No Symptoms

Very interesting about India M0nica. Looking on Menopause as a blessing with positive outcomes is useful. However, I suspect some of us are just lucky with our genes and hormonal make up too.
At last I can hang about with men other than DH. Drat this Covid seclusion!

We women are all different,mine was a bluddy nightmare and still is.

I sailed through menopause, I'm absolutely fine 20 years on (I'm 71) and have none of the dreaded 'what to expect' list (as Esspee posted on page 1). No HRT required either.

Add me to the list of lucky ones! Missed first period at 50 slowly petering out until had the very last one at 55 - no symptoms of anything else so haven’t need treatment either.

I do have friends who haven’t been as lucky but they acknowledge their lack of healthy eating, drinking, smoking and zero exercise may have had some bearing on things.

I’d be interested in how top athletes, dieticians etc manage their menopause .

Blossoming

Aggression and spite are obviously menopause symptoms, so glad I don’t have those

No need for that comment, Blossoming, and the addition of a grin didn't work.

Blossoming the point I was trying to make is that the publicised problems of the menopause, the non taboo ones such as hot flushes and mood swings are NOT the main problems. The ones that you never hear talked about (waterworks problems, declining libido often associated with vaginal atrophy, back pain, osteoarthritis, sleep problems, premature aging, osteoporosis etc.) are what I am drawing attention to and Jaxjacky it is not inevitable you will suffer these symptoms but it is very much age dependent. The longer you live without oestrogen the more likely you are to suffer osteoporosis is an example and Maggemaybe you are approaching the age where these longer term symptoms start to show themselves. I wouldn’t wish any of them on anybody. What I wanted everyone to be aware of is that sailing through the menopause when only considering the early appearing ones is inaccurate. eazybee puts these symptoms down to old age but most of those on HRT manage to avoid them.

Well, thanks for that, Esspee, but I prefer to think I've just inherited good genes from the many women in my family who did not become wizened old crones in their mid sixties.

Perhaps you should seriously consider that some women on here who are not as confident as I am could be very upset by your comments.

Are you medically qualified, by the way?

Thank you Maggiemaybe just what I wanted to say.

I and my Mum always suffered from terrible periods, painful and heavy, I had 2 awful pregnancies, but no Menopausal symptoms at all.
Maybe I will have problems due to lack of Oestrogen at some time, but if I don’t have any menopausal symptoms I’m not likely to be offered HRT am I?
So we will see.

I had heavy and painful periods too, and actually looked forward to the menopause, thinking my suffering would end, but instead, I developed many of the horrible symptoms listed by Esspee (and I'm not even 60 yet!)

I'm not overweight, eat a good, varied diet, and am very active, exercising regularly.

I am genuinely happy for those women who sail through the menopause, but can't help feeling very p****d off by posts from those who condescendingly suggest that women who are less fortunate have probably brought it on themselves by not being positive enough or through an unhealthy lifestyle etc.

Yes. It's absolutely unfair to somehow blame the unlucky women for their own menopause miseries by their own lifestyle choices.
This thread is to give a voice to those who don't have problems and are completely overlooked otherwise.

Not sure about aging and menopause at my end. I have heard that once menopause hits is when you do start to look older. But I (not menopausal) have no wrinkles. My mother (definitely well past) also has no wrinkles. I think that part is largely genetics for me.

As for the rest, I'll wait and see. I don't plan on HRT though.

I was too busy working at the hospital to bother or worry about what was going on with my bodily functions

My periods were every 28 days until I was 56. I the had a light one one month .... then they just stopped ....no more periods! I had a few hot flushes at night afterwards, but that's it. 4 years down the line and the only thing that's changed is that I took control of my eating habits and lost 7 stone. Win win for me ?

Much the same here.
But you are right it isn't popular to mention being symptom free!

Apart from hot flushes now and then I was fine as was my mum before me. I am now 60

Same here. It was actually a relief when my periods stopped, as they'd been heavy due to fibroids. I was worried about the menopause and I expected hot flushes and never had them. No symptoms whatsoever.
I have acquaintances who had a difficult menopause so I keep quiet and sympathise with them.

Me too ! Just stopped hardly any problems felt a bit hot at times but never anymore than that I count myself lucky !

My periods stopped about 8 years ago maybe 9. I had a couple of flood periods , one randomly six months after I thought I was through it. It was the last. I didn't take hrt as I wasn't having issues. My mother, my grandmother, one of my best friends and another colleague at work all had gotten times with menopause. I was definitely in the minority. My biggest "whoohoo" I could wear white !!!! And have no fears

I was still having periods age 55, but becoming irregular. Same for my mum and grandma. Then unluckily diagnosed breast cancer, oestrogen receptive. Final period a few days before first chemo, which I was told, would stop my periods for good. It did. Emotional on many levels. Now on hormone suppressant tablets (anastrozole) 5 years, half-way through. Tablets have caused numerous side effects, though aches and pains much better now. Hot flushes are completely manageable for me. Some bone thinning but nothing alarming. HRT completely out of the question for me because of oestrogen. Luck of the draw I guess.

Blossoming! Don’t you mean “the menopause you deserve?” rather than “expect”?
I cannot believe you actually said that!
Everyone is different. I’d love to have “expected” a nice way run through! After all I’m Mrs average. No real problems at all through periods and childbirth. I’m 61 and look much younger (thankfully) but I never expected the menopause I got! However, I am glad your expected menopause was good.

I had very painful periods in my youth and was pescribed very strong painkillers. This disappeared after I had children and I went through menopause without any problems, apart from my very last period, months after the previous one, which suddenly appeared while on holiday and completelyy unprepared!
I worried about getting night sweats as I've always suffered from excessive sweating and hate hot weather, but even that didn't happen and my excessive sweating has got a little better with age. It does seem unfair that some people suffer such terrible symproms but I'm grateful to be one of the lucky ones!

Perhaps it’s because we are a fairly down to earth lot who accept that as we age, things deteriorate. Men have their own problems too.
I don’t think women are ‘in the dark’, we know all about the menopause, it’s effects and what we can do about it. If aspects are severe, we act on them.
I personally had a few hot flushes. Now I have vaginal atrophy...I use oestrogen cream.
Stress incontinence...I did pelvic exercises and now have no problems. Waterworks problems...none.
Low libido... mine improved ( probably due to the man I’m with) Osteoporosis ...tested and no problem.
Osteoarthritis ...no.
Sleep problems I’m busy and I walk 5 miles a day. Sleep like a baby.
I’m 67.

Had a cool s o no periods for years then aged 52 started with severe hot flushes lasted 4 years then stopped .I'm healthy i run 4 times a week but I gained loads of unmovable weight

I was 55 when I went through the menopause, once my periods stopped I was absolutely fine, no symptoms at all.
I looked forward to the end of periods because I suffered from ovulation pain as well debilitating pain during the first day of period.