Black Dog 19

HVDY You are a great mum and Grandmother thats certain.
Oh dear you are having to lead your brother and have so many responsibilities. I think he must value your experience and judgements about things(even if he doesn't say so)
or he wouldn't call and ask advice. You are so valued for your caring abilities or he'd not ask. (if it's any consolation 🙄). Kind of you to offer help.

Doodle hope all goes well in hospital. And you will be home quickly. 💐

* Doodle* I'm glad you are being looked after and hopefully they will get to the bottom of what is wrong with you. Sending lots of love and praying you will be better soon.x

Scaredycat Your cardio appointment sounds like it went quite well, rhe consultant took time with you and answered everything whuch is always reassuring. No terrible problems with your heart. Apart from of course the awful AF, which can't be corrected, and which you are told you just have to live with. I hope it helped you.

Love to all BD's and thoughts for you all and Doodle in hospital xx

ScaredyCat Sorry, I somehow missed your last post. Glad you saw the Cardiologist and that he answered your questions. It's good news that your heart is strong and not damaged. I suppose it will be a case of you doing what you can, and when, and knowing how much you can do. You must already know what makes you feel tired, etc.

It's a dark, drizzly morning here. I don't feel like bothering to do much, but am going to pick up my friend at 11 and we'll go out for lunch somewhere.

Hope ALL BDers, new and old, manage to have a decent day. x

First, can I just say, hello Doodle, in case you are looking. I've been thinking about you. I hope you are comfortable and coping all right. xx

HVDY you made me laugh about going home from the job. I too worked a short time( not as short as you) for our EducationAuthority. I remember when our biro ran out we had to show the empty one before we were given a new one.
Yesterday sounds like a very enjoyable day with your darling GC, if a bit tiring. I love when they are young and play games with you. I do not know how you are out for lunch today. I'm amazed. Your chicken meal sounded lovely. I think you could do Come Dine with Me.
Sweatpeasue put it well. I think your brother really depends on you. He doesn't sound very capable. What happened with your SiL? Has she moved?
Scaredycat I'm glad your sister is doing well, good news indeed.
"Strong heart,...negligible increase", those words must have been very reassuring.
I would very happily join you at Sweetpeasue's coffee and cake afternoon 🍰 🧁.

I've been to the hairdressers and shops to look for a cream sweater to wear with new khaki trousers. Hope I haven't overdone it, want to make art tomorrow. A lady who came in said loudly to her friend, they've got all the Christmas s**t in ffs. I was speechless.

I hope everyone on BD is having the best day possible. Wyllow3 thinking about you x

nadateturbe I've had somewhere in the region of 40 jobs from being 16 to 62. . Come Dine With Me . I didn't really feel up to being out today, but didn't want to cancel arrangements with my friend. My SIL is in a care home not too far far me, but apparently it's only for temporary stays. It's one that the hospital liaises with. My brother, despite being 12 years older than me (he's 76) is utterly clueless about anything beyond his own tiny world. He rang the Social Worker at lunchtime, left a voicemail, and is moaning that the bloke hasn't rang back - SWs have, on average, 20-odd cases each at any one time.

Doodle I hope you're getting on alright and that tests are being done.

How are all other BDers today?

Son2 has just been, stayed for an hour. He's asked if we'll have baby all day Sunday and Monday (not overnight, thankfully so that they can do some decorating . Hop everyone is ok x

Hello Doodle Do hope you're ok and are being well looked after. We are all thinking of you. x

Nadateturbe So it's coffee n cake at mine and dinner at HVDY's. ☺️
Did you get your cream jumper? Hope you manage your art class, it would be a shame to miss it. Sure everyone must have heard that lady in the hairdressers!
HVDY Dark n drizzle day here too.
Hope you enjoyed your meet up with friend despite initial thoughts. I think your brother would be lost without you even though he wouldn't admit it. I can see you must get so frustrated. How lovely to have baby to yourself at weekend. Think I'd be a bit worried overnight though.

Ive had steam coming from both ears today. Poor DH was recipient. Last Friday he told GP he had some pain but lot better. GP said that was normal. Ive had Polymyalgia and it's not. Not when you first start--need to get dose right, from beg. Anyway she still reduced dose. There's a fine balance and reducing must be done slowly if your pain is absent. Yesterday his pain was worse so he rang a different GP today and she's had to put it up again. Im just so worried as people can be on steroids for yrs. Last Friday I was holding up paper with * ASK FOR BLOOD TEST READING* while he was on phone.
Wish we could have same GP every time as this is going to be complicated.
Told DH its because I love him that I got so worked up. Phew!
Onle this morning with pain so good day. Hope everyone ok.

Sweetpeasue just popped in quickly to say the lady said that in the shop, not the hairdressers.

HVDY- oh dear your Brother is more like a baby brother than an older one. Sounds like when your SiL was well she took a lot of the decision making etc. he obviously values your experience and knowledge but needs to realis3 you have your own problems and commitments.
You are going to have such a nice Time with Baby Sun and Mon, Good that you can have a peaceful night in between.
Yes the Cardiologist is a good bloke- not up himself or superior - just quietly reassuring. You understand very well howI have to be.
Nadateturbe- I,m off to the hairdressers tomorrow- hope that lady doesn,t turn up!!!!
Did you get a nice sweater- that’s the only nice thing about Winter- I love jumpers. Hope you get to Art tomorrow.
SweetPeaSue- glad you,ve had a relatively good day despite a bit of a blow up. DH knows you love him - you,ve always got his corner. Hope the increased dose helps him.

