Frank: point taken. I agree, if the need is medical then the NHS would seem the logical place to seek funding and support. But there is a fine line between genuine medical need and social support. It's the same with some treatments that I might consider non-essential and yet someone else could make a genuine medical case for funded treatment.
I'm wary of this debate because my mum owns her own house but my brother has always lived with her. We know that if she needs care the house will be looked at as an asset so its down to the two of them to make suitable arrangements. Personally, I'd see the house sold for that purpose but I couldn't see him without a home - it's a dilemma. On the other hand, I think that we (families) ought to take responsibility for our old folks and not farm them out - that's a generalisation - but I know modern life doesn't make that easy. And I say that despite knowing I'd be awful at looking after my mum if the need arose...