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My Husband is uncomfortable with kisses on the bottom!

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Liz08 Mon 12-Mar-18 19:08:52

No, it's not what you think. Haha. He just has an aversion to text messages signed with an kiss after the name.
We both belong to many different groups comprising of people of all ages but quite often when an acquaintance (male or female) contacts him they sign their name with an X after it.
He doesn't know how to respond to this. With his RAF background he wants to put OAO (Over And Out) but that might mean something with Hugs in it ........
Any suggestions? confused

Jan51 Tue 13-Mar-18 13:42:25

MH (man hugs)

Grandmarnia Tue 13-Mar-18 13:54:38

I too put kisses at the end of my messages, and sometimes in the middle - trying to inject a little of the facial expressions and voice tone that is lost in a text. However, a male friend did text and ask me why I put kisses in my texts so maybe just something he too is not comfortable with as they might take the kiss as being an actual kiss...?

Gaggi3 Tue 13-Mar-18 14:03:54

DH once left a voice message to a fisherman we'd never met, trying to get fresh lobster, ending with 'love to you', which is what he says to family. We never heard back from the fisherman, I wonder why......

Marthjolly1 Tue 13-Mar-18 14:22:42

I'm a huggy kissy sort of person in life so always put multiple kisses on family and friend messages. BUT I'm always careful with messages to people outside that circle because some would find it odd. Particularly solicitor or insurance man etc xxx

Newquay Tue 13-Mar-18 18:57:08

Love the heading, bit like my DH always prefers to eat his scones "with nothing on".
When one of my DGS was about 4/5 and we used to take him to town on the bus, I explained what he had to do-state where he was going and give the driver the money. He listened intently and then asked "should we shake hands?" How sweet!
I've been told that you have to match kisses "on the bottom" no more, no less!

Fennel Tue 13-Mar-18 19:09:01

When writing to family I put x's at the end according to the number in the family.
To make it real, when we were in France (just come back) there was a lot of kissing going on. Hand shaking too.
The french where we were are very kind in helping out in an emergency. Several times I needed help and afterwards gave the man a big hug and kiss on the cheek (upper left). They seemed to appreciate it.

Moocow Tue 13-Mar-18 20:15:47

As has already been said , love the title! I like OAO but know what you mean. However he just needs to start it off in full then start shortening it to OAO and like BFN as a friend uses people will get to know. Might start using it myself OAO grin

Daisyboots Tue 13-Mar-18 21:25:40

I usually add to xx to most messages to friends and family. Here in Portugal people who know you tend to give you a kiss on either cheek. Even my dentist does it. When they write they put 'beijinhos' at the end which means little kisses. The cashier at our bank is a lovely young man and he made me laugh when he said to another customer. Adeus Beijinhos without thinking. He then looked at me, grinned and said oops. Not the first time I have heard him say it without thinking.

Anniepops Tue 13-Mar-18 23:06:51

Get to a certain age and just think xxx. Love family and the people you love around you. Long may we all be connected with a x. Xxxx

grannybuy Tue 13-Mar-18 23:38:37

Kisses only to some close friends and family - likewise'love from'. I'm probably a 'formal' kind of person to a great extent.

FarNorth Wed 14-Mar-18 22:04:51

No kisses from me, except to one friend who always puts them on her texts. I feel a bit of a twit doing it, all the same.
I do smiley faces, tho.

Craicon Thu 15-Mar-18 10:34:55

No wonder the Brits have a reputation for being cold fish. xxx

angie95 Thu 15-Mar-18 11:24:20

I think a little x at the end of a letter etc is a nice thing to do, xx

Wheniwasyourage Thu 15-Mar-18 11:26:41

I don't use xxx on texts or emails, but I do use Love from on emails, letters and postcards. Why should we be consistent, I ask (but not always).

varian Thu 15-Mar-18 11:35:19

We've always put xs on birthday cards to grandchildren, the same number as the birthday. They do the same, which is quite an effort for them and they don't always get it exactly write as we are so old it takes up a lot of space and needs careful counting. Last birthday one of my cards had one too many, so I said I'd keep it for next year.

varian Thu 15-Mar-18 11:36:27

they don't always get it exactly right (not write)

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