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Doodle Wed 09-Jun-21 22:03:08

Borrowing the wording from Anniebach, this thread is for the
support, understanding and sharing of all mental health troubles.

Anniebach Sat 28-Aug-21 16:10:14

Hi all x

Doodle still not had new iPad, have to wait for my mini
tornado to come to see me and set a new one up, I haven’t the
foggiest how to do it.

Please may I ask all ? Tuesday afternoon send up a prayer, cross
your fingers, do a dance naked on your lawn, what ever you do
do it for me, a chap from council and a builder are coming to
see me to discuss me having access to front and back gardens
in wheelchair.

Doodle Sat 28-Aug-21 21:22:18

I will start praying now Annie. Not sure about dancing naked in the garden I wouldn’t want to frighten the neighbours.
Please let it be positive news this time. Are your eyes any better today?

Anniebach Sun 29-Aug-21 10:38:00

Hi all x

How is everyone? hope you are going out or having family visit .

Doodle my eyes still red but not as red as in the week.

BlueSky how are you and your husband ?

Joyce we are here for you x

BlueSky Sun 29-Aug-21 10:50:31

Morning all x Annie thanks for asking. We are not feeling too good, thought we would be by now, end of self isolation tomorrow but nowhere near well. Luckily we are retired, I think it’s going to be much longer than 10 days. Feeling gloomy as everybody is out and about, fb is full of people away, we don’t even mix and that’s what we get. Sorry for the rant. Have a good day all x

Anniebach Sun 29-Aug-21 11:42:05

BlueSky you are not ranting, you have taken much care yet
somehow caught the wretched virus.

Reading what others are doing / going ? I can understand how
you feel. On the good morning thread I should put -
‘Not going anywhere, not doing anything, not seeing anyone!

It will pass my love , you post as often as you want x

Nonnie Sun 29-Aug-21 12:21:26

Annie will be praying for you, on my list. Time for some good news.

BlueSky rant away, it might help. Just, please, take it steady, do as little as possible until you are well.

Friend stayed again last night, feeling privileged she chose us in her hour of need.

In a bad way today. DS is away for the weekend and DiL told me he was outside his hotel in the early hours, staunching the blood of a stranger who had been stabbed, said it was taking too long for the ambulance. It could have been him or one of the friends he is with. Just want all my family to come here, be safe and never leave. Losing one suddenly was horrendous, how can I protect the rest?
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BlueSky Sun 29-Aug-21 12:26:31

Annie thanks I’m not that bothered about not going out really. Just amazed that two jabs plus being cautious didn’t stop it. I do hope the powers to be will be finally able to help you Annie I’ll keep my fingers crossed, don’t think I’ll have the energy to dance naked on the lawn!
Take care x cupcakebrew

BlueSky Sun 29-Aug-21 12:37:26

Nonnie sorry posted before reading your post. How awful! Feel so powerless when thinking about what could happen to our loved ones x

Joce345 Sun 29-Aug-21 14:41:53

Hello all, Annie I will be praying for you and I will, has no one else will ,dance naked in the garden that will definitely shock and hopefully quieten the neighbours ?????...

Nonnie so sorry to hear about your sons experience, we never stop worrying about them, stay strong..

Bluesky you need to look after you.. take it steady it does take time to get back on your feet sending you a hug x

Doodle hope you are ok, how’s the trousers coming on?

Hopefully we can all keep plodding on, have a good peaceful weekend all..?

Scaredycat Sun 29-Aug-21 15:56:35

Afternoon all
Nonnie- oh your poor son what a horrible experience for him. Poor you too all those horrible “what ifs” rushing through your head. He,s safe though and thanks to him someone else is hopefully safe too. You must be so proud of him.
Yes if only we could keep our families close as you say and keep them safe.
Sorry you have lost a friend but the words spoken at the funeral are so true- we must thank people when we can and tell them we love them as well.
Your friend must be so grateful she has you looking out for her. Hopefully she,ll have no more trouble when she goes home.
Annie - thank you for that lovely new name - I have a long way to go but thank you for giving me courage.
I have to take my new glasses back again as they are too tight and hurt behind my ears - they,ll be fed up with me soon.
Hope MT can come and see you soon .
Everything will be crossed for you Tuesday maybe a bit of fully clothed dancing as I don’t want to traumatise the neighbours besides it’s too cold!! . I hope this visit brings good news so you can at last get into your garden.
Doodle - yes I do wear insole things and now have lovely comfortable feet thanks to lovely young podiatrist.?
Glad you have warm weather it’s not very warm here . We should have had a BBQ at my DD last evening but we ate indoors after my poor SiL cooked in the drizzle!!
Joce - don’t forget to take some time for yourself and rest in between all your busy times.
BlueSky- I,m sorry you still feel so poorly and understand completely how you feel after being so careful.Hope you,ll soon feel stronger- rest and ,if you can, eat nice things to keep up your strength. Or have you lost your sense of taste too? Xx
Have a pleasant evening allxxx

