this for donkeys years .I've moaned at various doctors about it and asked for sleeping pills but to no avail. I've even just started having plants in the bedroom,as supposedly that helps. I use aromatherapy too. I'm even looking into CBD oil but it seems quite complecated.

Nonnie Wed 05-Sept-18 16:07:19

annep I'm taking the lowest dose there is and feel as bad today as if I hadn't slept so no point. I am seeing a different doctor on Friday at a new practice so maybe he/she will have some good ideas.

I thank everyone for their suggestions, just a shame I have already tried most of them and still failed!

willa45 Wed 05-Sept-18 16:07:35

A warm shower followed by a cup of chamomile tea. A little bit of reading to doze off on and a cold pillow for my head...works wonders!

annep Wed 05-Sept-18 16:16:04

When I stayed with my daughter recently for a week I slept every single night. Unheard of for me.
The only thing different was I had ordered a mattress topper ( not expensive. asda) in case I got pains.

4allweknow Wed 05-Sept-18 16:51:42

Try hypnosis. I had and still sometimes do still have the same problem you describe. Hypnosis taught me how to relax and basically send me to sleep. I still do use the method I was taught if I even feel a bit anxious. The training does take a while but is really worth it.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 05-Sept-18 17:26:21

I may be out of line here, but are you worrying about anything, apart from sleeplessness, I mean?

My sleep pattern gets disturbed if I am even only very slightly worried about money, health, etc. or dissatisfied with something. Once I work out what I am dissatisfied with or worried about sleeping becomes easier again.

CardiffJaguar Wed 05-Sept-18 17:47:13

Fresh air. Yes, get out for a walk and breathe in deeply as you go - always assuming you do not live in an area of high pollution - in the evening. Read a book before going to bed. Keep bedroom totally dark. Work at emptying your mind when you lie down.

annep Wed 05-Sept-18 18:29:55

Hope you have a helpful appointment nonnie. As I said everyone is different. Maybe not a useful thread for you but thanks to you there are lots of things others can try.

Grandmama Wed 05-Sept-18 19:08:31

I generally read until 11pm, sometimes 11.30pm and fall straight to sleep. Sometimes I'm awake at 2.30-ish but manage to go back to sleep for an hour or two, sometimes I sleep until 4am and then toss and turn until about 6am when I get up. I have a milky coffee at breakfast, a cup of ground coffee mid morning, a cup of tea in the afternoon and in the early evening. Otherwise I have water with lemon in it so it's not a caffeine problem. Nor am I usually worrying about anything (occasionally a worry keeps me awake). Months ago I moved into the spare room because DH used to keep me awake but this has made no difference. One or two friends have also commented that they sleep badly. Six or seven hours sleep would be wonderful.

NanaRayna Wed 05-Sept-18 20:01:44

Just found this article on the local online news site: 'The military sleeping technique 'that will send you off in 120 seconds' www.walesonline.co.uk/news/military-sleeping-technique-that-send-15112912

Let us know if you try it. please?
(I'm having no trouble at the moment, but insomnia has been known to creep up now and then!) smile

luluaugust Wed 05-Sept-18 20:34:01

I usually drop off about 11.30 and wake anytime between 1.30 and 4.30, then it goes one of two ways either I drop off again, most likely if I wake at 1.30 or thats it, it is infuriating with OH sound asleep. I try the repetitive words method which can work well unless I am worrying about something, then forget it.

Fennel Wed 05-Sept-18 21:09:44

For those who've mentioned that men don't seem to have this problem I agree.
I have a theory that women's sleep pattern is programmed in preparation for feeding babies at night.
And reacting to the night-time demands of older children.

raggyanna Wed 05-Sept-18 21:46:23

I take amitriptyline for restless feet. I have taken it for several years and it has been very successful.

annep Wed 05-Sept-18 22:12:23

any bad side effects raggyanna?

HannahLoisLuke Wed 05-Sept-18 23:11:13

Nonnie I've bought cbd oil at Holland and Barratt. It doesn't have THC in it, the element that gives you a high. £19.99 for a 19ml bottle. If like me , you get it when they have the penny sale on you get two bottles for £20

annep Thu 06-Sept-18 04:54:53

Has it worked for you HannahLL. I bought it too but couldn't handle the taste.

AlexG Thu 06-Sept-18 11:46:06

When I can't sleep and my mind is flapping from one thing to another, I do the Alphabet game. Choose a subject and then name in your head something starting with A and going on. Anything; dogs, colours, countries, English towns, singers, you name it and I've done it. Usually get to about J and clonk, off to sleep.

Nonnie Thu 06-Sept-18 12:03:21

grandtanteJE65 no, not unless I am subconsciously worrying. I seem to be the odd one out here as I'm not lying there thinking about not sleeping. Maybe I'm just acccepting it? I am remembering that I read that lying peacefully is almost as good as sleeping. The day to day stuff doesn't go through my head, I am too busy reciting poetry etc and last night did the alphabet thing someone suggested upthread 3 times straight though and it was interesting but didn't send me to sleep.

annep Thu 06-Sept-18 12:03:48

I tried doing the shopping as someone suggested when I woke at 4am. I fell asleep in the first aisle of Sainsburys.?