Ideas for use of DS's bedroom.

Sorry you have had such a disappointing birthday ruby. The car is just metal, so as long as you or anyone else wasn't hurt the car can be fixed. Your son sounds as if he can swing from awful to bearable or maybe sometimes quite nice. Just so sorry he had the awful head on today. Agree with a previous poster he may be scared because you are unwell, not an excuse though. So a birthday hug from me and a wish that the future is very much more comfortable for you. .

Hi all, thank you so much for your kind messages, especially the pandas, lovely.

It was the Friday 22nd my son was off with me, not on my birthday. On the day he was actually very nice. We spent time watching tele, having party food and spending time together. Today we have had a heart to heart about how we both feel about the changes we have and are going through, puberty and menopause, although what a 19 year old male is doing going through menopause, I have no idea!

I got upset, twice, he said about me missing him when he isn't here, we discussed my symptoms, physical and emotional and his changing hormones, it was very bonding and made us understand each other a bit better. We do tend to use a lot of humour between us, it's just sometimes it all gets too much.

Anyway, thanks again, I hope that next year will be better and my health will be improved a little.

I will, of course, make sure his room is available for him when he is home, but in the meantime I am sure using it to sew some clothes or whatever wont be a problem for him.

If you are using it for a sewing room, a good tip is to buy a large magnet to pick up any pins and needles from the floor (the vacuum doesn't always find them!!).

Good idea Jalima I don't want to prick any feet or paws.

He might think you've set a booby trap

I usually go round with the magnet when I've been sewing as the DGD always seem to run round in bare feet when they come.
Not that I do much sewing these days, only if they ask me to make something.

Depends where you live. I turned mine into an occasional room for theatrical lodgers. They normally only come for a week or two at a time and you can always say no if family are coming to stay. Actors and theatre workers always seem to be friendly, respectful of your room and undemanding. I've enjoyed their presence as well as the extra income but am now downsizing so probably won't be continuing to supply digs.

I believe OP lives in a Housing Association property so subletting would presumably not be permitted.
I fear OP may be getting her hopes up about the amount of space she will gain -her son may have gone, but his stuff won't have!

claire Thank you, that is an idea for after I've had some time on my own. We have a few theatres in our town, and we are near Salford too for the theatres there, so plenty of opportunities for renting out a room, which I am allowed to do. I don't know how I will feel being on my own so if I do find myself a bit lonely, this would be a good compromise.

Daphne My DS is taking some of his stuff but his stuff which he leaves behind can be put to one side to accommodate someone else. As I have said before, the room is very big. I have the smaller bedroom although I have plenty of furniture in mine too. Social housing have remarkably generous room sizes in their houses. No box rooms here.

Here's hoping your son got the results he needed Ruby'