Doodle Sun 29-Aug-21 19:44:07

Annie good to hear your eyes are a little better. I wonder what it was on the glasses that could have caused it.
No walk today. Been to the garden centre to buy some stones for putting on our plant pots. Had a wander round while we were there. Hardly anyone in the place. So unlike a usual bank holiday weekend.
Not been as warm as I’d hoped but at least it was dry.
Not seeing anyone this weekend. Hope to do so in a week or so.
bluesky I’m sorry you are both still under par. I hope you are feeling a little bit better though. We are not mixing either. Are you able to cook and look after yourselves ok?
Nonnie how awful for your son and DIL. No wonder you are upset. Unfortunately, we can’t always protect those we love. It was good of your son to help a stranger.
Joce make sure it’s a warm night, we wouldn’t want you to get a chill ? Not making any progress with the trousers. DH and I are so slow these days. By the time we get up, washed and dressed and have breakfast, it’s lunchtime ?. We tend to saunter through the day. We both enjoy reading and spend far too long with books to get any real work done.
scaredycat you do have courage. You get through each day.
Please persist with your glasses. If they don’t feel right you won’t be happy wearing them and they cost so much.
Hope you had a nice evening with your family.
Have a good weekend all x

BlueSky Sun 29-Aug-21 20:35:13

Yes we are able to look after ourselves, not that we want much to eat at all, we take it in turns when one feels slightly better than the other, mainly soups, toast, ice cream and cups of tea. No weirdly I haven’t lost my sense of smell and taste while DH has, I heard of many others with this peculiar symptoms. Thanks everybody for your good wishes, you are very kind x

Anniebach Mon 30-Aug-21 11:54:29

Hi all x

How is everyone today ?

Didn’t speak of this last week but will now because they are
coming to see about the doors tomorrow.

The lady next door caused problems again, two police cars ,
police were armed , she tends to wield a knife !

Am now thinking - do I want to go out in my garden,only a wooden fence between us and a small gate.

The bungalows use to have open backs no separate gardens but
before I moved here the tenants were allowed to fence their gardens of but a gate had to be fitted between each garden for
a fire escape. I feel guilty because I had the gate between us tied.she can get through to the neighbour the other side of her
and she does, poor man, she hammers on his back door.

Doodle Mon 30-Aug-21 12:56:02

Annie first things first. Let’s get the doors sorted so you can get in and out. Do you have one of those alarm systems round your neck or wrist which you can use if you need help (got a feeling I’ve asked you this before but have forgotten the answer)
It is a cause for concern and I can understand your worries but I sincerely hope you are safe in your garden. You need to get out there front and back and be with your dogs and enjoy your plants. I’m sure the agoraphobia is playing on your mind now the possibility of getting out may be getting closer.
Keep strong Annie we are with you and so want for you to be able to get out. x
bluesky hope you and your DH are starting to improve.
A very grey and overcast day here today and quite chilly. May go for a walk later. Such a shame for the people out on a trip for bank holiday.
Have a good day all x

Anniebach Mon 30-Aug-21 18:24:34

Doodle yes I have an alarm system but it only works in the bungalow.

Yes the agoraphobia is also niggling , I have been in the living room 24 hours for 7 months .

The woman next door does ,when she has an upset, frightens me, after the police have left she is on her own. The police were at Catherine’s home several hours before she went to the
bridge, we were not allowed to know why, they said it was not
related ! Not that she had armed police turning up or paying regular visits. I know I cannot and should not get involved
with her but she has a mental illness and an alcohol dependency.

