This may sound rather horrid really but here goes.
My brother is separated from his wife.This is not legal, she kicked him out because she wanted to " be happy" and wanted to find another bloke ( I guess - she has had several flings since then). He went to live with mum as it was the only place he could go and he doesnt have enough money to set up alone ( job is 14K a year)
She has three DC - one of which is by my brother. He pays her maintenance for the childand is a weekend dad ( and any time she calls and says she wants the kid out so she can "entertain").
Mum is, well, "wealthy" .This is thanks to inheritances from her childless sister and several inheritances from my fathers family as well as her ownand dads assets. Dad passed away last year.
She has said she was going to split it between me and brother equally. She is worred that she makes sure as much of this money gets to us as possible.
However, my brother has just told her that his estranged wife has said she will not divorce him until after my mother dies and he has his inheritance! She wants it to form part of her settlement on a divorce ( cheeky IMHO!).
It seems she can do this. My mother is livid as she doesnt want to fund her lifestyle. Brothers legal sitiation is currently married but living separately
(just under a year).
Mum is getting on ( and she could go any time but lets be honest, its not likely to be more than six years unless she tanks up over 100 and then it wont be above 10 years) we all know but it doesnt matter when because as ex wife says she is hanging on and we are pretty sure she will too) DB's son is 6, so waiting until he is 16 is an option for her.
Mum doesnt know what she can do to ensure my brother is well set up - has a home etc. which cannot be taken by ex wife when she divorces ( btw wife has marital home in her name as it was hers before she married and brother moved in, paying bills etc. She works. She kickedDB out when she found out mum was not dividing the cash up immediately and she would have to wait to " have fun" and she didnt want to wait as she would be "too old" ....... yeah, I know......at least she is honest ).
Apparently it is the case that all is in the pot on divorce iincluding any inheritances. But, is there anythiong mum can do to safeguard what she wants to give to DB from his estranged wife?
(I know it makes us sound malicious and nasty people to want to leave her out of the inheritance but it is hard earned family dosh)
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