Glorianny
I wonder how many teens and pre-teens will simply hide their social transitioning from their parents and other adults?Just like shortening your skirt or putting your make up on out of sight of disapproving adults has always happened, will they now be one gender at home and add the changes they need to present as another when they go out? I'm not sure that is helpful to any family relationships.
I think that is very possible. Children try on different ways of being all the time. I mentioned subcultural groups recently (not sure whether on this thread or another) and you had a dig, but this is not dissimilar, is it?
Some children grow out of their assumed identities, others don't. But telling a child that because they liked something at 7, or at 13 they must continue to do so for life is surely irresponsible in the extreme?
I have often heard women say that as children they wanted to be a boy because they liked climbing trees and playing football. To me, those things are nothing to do with sex, gender or anything other than being a child. They may have been told by adults back then that these were boyish activities, but that was because of the gender stereotypes of the day. It was obviously very commonplace for girls to enjoy tree climbing and football, as so many bring them up as examples.
I don't know what it is that makes today's children feel that they are 'in the wrong body', but I'm sure it will be something that in 40 years' time will seem equally dated and stereotyped. Condemning young children to a lifetime of hormones and more on the basis of what will, for many, be a passing fad - however deeply felt - is cruel, and I am delighted that this has been recognised by the Cass report.
As for familial relationships, in many ways it is healthy for them to be difficult for a time. As children become young adults it is necessary for them to separate from their parents and be themselves. They need to reject at least some of their parents' values in order to be sure that the ones they hang on to are shared, and that others are their own. I don't see that as unhelpful.