My father outlived my mother by 20 years so to cut a long story short.....my sister was always begging money off them. When mum was alive she begged £10 every Monday off mum till she got her money on Tuesday (her husband was alcoholic and never worked) She had 6 children and mum gave her £10 for the kids and £10 for doing her hair every Saturday. I’d done her hair until my husbands job took us out of the area for nothing and as my mum, I wouldn’t have dreamt of charging her. All the family supported her, buying clothes, food etc, for the children, including me.
Years after mum died about and 5 years before dad did, he said he was leaving his house to be sold and shared between my sister and I and the money to be shared equally among the grandchildren but he wasn’t leaving any to great grandchildren.
When he was taken ill and moved into a hospice 2 weeks before he died neither my sister nor any of her children told me, then my son got a call from her son to say he hadn’t got long if I wanted to see him. I don’t understand why non of them rang me, it wasn’t as if I didn’t speak to them. I went the next morning and was told he’d been unconscious (due to the drugs) for 5 days. I was not told when or where his ashes were put nor asked if I wanted to be there! 3 months later I got a call to say he had left me some money, a measly amount. I was told I couldn’t have a copy of the will, So eventually I got one through the government website and I found out he’d left his house to my sister and all his money to be shared between my sister and her children and he’d cut my children off completely leaving them absolutely nothing even my favourite niece who he never bothered with and I did, got a big share of his will. He changed his will one day before he went unconscious and I think my sister, her son and daughter changed the will but I can’t prove it. It was NOT typed at the solicitors. His signature was on the will but as he was blind I don’t see how he knew what was in it, the solicitor was a friend of sister’s daughter, (she worked at the same solicitors) the witness, my sisters best friend. My sister, her daughter and son also had access to his bank account and she admitted she took money out of his account, even buying him a big telly a couple of months before he died! What for? He was blind!
3 weeks after he died my sister and her whole family, in law’s included, except my niece who lives abroad, went on holiday to Spain. They even put all the photos on Facebook, was that to rub the salt in the wound for when we found out about the will?
My sister was dad’s favourite and could do no wrong, while I was always the black sheep of the family so I expect she would have found it easy to ‘change’ his mind at the last ‘minute’!
You should treat all your children equally. This will has caused a massive unrepairable rift in the family and the hatred is palpable, he’s been dead 2 1/2 years now and I don’t understand how my sister could have done this to her only sister or allow our father to do it either because I just couldn’t!
