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Worried about DH. His fluid retention is causing his legs to swell and he’s coughing a lot. GP first thing Monday.
Sweetpeasue I’m not sure I understand why they’ve cancelled your CT scan. I would have thought having the pain was more reason to have it than not. Any idea when you get to see that other gynae consultant?
Have you had your scan now? How did it go?
HVDY how do your girls feel about moving again. They haven’t been there that long. Mind you they might enjoy being closer to school. Has the bullying died down now? I hope they’re ok.
Wyllow I hope all went well at the gym and there was no sign of Ex. Sorry you feel lonely. With the CFS it must limit what you are able to do and make you less confident in making plans with others. Hope you enjoy Quakers tomorrow. Will there be many people there?
Scaredycat I hope you’re taking it easy this weekend. Are you feeling very poorly? What with that and the AF you’ve got a lot to deal with at the moment. Any news of your sister?
I propose a group hug for all on BD. I think we need it.

SweetpeaSue I hope all went well with the scan. Having to drink a lot of water and then have the probe pressed hard onto your body isn't nice, and it's a huge relief when they allow you to go for a wee .

ScaredyCat Hope you'll feel a bit better after a rest. My husbnad doesn't like anything healthy or "foreign" (but he loves curries). The vegetables Son2 is growing are from a kit I got him from Amazon. He's grown herbs and fruits from those kits too. I've got him a cheese-making kit (it makes 27 different types!) for one of his birthday presents next Monday.

Doodle Oh, that doesn't sound good. All those tablets your DH takes must, surely, be clashing with each other?

The GDs will be fine about moving, I'm sure. They'll be near to school friends and also their dad's. They seem to just adapt. It'll be a big upheavel for their mum, packing all their things up again. I don't envy her that. She's got 2 1/2 weeks in which to do all that and move.

Doodle Oh no, Im so sorry for you both - - you're having such a bad time. It certainly sounds like he needs a Dr to see him. You need a hug too. I do hope he manages to sleep and you both have a rest. I wish I could suggest something. I will say a prayer for him tonight. I hope his cough isn't worse when he lies down.
Yes have had the CT scan with contrast. Unfortunately nurse 'blew' my vein when she first tried to put needle in hand for cannula.Tried second successfully. Afraid it hurt so much that I nearly passed out and she had to hold cold wet compress on my head when it was removed. Think we all do need that group hug.
HVDY Dont know why I had to drink all the water as it wasnt ultrasound. I was to sit in this room opposite scanner for 10 mins before she took cannula out. When I nearly fainted she came back with more water in a thick t-stained mug and told to take small sips after mopping my head with soaking paper towels. I was desperate for the loo. She took me back to DH and left me with another jug of water! 🤔 I'ts good your GDs are ok with the moving. Hope your DH is ok and his cough is a little better.

Hope everyone is ok and has a peaceful night.

Joining Doodle in a group hug. Can't do screens for long at the minute. Thinking of you all.

Pops in...

Doodle its really not good with MrD and yes go to GP first thing Monday x

Sweetpeasue quite an ordeal there, I can only hope its productive.

Thinking of the little ones moving, HVDY. Its sad to leave a nice place but being near schools - and therefore friends- might be great for them as they get older. (MY DGC have to be ferried everywhere in cars and always will, not idea)

Wave to nadateturbe

Keep on with "feet up" Scaredycat* and hope Mr S escapes Covid.

Definitely a group hug. Thoughts for those not come in today and just reading.

Its not just the gym - it has thrown a lot of Stuff up and I'm facing a lo of fear what other stuff Ex might do (based on what he's done before).

Better faced up to tho and got Quakers on board more than ever before, my friend was really shocked when I copied her into the last text I got, I don't think she had a real idea. And DS says just come up here if you need to escape but I'd rather not run away as its partly fears and hard to tell what's fear and what's possibly real.

SweetpeaSue Apparently, the organs show up better on any scan when the patient has got a full bladder. How long until you get the results? If that doesn't show up anything to explain the trouble you keep having, will an MRI then be done?

Wyllow I think IF your ex starts with any more threats, you ought to call the police. You can't and shouldn't live in fear of him any more. My GDs will be happier living nearer to their schools. The eldest (and her other sister) will be able to walk to school and back. Hope your Quakers meeting goes well.

Doodle Hope your night wasn't so disturbed.

nadateturbe, Candy, EllieAnne, ScraedyCat, and all other BDers - hope you all manage to have a decent day.

nadateturbe

Yes HVDY calling the police is my fall back if one more thing happens. I have a dossier on my computer with enough material to be taken seriously, its not wanting to have to re visit stuff. Also I can get (anyone can) a free half hour with a solcitor - the Domestic Abuse people have some).

Glad the grandkids will like it, at those ages living close to friends was so important.

Best days possible all. A bit of sun might help - its been over a week.

