Planning our own funeral

I do think about this, although I have not yet done anything other than leave some verbal instructions to my husband to have me burried in the church yard with my parents. I do not want to be cremated. Neither do I want a cheapskate funeral and disposal. ( No doubt I will be bumped off for the dosh anyway, or at least left to die rather than aided to live, such is the way of our society now).

That may sound awful selfish but as a person with no children and who is likely to be a last of a generation I suspect I will be seen more as a meal ticket and cheque book to my likliest remaining relative. I also doubt a charity ( if Ileft my money to them) would want to spend any on me and my funeral.

I doubt many people, if anyone will shed a tear when I die anyway.

I would like a nice funeral in church and a nice coffin and a nice grave and I would even like to leave money to ensure its upkeep ( and that of my husband and parents if needed).

I do not know how you go about doing that.

I am not sure either if you do leave instructions, do they have to be followed,or is it like a will - only if those given charge of the affairs decide to do it? I have heard lots of tales where wills have not been followed because the executors dont do it and probably more where the money gets contested by greedy left over and left out relatives.

Of course you couldsay why does it matter I wont be here, but it does matter to me.

I read recently about someone who had her ashes sent up in a firework - going out with a bang so to speak!

Keep spending Abbey! Until there isn't much left for anyone to squabble over.

I thought executors had a legal obligation to follow what was stated in a will?

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