"Popping in" on someone without notice.

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Oh that’s me all right!!!

We'll just call you the misery-guts down the road.
Even the Republicans here are joining in.

Cheers ? everyone.
Well, not quite evryone, that woman down the road, you know the one? She's thrown herself on the floor and hidden so she didn't have to come ?

I am one of those with the vapours Callistemon. I shall be as far away from any street party as possible. Antisocial, moi?

MerylStreep

This will give some the vapours ( or clutch a pearl)
I had a double drop in yesterday.
One neighbour dropped in to ask about the street party we are arranging.
Then the 2 of us dropped in to another neighbour to get some information on the street party.

The fact that you are planning a street party might give some on GN the vapours MerylStreep

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Pass the smelling salts …

This will give some the vapours ( or clutch a pearl)
I had a double drop in yesterday.
One neighbour dropped in to ask about the street party we are arranging.
Then the 2 of us dropped in to another neighbour to get some information on the street party.

Big nope on uninvited visitors, with the sole exception of my AC.

I find it an intrusion. My plans for the day matter, and I consider it rude for someone to show up and assume that their presence should be more important.

Text or call, and ask.

My dh had family who tried to pop in once and called to announce they were down the road, but didn’t have our address, or knew what DH drove, or would’ve been on our doorstep! These were folks my dh hadn’t had even holiday phone calls with in YEARS. His mom gave them our phone number without asking.

Who on earth decides to drop in on someone from another time zone?! They had planned their trip a month in advance, traveling by where we lived, but couldn’t be bothered to contact us until they realized they forgot our address!

To add insult to injury, they planned on parking their camper in our yard for the weekend, and having us feed them for two days!

I don't mind people popping in, I have the most awful memory for appointments and don't always check my calendar before dashing out to buy/ post something / walk the dog, so if someone texts to say I'm popping round & I dont check my phone, or makes the arrangement in advance, & I'm not in, I end up feeling really guilty. But I'm usually happy to see people when they pop round, whatever I'm busy with - they know when I'm wfh I have set hours - but I do agree its annoying if you're in the middle of cooking or eating your main meal & they stay too long.

I used to think my NDN lived behind the fence. If I went into the garden she would pop up like a bloody zombie from one of those horror films and find something to whinge about. So you go outside to put something in the bin and get ambushed. I took to only going out at night once it was dark.

Nowadays I always check the cctv to make sure she's not lurking in the garden when I go outside for something.

Our own children and Grandchildren are welcome anytime though....and food will always be found??

I dont mind people popping in,but I don't like it when its around a meal time and the visitor makes no attempt to leave...so I feel I have to offer them a meal.....sometimes I have only cooked enough for 2 of us....and have to make it stretch out.....
Or the person says "Don't worry about me just carry on with your meal".....meani g I feel obliged to leave my meal until after they have left and reheat it....sometimes a couple of hours after?

BBbevan - sounds the sort of community I would embrace. I am, and always have been. more than happy for anyone to ring the bell and always invited in. After all, I assume they are visiting ME, not doing a check on the standards of my housekeeping.

When I lived in a small Close, and had retired, I was delighted to be able to take in parcels for people at work, etc. They were always very appreciative and would respect my age and only call for their parcels at reasonable times. It was good to feel of use to that small community.

In my block of flats, anything being delivered like that is able to be left in the our large entrance foyer, and anyone around there when a deliverer is trying to leave something will open the security door for them to bring that in, provided the name on the package is actually someone who lives in our flats.

Unlike Mrs Thatcher, I am a great believer in 'Society'!!!

Having said that I am delighted if one of our AC + DCG call unannounced!

When I was a child the door was always unlocked or open during the day , neighbours would pop in for a chat. Times change and I try to change with the times! I rarely call on people without ringing / messaging first. If I see my neighbour working in her garden I may pop over for a short chat. Think we must pick and choose who we call to see without giving notice. Our AC are all working and have children to care for , they lead very busy lives! So even with them I would make contact before visiting . I hasten to add that we have solid relationships with our AC and we endeavour to keep it that way!

I never pop in on anyone else, always wait for an invite. It's a long wait.

That's very sad, BigBertha. I suspect you're not alone in this. But look at it this way, at least you're not being an annoyance to anyone and no one on here is complaining about you

I don't like being dropped in on. I see clients in my home when not in lock-down, although even now that lock-down has finished, I still work with my clients via telephone, so it is absolutely not on for people to just turn up. I am a very private person, more so than I had realized and the lock-down clarified that point for me. I think I might be giving out mixed messages sometimes because I am naturally warm and friendly when I meet people and I think that is sometimes mistaken for being easy going and having a sort of open house. Not so.

BBbevan

We live in quite a small community and are all mostly retired. Popping in is the norm. Nothing is too important that you can’t stop for a cup of tea and a chat. You can always do it tomorrow. We did get caught out once though when both DH and I were fast asleep one afternoon ,in the garden. Snoring most likely. We woke up to find a dear neighbour sitting beside us doing her knitting.

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We live in quite a small community and are all mostly retired. Popping in is the norm. Nothing is too important that you can’t stop for a cup of tea and a chat. You can always do it tomorrow. We did get caught out once though when both DH and I were fast asleep one afternoon ,in the garden. Snoring most likely. We woke up to find a dear neighbour sitting beside us doing her knitting.

While I like my peace and quiet, and certainly wouldn't want to get caught out with a sink full of dirty pots, I do think it's sad that we can't just let someone in if they turn up as hoc and make them a cuppa and sit down for a chat. I'm sure this used to be quite normal.

I am reminded of the saying "I wish I'd known you were coming - I would have baked a cake"

biglouis

Oh god dont mention taking in parcels! You open the door to some courier because your expecting a package and he lumbers you with a parcel for your neighbour who is out. Then you have someone banging on the door to retrieve it and frightening the hell out of you if its dark and you live alone. People order all kind sof "stuff" and never consider that someone has to take it in for them.

This is one way in which my little "ring" type camera is so useful. I can speak to people outside without opening the door and send them quickly on their way if its something for someone else. Most of my packages are tracked and I watch the camera like a hawk once the expected delivery window opens. Ive set it to "ping" when someone enters my drive. Just had my Tesco delivery and am waiting for one more delivery before I lock the gates on my driveway.

my neighbours and I will always take in each others parcels, its usually me because I am at home most....happy to do it. But there are only 3 or 4 of us in the group, all about the same age and no one takes the mick.

I don't like it at all and never have....yes when i was a child, sunday was the day to go visiting relatives and i know my parents hated it when someone turned up when they were in the middle of things. It was their one day a week to do the things they enjoyed.

I don't want people popping in unanounced so I wouldn't do it to them. If I'm in the area, I would always phone them first to see if they are 'available'.

Oh god dont mention taking in parcels! You open the door to some courier because your expecting a package and he lumbers you with a parcel for your neighbour who is out. Then you have someone banging on the door to retrieve it and frightening the hell out of you if its dark and you live alone. People order all kind sof "stuff" and never consider that someone has to take it in for them.

This is one way in which my little "ring" type camera is so useful. I can speak to people outside without opening the door and send them quickly on their way if its something for someone else. Most of my packages are tracked and I watch the camera like a hawk once the expected delivery window opens. Ive set it to "ping" when someone enters my drive. Just had my Tesco delivery and am waiting for one more delivery before I lock the gates on my driveway.

It’s a big no from me, I can’t stand it, I like to know when visitors are coming round