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OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

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Luckygirl Tue 26-Mar-19 10:35:34

As many of you will know, OH has had PD for many years and is very frail. He only weighs 6.5 stone. Sadly he fell yesterday and has a displaced fracture of his femur. He is not a good candidate for surgery - but there is no choice.

It is a worry that the ward do not have the air mattress that he needs and that he has at home - we had just got on top of the skin problem. He was on a trolley for 12 hours yesterday which will not have helped.

I am waiting to hear when the op will be.

Grandmashe43 Thu 28-Mar-19 22:13:01

sending Loving and caring thoughts to you all xx

grannyqueenie Thu 28-Mar-19 22:14:17

Thinking of you luckygirl as you go into this long hard night. I’m glad you were able to have those bits of conversation, hard as that must have been for you both. flowers

ffinnochio Thu 28-Mar-19 22:14:44

Luckygirl Thinking of you both. flowers

jusnoneed Thu 28-Mar-19 22:15:33

Thinking of you, such a difficult time for everyone.

Bathsheba Thu 28-Mar-19 22:32:25

Oh Luckygirl I'm so sorry to hear what you and your poor DH are going through, such a difficult and worrying time for you flowers

cornergran Thu 28-Mar-19 22:38:30

Thinking of you, your husband and family tonight lucky, there have been some emotional conversations today and a long night ahead. Trust in the care he is being given and please rest as you feel able. Love to you all.

harrigran Thu 28-Mar-19 23:54:56

My thoughts are with you Lucky as I go off to bed. Rest as best you can.

grannyactivist Fri 29-Mar-19 01:23:12

Lucky (((hugs)))

Ginny42 Fri 29-Mar-19 01:32:51

The staff will be working hard for him, so you try to rest. Hugs.

kittylester Fri 29-Mar-19 06:55:03

Morning lucky. How are you this morning? How has DH been overnight? ((((Hugs))))

Susan56 Fri 29-Mar-19 07:10:34

Lucky thinking of you both?

grannyactivist Fri 29-Mar-19 08:43:23

Lucky, thinking of you here too, as I imagine many of us on GN have been.

Cold Fri 29-Mar-19 09:17:38

Thinking of you and OH - hope he is improving flowersflowersflowers

Luckygirl Fri 29-Mar-19 09:26:15

Thank you all so much for your kind messages. I am about to ring hospital to see how he is now; and then will take it from there.

Charleygirl5 Fri 29-Mar-19 09:51:16

Luckygirl now that his now stabilised femur has been pinned and plated so he should feel marginally more comfortable with hopefully only the immediate post-op pain with which to contend.

Please, please look after yourself.

Luckygirl Fri 29-Mar-19 10:14:26

Thanks Charley - they have replaced his hip completely as it was a displaced fracture within the capsule. Bizarrely when he fell I did not think he had broken anything as at that point he was not in much pain. We were contemplating how we might get him off the floor when he said (he was a doctor) that one leg was shorter and he thought he had fractured his femur, so asked for an ambulance.

Later that day it really did start to hurt, but I am hoping that it might be a bit less painful now the the op is done with. They are only giving him tiny doses of painkillers as he is so small and frail.

grannyactivist Fri 29-Mar-19 10:38:05

Thanks for the update Lucky. I hope you managed to get some sleep and are feeling less battle weary this morning. The practical stuff is sometimes easy compared to the emotional exhaustion that develops over time - and you've been in the thick of it for a long time now.

Lona Fri 29-Mar-19 11:08:47

Lucky you must be exhausted but don't ever doubt that you've been a good carer. Your love for your dh has always been obvious.
Sending best wishes for your husband, look after yourself too and do
let your dds give their love and support.
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Jalima1108 Fri 29-Mar-19 11:11:23

Best wishes to you both Luckygirl.
I'm pleased that the operation went well and hope that he is not in too much pain now.
Do take care of yourself too - and try to accept any help that is offered.

flowers

Luckygirl Fri 29-Mar-19 11:13:14

Thank you for the kind words.

I am extraordinarily exhausted - I think it is the emotional energy. Lovely DDs are feeding me and chauffeuring me.

Charleygirl5 Fri 29-Mar-19 11:26:32

Luckygirl the only way now is up and hopefully he will feel better each day. The practical side will be difficult because if he now has a THR he will not be able to lie on either side for 6 weeks. I wonder if the staff will attempt to stand him today or if he is too weak.

So pleased to hear that your daughters are taking care of you. You must be strong for the time he is discharged. I would think he will stay in longer because his femoral muscles will be weak. At least he has the knowledge of what he can and cannot do.

GabriellaG54 Fri 29-Mar-19 20:39:37

I hope your OH's recovery is still going well and you are feeling more optimistic and rested.
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Luckygirl Fri 29-Mar-19 20:44:58

He has been asleep most of the day and could not be roused for his tea. I have just come from the hospital and again he was difficult to rouse. But I think the "Old OH" is still intact as he did say one or two lucid things: .....
- I asked if he was in pain and he said: "Only when those two harpies arrive and lug me about" - I assume he meant the nurses.
- "I wish I could put my hands on your body" - I do hope he is not saying that to the nurses!
- when someone was trying to take his temp under his arm he said: "What are you doing? It is most uncomfortable. I really wish you wouldn't."

MawBroon Fri 29-Mar-19 20:49:03

Strange method of taking his temperature!?
I thought everybody used the instant thingy in the ear method. Much more hygienic.
But glad his spirit is intact smile

Baggs Fri 29-Mar-19 20:55:53

I hope you sleep better tonight flowers