Another fun night of walking round the lounge. DH had terrible cough and couldn’t settle. We had breakfast at 6. He’s a bit better now.
HVDY that’s a novel idea of a present for your son. He obviously enjoyed the other kits you bought him.
I’m glad the girls are moving closer to their dad and school. That will make life easier for them all.
Sweetpeasue I hate those tests where you have to hold your water. The canular incident sound painful. Hope you are ok now. Do you know when you’ll get the results?
nadateturbe hello there. Hope you are doing ok.
Wyllow I can’t imagine what it’s like to be in your position but it does sound frightening and worrying. I hope you are safe where you live and have neighbours nearby. Nice of your son to offer you somewhere to go. I’m glad you have friends within the Quakers who know what you’re going through too.
I’m glad you’re prepared to take things further if necessary. He shouldn’t be allowed to get away with causing you so much stress.

Wyllow Its good that you have lots of proof about your ex's appalling behaviour on computer. It was nice of your son to assure you that you could go there and that must make you feel loved and cared about which is exactly what you need right now. Its just terrible for you to feel so afraid. I hope you saw your Quaker friend today. You need all the support
you can get.
HVDY Hope you're having a decent weekend. I don't think I'll be sent for MRI as I had one after the op in September though that was for uterus.On the report it mentioned a noduleabove the bladder that's 'most likely benign' so I'll let urologist know later this month when Ive an appt.
Doodle Oh no, not again. Its so cruel and you both must be desperate for a break from it all.It must ne exhausting. I hope you can get some help tomorrow about DHs swollen legs but his cough must wake him too. Early breakfast indeed. Everything must be out of sync.
I dont know when I'll get results. I normally ask but I forgot, just wanted to get out of there. I'm really not expecting it to show anything as it didnt a yr ago. I cant understand it. I'm so low today, I was thrown this morning by appearance of fresh blood again. Exactly 3 mths since bleed on 5th December.
Nadateturbe Welcome to the group hug. I hope you're ok but guessing you're in need of a little warmth. Dont worry about not staying long.💐

Went to church and the lady I had problems with was there. It all seems so wrong and I was very uncomfortable throughout the service. I know it should be sorted out but I find her intimately and also know twists things. Any way I was speaking to someone after the service and when I looked over she had gone. On top of the problems at home lately I’m so tense and stressed.
I know so many of the are going through difficult times. Xx

I typed intimidating. Don’t know why it came up wrong

Hello all. Feeling really grotty today and DH has tested positive!!
But good news re my sister there is a chance she may go home this week- I,m nervous for her but I was so worried this might never happen so fingers crossed.
Doodle- oh dear you poor souls - you must both be so tired. Hope you’re near the front of the phone queue.
I,m up for the group hug at least I won’t breathe all over everyone!!
HVDY- A cheese making kit sounds interesting- your son is interested in lots of stuff isn’t he.
There sounds like lots of advantages to the new house for your GDS - in general children aren’t too bothered about surroundings as long as they can see friends etc
SweetPeaSue- oh that was an eventful appointment. It’s torture when you have to drink all that water . I,m so sorry you are now worried about the bleeding but so understandable. Hope you feel better soonxx
Nadateturbe- glad you’re here for a hug.xx
Wyllow- Ah your son is concerned for you- must make you feel very cared for. Your Ex can’t be allowed to behave as he does and get away with it.
Hope you enjoyed your Quakers meeting- good to be surrounded by friends.
EllieAnne- Sorry you felt as you did at church but maybe she hadn’t given you a thought and you were worried for nothing. Glad you have friends to chat to afterwards.
I,m sorry I can’t write anymore I,m so worn out .
Just had an idea shall we have a hug before bedtime- shall we say 9pm?
Love to all those mentioned or not mentioned and those who just readxx

Hello to all, sending love and prayers. Thanks for nice thoughts. xx

Doodle You and your husband can't keep on with all this broken, or lack of sleep. I hope you manage to get through to someone urgently tomorrow.

SweetpeaSue It's probably worth mentioning this nodule above your bladder, to the Urologist. I hope today hasn't been too bad for you.

EllieAnne That unpleasant woman has perhaps been spoken to about her behaviour, seeing as she was ok today. Try not to give her another thought.

ScareduCat Hopefully, your symptoms won't last long. I hope if you have a good night's sleep, you ad your husband will start to feel better.

Hope all other BDers have managed to be ok today x

ScaredyCat I'm waiting for my 9pm hug . Where is everyone?

Hi Hug coming your way!!

