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Stair lift people phoned dh today. Offered £500 pounds off but need an answer first thing tomorrow. Sounds to me as if they are desperate for the job but I think he will go for it.

Doodle I know you don't eat a lot, and the chocolate & wine won't be much, so perhaps any tablets you take might be the problem? I doubt you're "huge" - just do what exercise you can.

SweetpeaSue It's too hot for my liking. Day centre has been cancelled this week, although I wasn't going to go, anyway. I sleep ok - I have the window open all night and lie on top of the duvet, with just a sheet over me. Those cool mats sound ideal. Son1 gets them for their dog (she's a Collie/Husky). Gardening is hard work - I only see to the flowers and bird bath/feeders, DH mows the lawn.

Wyllow3 I'm not fragile enough to take offence . Yes, there are all shapes and sizes, and ages from perhaps 60 to 85. 3 men, too. Hope your first night's sleep on your new mattress was a comfortable one.

It's going to be too hot to do much today, so DH and I are going for afternoon tea later. Hope everyone manages to have a decent day x

Hi all

I,m sorry I,ve not posted much but the heat is so awful I,ve nearly become a puddle!!
Will be back later but just wanted to say hello to you all.
Went to see my poorly friend yesterday - she’s still in a temporary cessation of treatment . She looks and feels so much better but her kidney function is still not right. Also she needs the treatment to recommence. We had a lovely 3 hour chat - her house is much cooler than mine!!
Try and keep cool all of you who are hot XXXX

EllieAnne it sounds like the financial hit is do-able. How do you actually feel about it now? Now he is 80 with hip stuff....but there is the question of some kind of rail left for all others to use.
A snag of a chair lift is that it encourages use before absolutely necessary but OTOH now the price has gone down its a sorta of investment. Oh, I do feel for you xxx.

Hello puddles. It's pretty fierce today out there and more tomorrow so I will have to change outing with older friend P.

Please don't melt Scaredycat you have been really busy after all.

That sounds like a good plan, HVDY.

I had a crisis in the night. It's about what I wrote last night - the stiff letter from Safeguarding offering no support as things unfold and quite brusque. Fell apart at 5 when I woke - wrote to them saying I need support, look its all been Zooms and emails for months and months and no one to sit down just for me to look ahead and recover and know whats going on. having sent that off,
I just felt the same, desperately abandoned, so I had some brandy and extra meds and just got up and have phoned my MH place to see if I can get a short (15 min) phone call back from psychologist for advice.

It's all wrong, wrong, isnt it? months with no named supporter and although we have taken a massive step forward, of course there is unfinished business and all the time

all they had to do was someone to actually sit down with me and...ask me.

Doodle Because you have a diet that means you shouldn't put a lot of weight on, this the combo of an anti ds' (for some only) and inactivity will put a bit of weight on,

but I am concerned there is another cause - have you had your thyroid checked out for example?

My house is cool because I have only one room so I can have a though draught from to back, Scaredycat.
Does friend have any idea why she cant move on with the treatment yet? that said, as they don"t know how it will affect her, and she is in a good patch, is it urgent?

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Wyllow I wish the safeguarding letter hadn't been brusque but please dont let it set you back. We dont want you falling into that deep dark place as youve come so far. Do hope your psychologist got back to you and has helped . The night time is the worst for troubles.
Thankyou for your post to me yesterday - you understand well.
Scaredycat Hope youve not melted yet- far too hot isnt it.
EllieAnne Glad the stairlift price has been reduced - they must think your DH is quite keen to come back. Shame he wont go to a consultant about his hips though.
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ScaredyCat Glad your friend feels better than she did. Is the kidney function problem a new thing? Does she know when treatment will start up again? This heat is too much for me. It's so humid. I'm indoors with the blinds closed, DH is in the 10ft pool we bought the other day . Jaffa's under the brick-built BBQ). He's been in, flaked out on the cold kitchen tiles.

There's no draught here, Wyllow3, so I envy you that.

Hope other BDers are managing today x

HVDY Ive heard those mats can be good for dogs. Took Fluffball for small walk in woods this morning but we both felt crippled this morning. Just been in all afternoon.
Doodle It doesnt sound like you eat very much but if youve not had thyroid check might be worth doing. Chocolate always makes me feel better too -- at the time.

