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numberplease Wed 13-Jul-11 16:31:44

How many years have you and yours been married, or together, whichever applies to you? Today is our 48th wedding anniversary, heaven only knows how we`re still together, you don`t get that long for murder, and I`ve come pretty close to committing that at times!

pinkprincess Sun 07-Jul-13 22:47:08

44 years, married February 1969.We still have our ups and downs but are together.

MrsSB Mon 08-Jul-13 10:25:44

41 years today. Last year we celebrated our 40th on a cruise with champagne and a lovely celebration cake. Definitely no bubbly this year though smile

Nonu Mon 08-Jul-13 10:46:14

Happy Anniversary MRS SB < are you doing anything special ?

We have been married 42 years in January gone

flowers + wine

numberplease Mon 08-Jul-13 17:17:29

Happy Anniversary Mr and MrsSB!

Gally Mon 08-Jul-13 18:10:30

We should have been celebrating 40 years in December, but only got to 38 years and 2 months. Not sure what to do on 1st December. Should I celebrate what could have been/what was or should I bury my head in the sand and pretend it never happened? Should I be alone and throw a party for 1 or push the boat out and invite all my friends and family? Decisions, decisions. confused

Stansgran Mon 08-Jul-13 18:28:37

Gally celebrate with Gransnet here.

Gagagran Mon 08-Jul-13 19:05:24

It's our 48th WA on Wednesday, 10 July. (I was of course a child bride)grin

We met on 29 June 1963 and on the anniversary of that date, a week last Saturday, my lovely DH had 50 beautiful roses delivered to me. It was a huge surprise and I felt hugely humbled and grateful, especially as he is a bit of a rough tough Yorkshireman, not given to romantic gestures. (He has since told me that the roses are also for our WA!)

annieseed Mon 08-Jul-13 20:04:05

We have been married since 1958 - 55 years, I think my American sister has been married since 1945 - more maths. 68 years.

MrsSB Mon 08-Jul-13 20:05:27

Nonu, no, nothing special. We never have, apart from our 25th and our 40th. Maybe we'll go out for lunch at the weekend smile.

Hunt Mon 08-Jul-13 23:37:01

We will have been married 58 years next week. Only 2 to go and it will be 60 years. can't think what to do for that one if we make it. For the 50th we renewed our marriage vows in the church at Braunston, grandaughter played the flute and her brother read the lesson. The other two grandsons said a prayer each.We had a lovely buffet lunch in the Village hall, took 4 narrowboats decorated with golden ballons for a trip along the Southern Oxford and had tea on the towpath with bubbly and Golden wedding cake.

almin Mon 25-Nov-13 17:54:09

We celebrated our 55th on 2nd August with my wife in hospital. It was to be our last, she sadly passed away holding my hand on 5th November.
My life is so empty now!

Grannyknot Mon 25-Nov-13 18:00:05

almin so sorry for your loss. 55 years is an amazingly long time to have been together, you were truly blessed.

There's company here on Gransnet, we'll entertain you smile

Kiora Mon 25-Nov-13 18:50:24

Congratulation numberplease hope your sons marriage is as long and as happy as yours. Enjoy the wedding. We've been married for 38 years. It gets better after the 25 year point. I sometimes look at my friends who have had multiple relationships and wonder if we have just played safe, they seem more worldly wise than me and have had more adventurous experiences than me. I know I'm lucky and we love and care for each other in a more mature way now. I sometimes think we have morphed into one which is a bit of a worry because that might mean you loose the ability to manage alone. It brings it home when you read some of the heartbreaking threads on this site. But you can't have it both ways. We make each other laugh and support each other when the rest of the world feels like its against you

Kiora Mon 25-Nov-13 18:58:58

Almin my condolences you sound as if you were a lovely husband. It's very early days and your pain is very raw.. I hope to see you posting on here so that the gransnetters can comfort, advise and help you through this painfully difficult time. The 'going it alone' thread may be place to talk through your grief with others who are also going through the same experience.

annsixty Mon 25-Nov-13 20:26:50

almin We also celebrated 55 years on August the 2nd. So sorry you are now on your own. Look back on your memories with affection and thanks for the happy times.

PRINTMISS Tue 26-Nov-13 08:33:39

We have been married 61 years, with all the joys and troubles shared. I have no idea how I would manage if I did not have the other half to look after, and look after me, and I worry how he will cope without me to tell him what to do and when! We talk about this, and his usual reply is that we cannot do anything about it NOW so let's enjoy what we have. My condolences to you almin, I cannot imagine how lonely you must feel at the moment, but hope that you have good memories of a life well lived and shared, and perhaps you could talk to us about them.

ninathenana Tue 26-Nov-13 16:55:08

I remember attending my aunt and uncles ruby wedding party when my children were young. At the time it seemed amazing.
DH and I will celebrate ours in 2015 so 38yrs so far.

almin Fri 29-Nov-13 16:46:55

Thankyou all for your kindness, it really does help. I am finding it very difficult to come to terms with not having my Pat around. She had a long and difficult illness and suffered a great deal over the last two years and in the final months was diagnosed with Alzheimers.
There is no family close, but her lifelong friend has been very good in visiting every week. She too is distraught at losing her best friend.
They were both born in the village we still live in.

Pat and I did everything together, no girls nights or boys nights. When celebrating annivsaries we went away together instead of partying.

We preferred each others company, which makes it even more difficult to get back to "normal".
Hopefully things will pick up soon, when Christmas is over.

Almin

Bellasnana Fri 29-Nov-13 17:31:04

Oh almin you must be feeling bereft after such a wonderfully long marriage. It won't be easy but hopefully, in time, you will be able to fill the void left by your dear Pat with memories of happier days. flowers

Flowerofthewest Fri 29-Nov-13 18:33:25

congratulations numberplease. We have been married for 30 years and it was 14 for my first marriage

kittylester Fri 29-Nov-13 18:42:22

almin how sad for you. I can't imagine how I would cope without DH. I'm sure you were a wonderful husband and that she loved you deeply too. Christmas will be difficult I'm sure. (((hugs)))

Armynanny Sun 29-Dec-13 20:49:06

Just celebrated 33 years of marriage. Thoughts are with you Almin

Flowerofthewest Mon 30-Dec-13 09:01:15

Thoughts with you Almin and lots of hugs xxx

bikergran Mon 30-Dec-13 09:28:24

morning Almin I hope that you and your friend can chat and talk and that it helps you both....

glammanana Mon 30-Dec-13 09:37:36

My thoughts are with you Almin take care and keep in touch with your fellow GNers.