OH has fractured femur - not a good situation

Oh dear, Luckygirl, that is not good at all.
DH's friend was in hospital and not really being cared for (although he would not have a word said against the staff) and now has been moved to the local hospital which seems to be an interim between the main hospital and home or a care home. It is so much better there and the nurses do have more time to attend to the patients' needs, along with physiotherapists etc.
Do you have a community hospital with similar facilities near you that your DH could be moved to fairly soon?

Please take care of yourself too.

We do have a suitable hospital but they will not move him there till he is off antibiotics, oxygen, drip, catheter. I can't wait for him to be moved.

I have had a long sleep and feel better to face the fray.

Thank you all for your support.

Like charleygirl, I too am shocked at the lack of personal care for your OH, lucky. The hospital must be very understaffed if such basic nursing is not happening. Perhaps you should make a formal complaint to hospital management.

I'm so sorry it is like this. You should not be wearing yourself out. I really hope you can get more nursing help very soon xx

lucky if things don’t improve please talk with PALS, usually very tactfully helpful.

Just what I was going to say corner.

Hope you are ok today, lucky.

Lucky, just wanted to check in and say hello.

Hope things are better today Luckygirl.

Luckygirl, hope your DH is getting stronger and that conditions are also improving.

That’s so depressing to read, Lucky. He shouldn’t be allowed to sit and lie in stained clothing and surely a basic wash is essential to maintain good hygiene. How long would it take? Busy or not I would be inclined to bring it to the attention of the CE, or the department manager. The poor NHS is in dire straits and while the professional service is wonderful the support system often leaves a lot to be desired.

I have just spent the lunch time with him and he is out in a chair at last - they used a hoist. Catheter and oxygen are out now; just one more bag of fluid and hopefully the drip will come down too. He is in better spirits and not confused; no delusions so far when I was there.

He is quite dozy - but is rational and not in too much pain thankfully. Crazy guy on next bed has stopped bellowing thank goodness!

He still looks clean from my wash and shave last night. I will make sure I keep on top of that.

Sounds a brighter situation. Poor thing though. It's so awful having to share with such a noisy nieghbour and with no escape. I bet a decent night's sleep would be hard to achieve in that ward. I hope he can be moved somewhere quieter and with less overworked staff.

Please lucky washing and changing his clothes are basic nursing care. You must say something because pressure sores are a real problem and even more so there if he is not receiving the care he requires.

I would also ask the staff if they would like to be fed cold, congealed food- I thought not.

I know I keep nagging and I do apologise but you have to look after yourself- you will be of little use to anybody when the men in white coats visit.

As he has had major surgery it is the job of the physio, not the ward staff to stand him and walk him at least once. I am well aware of his weight and how weak his muscles are. He should be seen by a physio daily.

Is he on an orthopaedic ward? If not why not?

Good news that he is making some progress Lucky, and been out of bed, better for his chest, and morale am sure. Only physios were allowed to hoist my mother when she was in. Visiting can be exhausting and emotionally tiring without having to be alert that basic care and treatment is being carried out. You need time for yourself to recuperate.

Good news on your Other Half's progress Lucky things are sounding more positive now.
Onward and upward. Rest when you can and look after yourself as well.

Excellent news Lucky, onwards and forwards- but look after yourself please. x j

Dear Lucky, one thing to try to feed him would be live yogourt, especially as he is on antibiotics. All the best to you both.

Some improvement then, Lucky. Hopefully he will soon be able to be moved and then the pressure on you ought to be slightly relieved.

Lucky just wanted to send you love through the ether. What a very difficult, worrying and stressful time you have had.

No one could have done more. Your OH is a very lucky man to have you, and I am glad he is making progress but your caring load is going to be very difficult - even more difficult - for some time. I am so glad your daughters are supporting you but I do hope you can switch off and look after yourself too. The emotional, physical and mental strain of it all must be taking its toll. Do rest when you can.

You are a star. Some flowers for you

PS: You know your user name isn't very appropriate, don't you. x

Well Lucky, things seem to be getting a little better each day so fingers crossed he continues to make progress. It's easy to forget that you need to take care of yourself too, so please take notice of everyone urging you to get some rest when you can. xx

Morning lucky!

Morning kitty - thanks for the tea.

No word from hospital so that is good news. My DD is going in this morning with wee GS; and I will be there this afternoon. If he is reasonably stable I hope to shoot off to choir this evening - I feel the need for some normality. And when I go in the evenings he is mostly asleep. I will wait and see how things are.

Encouraging news! Hope the improvement continues and that he is moved as soon as possible.

Glad to hear better news lucky. I hope you’re able to go and sing your heart out this evening, it’ll do you a power of good. x

I second that grannyqueenie!

Just what you need Lucky.