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We will be moving in July but....

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hazel93 Fri 25-Mar-22 09:17:18

I am a' throw out' apart from furniture and sentimental items, DH would keep everything and I mean everything !
Who needs a scarf you wore in a Kibbutz 48 years ago !
Tensions are rising ......
Help !!

geekesse Sun 27-Mar-22 13:50:36

After years of expat living, I’ve become a dab hand at disposing of stuff every time I move, so I start in each new home with the minimum of stuff. It’s quite cathartic. My daughter helps - she’ll pick something up and ask if I’ve used it in the last year. If the answer is no, it goes in the skip. I have one bookcase and a piano that always move with me, a couple of things that remind me of my Dad, my old teddy bear and some artworks, but that’s about it, and none of it has any monetary value, so can be chucked away when my time is up.

Jaxjacky Sun 27-Mar-22 14:24:07

I too hate clutter, our loft is almost empty apart from photographs, Christmas decorations and an old dolls house that must go, I’m quite ruthless.
I wear a necklace my Mum left me, have a painting that my Dad did and a picture they had in their hall, both are hung in our house.
MrJ tends to hoard a little, so has a bookcase of ‘bits’ and the shed, we don’t have a garage thank goodness.

GillT57 Sun 27-Mar-22 15:16:04

We are just starting on a declutter, so far so good, but along way to go. Boot filled and ready for charity shop drop. Then back again to tip. Why did I keep the iron that always tripped the electrics? Or the ancient vacuum that smells?

62Granny Sun 27-Mar-22 15:22:16

Give him a plastic box and say he can only fill that with what you regard as silly sentimental items but once the box is full that is it, no more. It will make him think twice if he needs it or not.

kissngate Sun 27-Mar-22 16:09:03

We moved 3 months ago. We decluttered before and after move. However DH put some boxes in attic full of photos, old videos, sentimental items (clutter). I was going to sort but I've hurt my knee so cannot climb the loft ladder. The boxes will remain up there until my knee is right as my oh will never throw out.

nandad Sun 27-Mar-22 16:51:44

I’ve told husband that if he dies before me and I have to move out, I am going to put a match to the loft! I haven’t worked out how I can only burn the contents of the loft and not the whole house but he, sort of, understands my sentiment.

Shandy57 Sun 27-Mar-22 18:36:07

My neighbour has gone into a home, and her daughter has been clearing her house out. From what I can establish she has just been bagging/boxing everything up and taking it all to the charity shops. The house is going on the market shortly.

I think I'm going to go through all of my things and try to halve them.

Cabbie21 Sun 27-Mar-22 19:39:42

Oh dear we have so much stuff, and that is after we got rid of so much before we moved here. DH is often regretting something he was “ told I had to get rid of”.
I keep trying to sort my stuff, but it is a drop in the ocean compared with his.
In the garage there are so many tins of paint and varnish, tools of various sorts, but he has had to give up most of his DIY. Then there is his study, then the loft…….

Lucca Mon 28-Mar-22 07:25:04

Cabbie21

Oh dear we have so much stuff, and that is after we got rid of so much before we moved here. DH is often regretting something he was “ told I had to get rid of”.
I keep trying to sort my stuff, but it is a drop in the ocean compared with his.
In the garage there are so many tins of paint and varnish, tools of various sorts, but he has had to give up most of his DIY. Then there is his study, then the loft…….

I couldn’t cope with that . One of the reasons I got divorced !

Luckygirl3 Mon 28-Mar-22 09:31:24

I try to abide by the rule that if my poor DDs will look at something when I am gone and think "What the hell do I do with this?" then I ought to rehome it - do I always succeed? - um ... no. smile