I have moved many times here and abroad, so my suggestions are more about how you might think more about what you want to move to, which might give you some ideas to help. So the first thing is whether you like where you live, is it convenient for shopping, public transport, what doctors are available, is there a decent library , swimming pool, or whatever is important to you. So if you like where you are and it is only the actual house that is the problem, then you can start to do a real little study of the town, or area, finding out where there are pockets of suitable housing available, checking out if they are easy to reach, or if there is going to be major roadworks or big buildings arriving in the area. When you have looked about you will then probably have two or three areas or roads that appeal to you, so then you could go into an estate agent and besides seeing what they think your place is worth you could put your name down to be informed whenever anything in the vicinity that you liked comes up for sale. The estate agency will see that you are definintely not going to be a time waster and that they may earn more by selling to you as well as for you, so you will be top of their list to make an effort on your behalf. That could work to your advantage! Alternatively if you look around and realize that you are not really very involved with that town , and tend to go to perhaps another nearby place for many things so for example you might belong to a gym or golf club in a nearby place and when you think about it , possibly spend quite a lot of time with friends in that area, well then that could be an area that you look at to see if there is somewhere affordable there for you to live in. Any place other than where you now live, try and do some research in such things as what do the local people say about transport, doctors there etc. Of course most people will be moaning about things but you can learn quite a lot and be able to follow up and see if things would suit you. If you decide that another town is going to be more suitable for you, and you can afford to do it, I then suggest that you might go and stay b and b for a week or two , sometime about now, or at any rate in the winter months. Everywhere can look lovely in the summer, and you can have rose tinted glasses about somewhere. Is it still a decent place to be in when the weather is not so good. Does the local library have interesting things happening there, are there lots of clubs and things like u3a to join and meet people if you want to .
To some people this may seem over the top, but when you think that this is going to be where you are going to live for a long time, then I think it is worth making the effort. Some years ago , we planned a move away from the area we then lived in. Found a house that looked very suitable, but again I tend to be somewhat on the wary side. The estate agent seemed keen for us to visit in the afternoon and said that the two mornings I suggested were already booked . So I then drew up a chart with times from 6am until about 8pm, with squares for pedestrians, bikes cars etc, and then made the journey over with plenty of food and drinks etc and radio 3. I spent a whole day there, marking the traffic, watching the general scenery and the ebb and flow . This showed me that it was quite busy for a lot of the time , but also you could see that if another nearby main road was closed for any reason that this would become the rat run. We checked out and sure enough in about 6 months there were going to be quite a lot of road works going to affect that area. We didnt get that house, and later when we had moved to another house not far away were very glad , as it certainly did become a rat run for lorries and everything. When you think how much time and money and effort we put into moving it seems strange to me that people dont seem to do this sort of thing. It may sound a bit extreme, but I have found it worth while.
You may also have contacts already, so perhaps you belong to the wi or a club, where people from the area you are interested in belong, so you have a readymade information giver. It can then become obvious to you , what you will prefer to do, it doesnt matter whether it makes you decide to stay or go, but you will have come to a conclusion as to what is in your best interest, rather than just leaving it until it becomes a necessity, or unfortunately , if you had mobility problems , you then might either have to move quickly or get something like a stairlift put in.
One other thing is that I find, we dont always see exactly what we are like compared to our friends. So when you think oh yes there is a good golf club but no library, it might be your friend who says but you use the library every week, wont y ou miss that, or whatever it is you do quite a lot of. My personal thing is that I am determined to remain independent for as long as I live, hopefully, and though with great regret to leave my much loved garden, I downsized to a ground floor flat, having done all the above. Still miss the garden but now that my back is so much worse, I would have been in a much worse position if I had stayed there. It has given me time to slowly alter things, get rid of quite a lot of stuff, make new friends and acquaintances whilst still being able to drive back and visit old friends . So I am content that I made the right decision, and most of all it was MY decision, and no one else needed to move me to somewhere I didnt want to be.
Enjoy looking around and thinking what you like or dislike doing. You will probably discover little roads that you didnt know where there and get to know your town that much more. I hope you find all our comments and posts helpful, whether that is for good ideas you hadnt considered, or other ideas that you reject entirely. When you have read them all you will probably have a better idea of what it is you want for yourself. Hope things go well for you and let us know what you choose in the end