So hot and just burnt a pan! Grr.

Hope everyone can sleep tonight. Xxxx

Son 2 delayed - no flight through thick fog so wont get home today. Fluffball again tomorrow.

Sweetpeasue there comes a time when you have to accept you can’t do all the things you used to. DH and I had to give up the gardening it was too much and one of the reasons we moved to an apartment.
Sorry your Dh still having pain. Is he due any more investigations from cardiology or the vascular team?
Wyllow I do go to sit fit which is run by a physiotherapist. My problem is my knees and feet. I have difficulty walking as my knees aren’t strong but my ankles and feet hurt too. I wobble a lot. To be honest I’ve no great desire to lose weight other than to help my knees. I don’t care what I look like but I do want to keep driving so worry about that. I am so busy I hardly have time for walking or exercise. I do like being with my friends so I’d rather do that.
So sorry you’ve been so upset by the response from safeguarding. You were so pleased the other day when Mr A got banned for meetings, I wonder if you’re having a low after the high. It’s been such a stressful time for you. I hope the MH team can help you and that Safeguarding responds positively to your email.

Ellie Anne I think they’re desperate too. Hope you don’t find it too disruptive or intrusive. I guess your Dh thinks he needs it.
Scaredycat I agree with you it’s too hot to do much. Hope you’re ok. Please take it easy and don’t worry about posting much as long as we know you’re ok.
HVDY like you I’m just too hot. The 10ft pool sounds fun. Is it big enough for aqua aerobics? Hope you enjoyed your afternoon tea.

Hi all
EllieAnne- DH sounds pretty determined re the stairlift. But he really needs to use his legs while he can.
Such a generoushearted idea for his BD- he might feel more touched than you imagine.
HVDY- this weather is too hot for me too- the poor boys don’t know what to do with themselves- wish they had zips in their coats so they could get out of all that fluff. They are enjoying cold luckiest out of the fridge though.
Hope you and DH had a lovely tea together.
Wyllow- we can’t open downstairs windows because the boys are indoor cats but upstairs is better as we lock the doors.
As you say the MrA saga could have been much less stressful if a bit more comm9nsense had been applied. So sorry it’s affected you like it has but it’s time to look to the future and enjoy some good times with friends and family.
As for my friend the immunotherapy has affected her kidneys extremely badly and she still has more of that to come. But she has had to have this break and take steroids to help with that. We,ll know more when reults from her CT scan come through.
SweetPeaSue- Nice words for Wyllow. It’s lovely the support we get from each other- such kind people.
I haven’t melted yet but this evening it’s awful and going to get worse.
Fluffball must feel a bit warm too - would she go in the sea if she’s at the beach?
Doodle- i,m sure you’re not as big as you think. Trouble is this weather makes us feel so uncomfortable and is not conducive to exercise. Maybe you don’t eat enough and your body is holding on to the calories. Try an ice lolly to satisfy a sweet craving - the orange juice ones are lovely.
The party did wear me out but a lot does now.😩the combo of heat and late night wasn’t a good one. We got a couple of very small fans to supplement the big ones and they are really nice as you can have them placed very close.

This afternoon my other friend with dementia came with her son and we sat outside the pub on the Green and had a couple of drinks. Her dementia is different . She knows who we are but has no short term memory at all which makes chatting a bit of a challenge. But good to see her.
Love to all and have as comfortable night as possible.

HVDY - I meant Lickies!!!!

SweetpeaSue Hope your son will get home soon. Fog?? Where's that? This heat is horrible, isn't it?

Doodle The pool is huge, would be good for aqua aerobics . The afternoon tea was delicious, at a place called Colwick Hall Hotel. Son2 bought it last Xmas. We've been before and enjoyed it. Have you tried an exercise thing for your legs? Revitive, I think it's called.

ScaredyCat I've always wiped a cold, wet flannel over any cat we've had, in summer. Jaffa doesn't much like it, but I know it cools him a bit. He loves Lick-e-Lix, but I give him one every other day now. Aww it's good that your friend knows you, but as you say, conversations are difficult.

DH is out with Son1. We've got LG tomorrow, 10.30 until about 5.30, so we'll go out somewhere. Hope everyone is ok tonight x