Hugs for allxx

. I hope you and your husband feel better very soon x

Evening all. For some reason my eyes are really tired and itchy. Think it must be the tree pollen getting to me …or lack of sleep.
Another fun night.
Sweetpeasue I’m not surprised you’re upset with symptoms starting up again. I have a friend with similar symptoms though she has had a complete hysterectomy. Like you, something went wrong in her op.
Strange really, you want the results to show nothing at the same time you’re desperate for an answer to what’s causing these problems. Thank you, yes hoping I manage to get to GP tomorrow.
Ellie Anne I’m sorry the presence of that lady spoils you’re time in church with worry. Hopefully your paths won’t cross and she will leave you in peace. As you say, you’ve got enough to worry about. Sometimes things just add up, one on top of the other. I hope things get sorted out at home soon and you have one less thing to worry about. I realised you meant intimidating. The spell check thing does some strange things at times.
Scaredycat on no, so sorry your DH has Covid too. You don’t sound at all well and you need someone to look after you.
Some good news at last to lift your spirits. Hearing the news of your sister must have lifted your spirits. Hope she can cope ok when she gets home.
Oops sorry. I’m a bit late for the 9pm group hug. Wait for me 🤗 .
nadateturbe same to you. Thank you for your nice message.
HVDY have you been out for a meal this weekend? Yes I plan to be ready on the phone at 8 sharp. Hope I can get an appointment.
Sorry I was a bit late with the hug but I’m here now.

Evening all,
I came in at just the right time. Thanks for the hug and sending one back to everyone.
Scaredycat I’m glad your DH has a good report off his consultant and hope he’s coping with covid ok. I hope you are feeling better too.
HVDY I hope your GDs cope well with the house move. I’m sure they will. Kids are so resilient. Your son sounds very practically minded and I hope his veggies do well. Can’t beat home grown veggies!
Wyllow I’m sorry you felt sad and lonely. Loneliness isn’t nice but you seem very resilient and determined and I like the fact that you push yourself to go the gym. It’s good you do and not let your ex win. It must be so difficult though. At least your son is supportive and you quite rightly should consider getting the police involved if this goes on. You have every right to feel safe in your home and in your chosen activities.
Sweetpeasue sorry you feel low today. I hope you are feeling better now and that you get your scan results soon. Sounds like you went through it a bit having it and I hope you’ve recovered now.
Doodle I hope DH is ok now and you get an appointment with GP tomorrow. You’re both really going through it at the moment and I feel for you. Wishing you a restful night.
Ellie Anne hope you’ve recovered from seeing that lady now and you are having a restful evening.
nadateturbe good to hear from you.

I had a lovely day on Friday with my friend. At one point, we had a really good laugh and I realised that it had been so long since I had one and it did me good I think. Yesterday, I was out and about shopping when I bumped into another friend so we had a coffee and a really good catch up. It was so nice and I feel uplifted by it. Hope everyone else if ok and wishing everyone a restful night.

Sorry everyone, but a sincere warm and belated hug for you all. ❤️

Candy Its lovely that you had such a good time meeting with friends-yesterday an unexpected one. Im so pleased it has helped you feel better in spirit. Hand isnt painful now thankyou, just a bit bruised. I feel a lot more wary of needles though.
Scaredycat Sorry I was late for hug at 9. I haven't got notifications switched on for emails as I get lots of rubbish. I'm sorry you're feeling really 'grotty' and your DH has now got covid. I do hope it will be short lasting. Wonderful news of your sister coming out of hospital. Try not to worry too much( but we all know how difficult that is).
DoodleI truly hope another fun night is not on the cards. Wouldnt be surprised if your eyes are suffering through lack of sleep. Our calls to surgery start at 8 too. Husband starts repeated calls on mobile and I make rapid repeats on landline till we get through. Hope you get lucky. I was beginning to feel guilty about the Gynaecology referral as Ive been fine in that area, and thought, somehow, it had all settled. If Id cancelled it I'd have regretted it so much but I still havent got date yet.

Take care everyone. Hope you all have untroubled night. Crossed fingers Doodle

Take care all, in tomorrow. things have been OK, just a lot in my brain, nothing new in RL.

Tomorrow mornings supportive hopes for those of you needing badly to get GP help xxx

Doodle I hope you've been able to get through to the GP. We went out for lunch yesterday, just the 2 of us. Indian restaurant tonight, with both sons and their partners, also Son2's friend, as it's son2's birthday (39!).

SweetpeaSue Hope the bleeding has settled down.
Candy6 Glad you had a lovely time with your friends. It does us good to have a laugh when we can.

ScaredyCat Good news about your sister. I expect carers will help, if needed.

Wyllow3 I hope you're feeling less troubled today.

Hope all BDers are ok today. No aqua this morning - I've got to go for a lot of blood tests, then I'll have a mooch round the shops x

Hello all. Another night of waking and walking. Success with getting a phone consultation with our usual Gp. Fortunately, she is well aware of DHs history and understands our concerns about the side effects of his latest drug. We have agreed a plan of action. Stop taking the offending tablet and see if breathing and fluid retention improve at the same time do some blood tests to see if it is anything else. Sensible I think and we will do just that.
Candy laughter is good. They even say that if you try smiling it lifts your spirits even if you have nothing to smile about.
Glad you had a nice time with friends.
Sweetpeasue I must admit we are both quite tired and prone to nodding off in the armchair. Yes I use the two phone approach to getting through to the surgery too.
Glad you didn’t cancel your gynae appointment. Hope you get a date soon.
HVDY hope your son had a happy birthday and you all enjoyed a nice lunch. Have a good afternoon mooching. I wonder if you will buy anything?🤔
Wyllow hope you are ok and had a restful weekend.
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