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Jaffacake you need to speak to your doctor.

Flutterbyl I haven’t taken it but perhaps one of our friends have. GN is not an U.K. only forum . Hope today is going ok
for you x

Anniebach Tue 08-Oct-19 21:38:13 I don't use distraction games but I do recite my times tables! Yes, I know it sounds daft but it means just a little concentration but not too much. You would be surprised at how many times my mind wanders and I have to go back to the beginning of whichever table. If I get through them all without going to sleep I give in and read my kindle.

I just wonder if you were really 'holding back the tears' or if you were too ill to cry? When I was really ill I couldn't feel any kind of emotion which is why I wonder. My Consultant told me I wouldn't feel better if I won the lottery and I think he was right. Not that I was ill for financial reasons!

Jaffa I haven't been in your situation but I do know that immediately after a bad thing happens we lose our perspective. 24 hours later it begins to come back so I hope you will feel improved a little tomorrow. Only guessing but losing the will to live can be because life is hitting us hard and we can't see a way through. There usually is a way but we just can't see it. Do find someone understanding to talk to face to face if you feel you can, otherwise stay on here and share your feeling with the kind people on this thread. It will help.

Hi all x

How is everyone?

Tomorrow is World Mental Health Day, I have been thinking
today how some things have improved since I first had problems. Now it is spoken of which is good, doctors do acknowledge it now and there is talking therapy but long waiting time for appointments.

I am reading ‘The Poetry Pharmacy’, heard the author interviewed and bought it .

jaffa I had a friend who felt the same way you describe after an epilepsy attack. I think it could well be shock. I would see your GP.
nonnie so sorry I didn’t see your message til now. Hope whatever it was that you were tackling was ok. The Black Dog gang are always in my prayers.
Hello annie and everyone. Hope you are all ok. Sleep well all x

Thank you to the people who kindly commented on my post. I will go and see the G p and discuss shock reactions to trauma. Last night was horrible never felt so lost with no one to talk to. In the end I phoned Samaritans at 2 in the morning and cried down the phone. It helped and today no more tears and more focused on recovery. When you go through resus in hospital nobody asks about your feelings afterwards,guess everyone is satisfied you survived. Wonder if this is common after resus to not want to be alive,or maybe just trying to process it.

Jaffacake bless you it’s a big thing to have to process. You have had a nasty experience, it will pass give your self some time don’t be so hard on yourself. Baby steps I think is needed. New day tomorrow..

Good night all sleep well ?

Jaffa so glad you cried, probably did you good. Good luck with the GP but please bear in mind that the first time may not be good enough. Must be hard for a GP to understand how bad things are on only one appointment because they will be getting lots of people coming in being anxious or depressed which perhaps it is not very serious. Repeated visits will clarify things.

Thanks Doodle just finished it up to the point that I can and I am shaking and tearful. Next step will go going to see what an expert thinks and can do about it. Sorry to be so vague, I don't want to be recognised.

On World Mental Health Day l just wanted to post this for all to read.

We have often mentioned Dr Claire Weekes here. On one of the nearly blank pages near the inside of the cover of her lengandary book - Self Help For Your Nerves Dr Weekes includes a quote from a W. R. Houston as follows

"Many of those who suffer from nervousness are people of fine sensibilities, of delicate regard for honour, endowed with a feeling of duty and obligation. Their nerves have tricked them, misled them."

I do like this quote and let us all take heart from it.
Take care everyone.
Dawn

Evening all how has everyone’s day been.
Dawn brilliant quote yes let us take heart from it..

Thanks a mil Joce.
Dawn x

Dr Weekes was a truly amazing lady. Acceptance - not at all easy but this as helped lots of people. I hope it continues to do so.
Thanks for the quote Dawn.

nonnie you don’t have to explain anything here. We all understand those awful feelings and we all have different reasons for feeling as we do. We support each other anyway. Hope you are ok.
Thanks for the quote Dawn
jaffa glad you spoke to someone. I am sure it is shock you are going through.

