Not your fault Rosie51, you didn't mean to say something hurtful on purpose. I am not the poster to whom GSM refers, but do understand.
Anyway, if anyone is in the slightest bit interested ...... talking of choosing one's own catastrophe, here's my thoughts.
I'm no expert in MH, and certainly no one knows how damaged Harry really is, but maybe he could have used his private suffering over Diana to help others improve the quality of their lives. I thought that was to be his aim with the MH project set up before he married Meghan? That pledge seems to have fizzled out somewhat. To be fair he does still try in this area, but it's all about his own feelings.
As an aside, my DH was a pal of Christopher Reeve who always said he refused to allow his disability determine how he lived his life. This was the start of celebrities offering to do good works from something bad in their lives, like Harry did with the Invictus Games, except Harry spends the other 51 weeks of the years dwelling on all the negatives, licking his wounds, bleating on about himself and erasing all the good. Someone with a true desire to help others has to become more selfless too.