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Advice re winding up estate.

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HUNTERF Thu 21-Mar-13 11:23:12

Just had a phone call from a lady in her late 30's.
Her mother has passed away and her father passed away some years ago.
There is a will.
The problem is she does not know where the money is but she knows the house is owned by her mother.
The only help I can think of giving her is to offer to help to search the house for evidence of money. I will not feel comfortable looking through other people's cupboards but I will do it if she wants me to.
Anybody got any other suggestions.
When my father passed away I had his money recorded on a spread sheet and I knew exactly where it was. I just think there is a chance a Gransnetter has been in this situation.

Frank

Galen Fri 22-Mar-13 14:16:53

Cf paint drying?

whenim64 Fri 22-Mar-13 15:15:45

I think Frank has a calling and all these people knocking on his door and phoning for advice have heard on the grapevine about his financial knowledge. Frank - get an answerphone so you can avoid the interruptions to your ministrations grin

Ana Fri 22-Mar-13 15:18:27

Agree Orca wink

Anne58 Fri 22-Mar-13 17:05:19

Afternoon all!

Couple of points, yes I did suggest Frank, The Movie and also suggested some actors to be cast as G'Ners (can't remember which thread though blush I'm sure between us we could write the screenplay.

I have also suggested that Frank's talent at sorting out finance issues etc could be put to good use, for example volunteering at the CAB, (can't remember the thread that one was on either, but I do remember the reaction, I think some people were seen running screaming into the night)

Ana Fri 22-Mar-13 17:08:35

Anyway, Frank wouldn't have time to work for the CAB - his days are already filled with hospital visiting, attending care assessment meetings and answering his phone. And keeping us up to date, of course.

Anne58 Fri 22-Mar-13 17:10:06

Fair point Ana fair point.

Ana Fri 22-Mar-13 17:12:14

Not to mention the Bums and Tums classes.....

Anne58 Fri 22-Mar-13 17:14:44

Is it only me that wants to do this:

DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED DIED

Ana Fri 22-Mar-13 17:29:07

Oh I don't know, phoenix. 'Assed away' has a certain ring to it!

Galen Fri 22-Mar-13 17:30:47

grin

HUNTERF Fri 22-Mar-13 17:46:00

It looks as if phoenix has heard what has happened to the woman who has been annoying me for the last year.

Anne58 Fri 22-Mar-13 18:49:51

What Frank you mean she hasn't "passed away" but has actually died, ceased to exist, is no more, has shuffled off this mortal coil, gone to a better place.........

Enviousamerican Fri 22-Mar-13 18:50:31

Passed away is just a way to make it sound nicer,less harsh? Like assed away.

Anne58 Fri 22-Mar-13 18:53:19

I still find that the phrase "passed away" makes me think of people just getting fainter and fainter until..... poof! They disappear.

Nonu Fri 22-Mar-13 18:54:12

Hi Envious , are living in the STates ,? if so what part ? if I may ask ?

Enviousamerican Fri 22-Mar-13 19:14:37

Yes,I'm in Nashville,Tn. I've lived hear most of my life.Always have been interested in your country and visited London on a tour at age 19 in 1971 .I felt like I'd been there before! felt comfortable.Alas I'll probably never get to visit again (bad back) and no I do not like country music and we don't go around wearing cowboy boots and hats! Celebrities do though.It a very pretty state and we get all four seasons.Enjoy watching your older tv shows on Netflix and I find it easy to understand the meaning of your saying.

annodomini Fri 22-Mar-13 19:17:03

In recent years, 'passed away' has become simply 'passed'. I am with you, Phoenix.

Elegran Fri 22-Mar-13 19:26:30

Passed is pretty new. I first heard read it in Alexander McColl Smith's books.
I thought it was a Botwana-ism.

Ana Fri 22-Mar-13 19:29:07

I suppose it should be 'past' really...
So-and-so is now past. confused

absent Fri 22-Mar-13 19:30:17

When my father died in 1979 the funeral organiser people asked if we wanted an announcement in the newspapers. We did, but they suggested "passed away", whereupon I insisted it should simply say died.

Nonu Fri 22-Mar-13 19:44:56

Ilike the expression "passed" sounds less harsh than "died"

It is painful enough when someone near goes , nice to soften things , IMO

absent Fri 22-Mar-13 20:15:21

Passed where?

absent Fri 22-Mar-13 20:15:42

Death is harsh.

gracesmum Fri 22-Mar-13 20:24:35

I thought the expression on the Alex McCall Smith books was late as in "My mother is now late"

Enviousamerican Fri 22-Mar-13 21:09:52

You can count on me to be late for death.