Hello annie and all. Hope you are all ok x

Hi all x

jaffa just a thought , you had a terrible shock which left you
traumatised. Could that feeling of not wanting to be alive be
fear of being alive because of the shock ?. x

nonnie I am holding you in my thoughts and prayers x

Dawn thank you for the quote, it’s so true x

flutterby how are things ? x

Doodle hello my love x

Joce keep it up and enjoy x

Still having flashbacks, frightened to eat,can't sleep. Anaphylaxis is terrifying and I can't settle. No g p appt till next week. Family coming tomorrow but just don't understand ,mum you got rescusitated,you survived. What can I do ?

Hi Jaffacake
You have been through so much. Know that this will pass. Could you try and plan to do one nice thing for yourself for the next three days for you or with someone else.

Often when we feel not the best that we forget that NATURE, art and music are also available to us to flip a switch for us.

You can and will recover Jaffa fully. Sometimes it is about belief in that.

Take care and sleep well tonight.
Dawn x

Goodnight everyone and sleep well tonight. We all did the best we could today.
Dawn x

Dawn22 Thu 10-Oct-19 17:40:33 Thanks. You might all be interested in the title of a very good book by a renowned psychiatrist Dr Tim Cantoper - Depression the Curse of the Strong.

Doodle Thu 10-Oct-19 21:04:04 Thanks

Anniebach Thu 10-Oct-19 21:24:36 thanks to you too

Jaffacake2 Thu 10-Oct-19 21:33:51 don't push yourself, it was a very traumatic experience. I don't expect my family to understand, how can they? I'm sure they are just so pleased you survived, please don't expect too much of them. My family do their best but they cannot possibly know how I feel. Be kind to yourself as well as them.

Evening all hope all is well with everyone.. how has everyone’s day been?
Hi Annie how are you doing ?

Not posted here before ? can’t take more bad news 4 bereavements in 3 weeks. 1 on palliative care. 2 recently diagnosed with possible terminal prognosis
1 stress and anxiety. All family and very close friends

Sorry put my ?face back tomorrow

Good morning my lovely friends xx hope you have a good day. I appear to have my "eye shingles" back. Clearly stressed. Lovely day at work yesterday i worked with the guy who makes me laugh all day. Other girl was sick so we had free range to quote funny film lines and look at memes it was great.

then the drive home down the roads I hate..xxx

Good morning all.
Nanny it’s so good to laugh it really give you a good lift I think. It’s so good to hear that someone has had a good day.
I am trying to sort my little sewing/ hobby room out (can’t move) really must finish one job at a time haha.
Wishing all a lovely peaceful pleasant weekend. ?

Good morning caring friends. Having few family problems well family having problems and me worrying about them.
Do you ever feel that you start to climb that ladder and getting near the top and then WHAM! Problems again and you slip down few steps. When this keeps happening it deflates you. Just want a little while without stress and worrying. Is this possible I ask. Also fallen out with my other half as he is soooo grumpy and short tempered. Can’t be bothered with it.
Sorry for rant. Wishing you all a good day.

SisterAct Fri 11-Oct-19 20:09:33 That is simply too much to cope with. I can't help just sending you sympathy and suggesting you be kind to yourself.

nanny2507 Sat 12-Oct-19 08:01:06 Sorry to hear about your eye but sounds like overall it wasn't a bad day. Laughs are always good.

hen the drive home down the roads I hate..xxx

Add comment | Report | Private message Joce345 Sat 12-Oct-19 09:03:24 one task at a time and when complete, no matter how bad you are feeling you will have the satisfaction of having done it.

Flutterby1 Sat 12-Oct-19 09:28:26 we are responsible for everyone's wellbeing when they are young and hard to stop when they are older

dreary old day, anybody want to chat, drop me a message.

Sorry everyone for the mess of my post yesterday. I was clearly not in a good place.