Anyway you are so right, first things first, the doors x

Doodle Mon 30-Aug-21 19:47:51

I am so sorry the police won’t tell you why they were in contact with Catherine. It must be upsetting not to know what was going on. Does your SIL know? I would have thought they could tell him.
Could you not get one of the alarms that you hang round you neck. My dear SIL had one. Although she could get around quite well I was always afraid of her falling in the garden and not being heard. We tested hers by her going to the end of her garden and pressing it and it did make contact with the call centre via the base in her house.
I am still praying that tomorrow there will be a solution found to the problem with the ramps and your doors. Hope all goes well. x

Anniebach Mon 30-Aug-21 21:37:47

Doodle we raised the question at the inquest, the police had reported the visit and the official statement was - no connection with her death , so no more questions were allowed.

Good idea, I will try the alarm when I am at the bottom of the garden, I was told by someone they only work in the house,it is
one to wear around neck.

Hope it’s warm and dry tomorrow, Joyce will be dancing naked
on her lawn ? x

Joce345 Mon 30-Aug-21 22:06:54

Yes Annie I will dance for you tomorrow, be it warm or cold I will dance for you hope it’s helps Annie... was there a time for me to dance or will we wait for a result?
Doodle my dmi had one and hers worked if she was down the garden hopefully yours will Annie.
Wishing you all a peaceful night sleep ?

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 31-Aug-21 08:22:42

Morning all. I’ve just been catching up. Annie I daren’t dance naked in my back garden or I will frighten the horses (in the field behind us)! However I have asked God to do His very best for you today, also to get your specs sorted out. I hope your eyes are back to normal now. I’ve never heard of that sort of reaction to new glasses.
How very unsettling having your problem neighbour, and the bad memories the police visits bring back. I wonder if having a word with the police might get anything done to help her such as being sectioned? It’s easy for me to say but try not to worry, your gate is secure but could your son in law perhaps make it all the more so with a padlocked chain for extra peace of mind?
Hope everyone has a good day.

Joce345 Tue 31-Aug-21 10:08:53

Morning all.. just sat in a bit of a mess anxiety sky high this morning errr horrible I do hope it’s only me that’s feeling like it..
Annie fingers crossed for you hope all goes well today.. just think of me dancing ? for you. X

Have a good day everyone

Ellie Anne Tue 31-Aug-21 11:24:09

Annie am praying that you get the help you need. But it’s chilly in Yorkshire so naked dancing is out of the question.
Poorly puss seems to be improving . She is on quite a bit of medication which will be a problem when daughter is at work and I’m not here. But sometimes she can work from home.
One of my crowns came out this morning. Was really upset but went to the chemist and got a temporary repair kit. Not got much faith in it though.
Now my stomach is churning and am shaky because I have to phone my dentist and ask for help but explain I am not there at the moment.
I think I will go home on Thursday but a bit of me doesn’t want to. I want to see my grandchildren and my friends but the stress at home gets to me
But when daughter is not working she spends most of the time in her room and goes to bed early. Her illness and pressure of work make her really tired. She’s never been a talker anyway
She doesn’thave a tv either but I can watch stuff on my I pad.
Maybe I should just spend the rest of my life driving up and down the motorway and not living in either place.!!!

Anniebach Tue 31-Aug-21 11:57:53

Hi all x

Joyce sorry your anxiety is high , are you still seeing the hypnotherapist? x

Ellie Anne you did the drive, the cat is recovering , sorry about dentist. A motor home sound the answer ! Are you
more content being on your own ? I think you are my love x

GSM I live in a Cul de sac, 18 bungalows for the elderly and
disabled, no through traffic so very quiet, the residents find the
disturbances next door to me very, very annoying, doesn’t happen weekly, just suddenly flairs up, she was like it long
before I moved here. There has been efforts to have her moved
but she was moved here because the same happened in her previous place of residence. There is nowhere left to move her
to. She has been in a psychiatric hospital but discharged herself, she has an alcohol problem too.

I can’t put a lock on the gate, it’s a fire escape for the row, my bungalow is at the end.

Right my lovely friends, I am geared up waiting for the council
visit. Am being positive, making plans for returning to gardening when I can get out in the wheelchair.

Will let you know the outcome of their visit, thank you all x

Anniebach Tue 31-Aug-21 18:29:15

I am having two new doors, thank you all x ?

Joce345 Tue 31-Aug-21 18:43:54

Annie soooo pleased I knew my dance would do the trick ??

rafichagran Tue 31-Aug-21 19:16:58

So pleased the doors are sorted for you Annie

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