HVDY estrangement is a living grief . I know how your friend feels. But when your child or children don't want you as their mom it hurts. And if you never see it coming it makes it worse. My son gave me the boot via email. My husband and I didn't raise our children not to face problems they where always able to talk to us about anything . And they still did after he died. I was always their for them . The way my son did it was cruel and cowardly. He was a better man than that. I had a loving and caring son for 32 years. I have know idea where he went or way. For 7 months after I moved here he came every week with his 2 eldest they had lunch with me and usually sent 4 hours here. He told me they got excited when they realised where they were going. They are now 7,5 and their brother is 3 . I knew they where expecting another boy in July 2020 . But I don't know his name or date of birth. As my son sent the email 4 days after he spend hours with me on my birthday. He should have told me to my face I would never see or hear from them ever again. Instead in his email he called me vindictive and manipulative 2 things I have never been .
Luckily I have my daughter and family. My son not only doesn't want me but our side of the family.
The support thread on the estrangement forum saved me and I am no longer alone .
People automatically blame the parents when it's there children who are to blame.
But the pain I feel over my husband dieing hurts far more. I will not let my sin hurt me anymore so I am done . If he wants me he knows where I am. But I will never forgive,or forget what he and my daughter in law have done. And could never trust him again. They think they are perfect parents but they aren't. But I know my 3 grandson's are their world so know they are being well loved and cared for.
Sorry off topic here but I would hate for your friend to think it
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