'Nerves'

I hesitate to contribute to a thread like this, where I have no experience and know that the OP is so open to having tried everything,

But, here goes. Hasn't Cognitive Behavioural Therapy been developed specifically to help people break out of set thinking patterns like those that beset the OP. I understand that the therapy is used for people suffering from depression for just that reason.

I can't thank you all enough for your kind, understanding posts. It has helped.

Hello again Kate
What is your GP like? I do think that you need to talk with a doctor.
Have you ever tried antidepressants?

I can give you details of my therapist if you would like.
I definitely think that you need some quality talking therapy.
PM me if you would like to.

So sorry Kate1949. I do hope some of the excellent advice above will help you. Sending very warm wishes for you to feel better very soon.
Have you tried Mindfullness? On another thread recently I said how much it has helped me to stay calmer.

There is actually a charity for those with Essential Tremor, and the website is very interesting. I think most of us tremble a bit as we age, and I, too, find it embarrassing when the cup begins to spill in the saucer! But please do strive to continue going out into difficult situations, and I am sure the very helpful advice on the previous pages will reassure you. Good luck with whichever avenue you decide to explore. Do you remember some children were described as being "highly strung" in years gone by, so many of us have moments of panic and anxiety, but I always try to remember "today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday". sunshine

Thanks everyone. I'll get there!

For all those with essential tremor (like my DH) I will tell the following story. My DH was very embarrassed about his tremor and did all he could to hide it although I always said it didn’t bother me. We were queuing in a supermarket one day and the chap in front of us was having a lovely conversation with the lady on the tills. There was lots of laughter and funny comments. The man himself shook from head to toe. Quite violently and his limbs were jerking all the time. I said to DH if that man with all his problems can continue trying to live a normal life then you should be able to as well. Since them my DH has had a complete turn around. He now tells people he has a tremor and can’t hold things. It is nothing to be ashamed of it is just another health problem.

I am not a child psychologist, It seems to me that you suffers from complex ptsd because of trauma you experienced as a child.

Did you ever confront your mother as to why on earth she agreed to the dentist taking out all your teeth at 11 years old? Did she even seek a second dentist opinion? It seems a cruel thing to do to a child.

I went to a primary school with a dental practice attached to the school, up to 11 years old I have fillings done but never have any teeth extractions. Can you even grow a new set of teeth at 11 years old?

If you suffers from essential tremor, how about meeting other people at a cafe and not buy any drink just food.

I grew up with a schizophrenic mother, she lost her first 4 children and it pushed her over the edge, there was no abuse just chaos.

My husband, on the other hand, is a son of an alcoholic and a scapegoat in his family. He tried to take his own life in his forties, this happened before I met him and on hindsight, could benefit from some kind of therapy.

I'm sorry for what you went through. I don't have essential tremor. It's nerves and anxiety. No I never confronted my mother. She was downtrodden and abused. She would never question people she considered to be in authority - dentists, doctors etc. Yes it was cruel. To say it's been hard, especially in my teenage years, together with the chaos and violence in the house, would be an understatement.
Just to add, I realise that there would be other children who this happened to not just me. Then to lose all my hair in the last few years is doubly cruel. However, it is what it is and if the only thing I've ended up with is shaky hands then I suppose I've done well!

Sweetheart you have been left with an awful legacy from an abusive and frightening childhood. Your mind and feelings take you back to that awful time and your heart breaks for that child who was. You know you can’t return to help her and the angst you feel is for that girl. You will cry just remembering what was done to her and how scared she was.
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Yes Urms. Thank you. At least I survived it. Reading about some of the cases recently, including Sebastian this week, I should consider myself lucky.

Hello again Kate
Please look into Compassion Focused Therapy.
I think that it would be extremely relevant to you.
You need to be kind to yourself, and your inner child.
My therapist recommended it to me

The Compassionate Mind (Compassion Focused Therapy) amzn.eu/d/fl0CnDd

This tooThe Compassionate Mind Approach to Recovering from Trauma: Series editor, Paul Gilbert: Using Compassion Focused Therapy amzn.eu/d/7z28gvG

Thank you Fanny. I'll take a look.

You’re welcome, please do ♥️

Anyone waken up soaking wet with sweating. The last few weeks have been awful. It's not the weather or menapause. Well past that,.!!! But have been having migraines , and high BP. I know I am anxious. But this is new ,Waken about 3 times a night . Worried

Hi Muffintop - I’m sure you’ll get lots of comments if you start a new thread.

Leonora has a thread about a similar post-menopause problem.