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Should I renovate or move

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barmcake Sat 25-Oct-25 07:42:14

I have just been ripped off by a cowboy builder for the second time, but this time they damaged my neighbour's property. For the sake of my ruined mental health I've written off the money and compensated my neighbour.

My Victorian terrace needs complete renovation.

Should I sell the house and go to an assisted living flat; or,
do a complete renovation.

Would love to hear from those who have or have had a similar experience and how they resolved it. I feel like just packing a bag and running away at the moment.

Crossstitchfan Wed 29-Oct-25 11:06:54

Barmcake, thank you for your apology, which I happily accept, and I don’t want you to feel bad over it. We all say things we are sorry for afterwards, and at least you apologised - lots don’t! Also, I was maybe a little oversensitive, and it was silly of me to take it to heart. Let’s put it behind us now.
I am so sorry to hear about your brother. That must have been unbearable for the whole family. We all have awful things to cope with, don’t we?
I wish you and your family all the very best, and thanks again for your reply.

barmcake Wed 29-Oct-25 11:39:36

Crossstitchfan

Barmcake, thank you for your apology, which I happily accept, and I don’t want you to feel bad over it. We all say things we are sorry for afterwards, and at least you apologised - lots don’t! Also, I was maybe a little oversensitive, and it was silly of me to take it to heart. Let’s put it behind us now.
I am so sorry to hear about your brother. That must have been unbearable for the whole family. We all have awful things to cope with, don’t we?
I wish you and your family all the very best, and thanks again for your reply.

That's very gracious of you of and it's made my day.

I'm so sorry to hear about about your poor health and wishing you nothing but the best.

No-one escapes suffering in this life and if only we could all resolve our difference like us the world might be a better place.

Crossstitchfan Wed 29-Oct-25 11:59:01

Yes, you have a really valid point there, Barmcake. Glad we’re friends. Life’s too short for unpleasantness.