Not seeing the same GP each time is so frustrating and I think sometimes dangerous.
Doodle- thinking of you and hoping you are comfortable and being seen after well.
Wyllow- sending kind thoughts and hope for better days.
Love to all

Nadateturbe So it's coffee n cake at mine and dinner at HVDY's
Wouldn't that be lovely. 🙂
I'm glad today has been relatively good Sweetpeasue.
It's a real handicap not having the same doctor. I remember reading recently that there is a plan to have patients allocated to one doctor as it would be better. 🙄. Didn't take a genius to think of that.
I hope you manage to get DH's dosage sorted. Are you worried the doctor is raising it too much? I shouldn't but when you talked about holding up paper with instructions I laughed as I have done it. Our poor husbands...

Nadateturbe Oh I see, sorry. My mum said I was a v shy child and would burst into tears if anyone spoke to me when I was out with my mum. I'm still that inhibited person. I've always though I must be abnormal in some way, to be like that. It amazes me that some people can be so outspoken as I'm so self conscious. Hope you will manage your art class tomorrow.

Wyllow Hoping you are able to have access to help and support with MH people. Wishing you a restful sleep.

Love to all BDs and hoping you all have a peaceful night.

Hope you’re feeling better Doodle.Sweetpeasue, what a horrible dream, I sometimes have something similar, I put it down to my daughter estranging me and not feeling good enough as it made me feel worthless. Has something triggered your dream?
Quite envious of those that actually see a doctor, it’s impossible here, I mean that, you have to be well to stand day after day from 7.15 until 8 outside the surgery only to be told, no appointments try again tomorrow, so only for the fit.
HVDY, how lovely to have the little one, all those cuddles.

Doodle Hoping you are having all the appropriate tests that are needed and you will soon be back home to Mr D. X

I hope you aren't too tired HVDY. You do so much. But we don't like cancelling on people.
I think forty jobs must be a record. I've had maybe 15-20. When we were young I think it was easier to move to a new job.
Your brother certainly is clueless, he really needs you. Lucky you having baby for two days. I agree nights would be too much, but I'm sure you're looking forward to it. 🙂

Sorry Scaredycat and Allsorts. I'm exhausted, talk tomorrow.
Goodnight Doodle and Wyllow3 and all on BD.
Hope you have a peaceful night.xx.

Nadateturbe I had to laugh to myself about that outspoken woman - DH and I express the same kind of sentiment about things (but not loud enough for others to hear).

SweetpeaSue DIL has said she thinks baby is too young to be left anywhere all night. DH and I agree - we were knackered the other week, when we had her for 24 hours. Cake at yours and dinner at mine - Wouldn't that be good. I wish we all lived near to each other. I know exactly what you mean about telling husbands what to say to the doctor. It's the same in our house. I hope your husbands meds gets sorted out soon.

ScaredyCat SIL didn't make ANY decisions about anything when she was well, my brother sorted things out. I know he's lonely, getting older, and hasn't got any support apart from me (that's the only reason I tolerate him). What are you having done at the hairdresser's? I don't like going but it feels so nice when it's been cut and blow-dried.

Son1 has got to hand his keys back to the letting agency in a week, so I plan to go to the (now empty) house tomorrow and make sure it's all clean.

Hope ALL BDers have a restful night x
Love to Doodle and Wyllow in particular

Allsorts How awful to have to queue outside early morning and still not be assured you will have an appt. Thats really dreadful. It must be quite bad in your area and I thought it was bad enough here.
I have no experience of estrangement but I know I'm lucky. It seems it can happen to anyone. Please dont feel you have been inadequate in any way. It must be heartbreaking and affect you physically and mentally. As for triggers for my dreams, I suppose I'm feeling lonely in my pain predicament. I also get a lot of nightmares since my mum died. Her drugs made her act out of character and say upsetting things.
I hope you can get some peace tonight and believe you are 'good enough*. Take care Allsorts. x

Night night, caught up with your days and sending love and bests xx

Nadateturbe Just to answer your question about DHs medication. Not worried Dr was raising med dosage. More worrying that steroid med was decreased too early when he still had pain. Someone with Polymyalgia can be on prednisolone for a few yrs with all the bad affects of steroids. It's vital that the dosage is tapered to each individual.

Still in hospital waiting procedure but ok. Hope all are doing ok. Take care all. xx

Allsorts Sorry, just missed your post last night. I remember having to wait outside in a queue at the doctor's, hoping to be seen. I didn't realise some places were still doing that. Doesn't your surgery have a telephone triage system, at least?

Doodle Hope all goes well with whatever it is you're having done. Get better soon x

It's a bright, sunny morning here. DH has gone out to meet a few mates (all retired) for breakfast, so I'm going to get ready and go out when he gets back. Hope ALL BDers manage to see a bit of sunshine today x