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J K Rowling has nailed it - re Starmer and the trans issue

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Witzend Wed 23-Apr-25 10:09:23

Now he’s changed his mind as to what a woman is, to quote JKR from The Times today, ‘Imagine being such a coward you can only muster the courage to tell the truth once the Supreme Court has ruled on what the truth is.’

Mollygo Thu 24-Apr-25 18:23:14

Witzend

I never understand why those who say that biological sex is a fact, and that a woman is an adult human female, should be seen as anti trans.

I for one certainly am not. I just want women-only spaces, such as changing rooms, to remain as such, and for biological males, especially those who have the great physical advantage of having gone through puberty, to compete only in male sports.

Because they need to justify the ill treatment women have received because of the actions of some trans and TRA.
Nobody, except the perpetrators and their ilk, thought what happened to Brianna Ghey was right.
So is using that to excuse the harm women and girls including my DGD have suffered at the hands of trans helpful?

Whitewavemark2 Thu 24-Apr-25 18:46:10

My soon to be DIL has a friend whom I’ve met who is apparently a trans. She is tiny/fragile very pretty and very feminine. In fact I can’t see anyone suspecting that she started life as male. I certainly didn’t, and even now I know, I simply see her/him as a girl friend of my GS and his partner and relate to her as such.

How on earth is she/he going to use mens lavatories, or if imprisoned (no chance! Too compliant and law abiding) what on Earth would happen to her.

It would be brutal and cruel in the extreme.

Galaxy Thu 24-Apr-25 18:49:28

I don't know whitewave you might need to talk to the people who told them they were female, they have done incredible damage. We obviously can't organise single sex spaces on whether people are pretty are not.

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 18:57:19

JaneD666 I haven’t noticed much outrage about trans men using men-only spaces, or competing in men’s sports, yet presumably they will no longer be allowed to do so. The reason there isn't outrage about transmen in men's sport is because transmen do not get to oust men from their sports. Unless you're able to link to the times when a transman took the medal, the prize money, the sporting record? I wonder why that is? Could it be that transmen, being female, are at a disadvantage to males who are generally taller, definitely have bigger hearts and lungs, better hip angles for running, denser bone, and bigger muscles with faster twitch reflex? You don't tend to hear about transmen being a danger to men in any other areas either, no male awards are given to transmen, most transmen would never be strong enough to be a physical danger to men. It's a completely different set up.

LizzieDrip when I questioned you when you referred to the transman engaged to a relative of mine as 'she' you said you were always consistent and yet I notice you refer to Shirls52000's transwoman daughter as she and her. Not so consistent after all then?

NanaMaryNH Thu 24-Apr-25 18:57:40

In sports- if the concern is she has an unfair advantage, why not screen all teams for unfair advantages- instead of gender? A lot of All-Stars will be excluded because they are built differently. But it will be "more fair". Eg, our town had weight limits on youth football. How about putting limits on "builds" for all sports? ...I think any other objections to a person deciding who they are is scary.

Whitewavemark2 Thu 24-Apr-25 18:58:55

What on earth are you talking about!

You clearly lack empathy and understanding.

This intelligent young person seems entirely balanced and happy with her lot, as she works towards her MSc in psychology.

She house-shared with GS, DIL and others and she was totally accepted as a female.

Mollygo Thu 24-Apr-25 19:02:53

Whitewavemark2

My soon to be DIL has a friend whom I’ve met who is apparently a trans. She is tiny/fragile very pretty and very feminine. In fact I can’t see anyone suspecting that she started life as male. I certainly didn’t, and even now I know, I simply see her/him as a girl friend of my GS and his partner and relate to her as such.

How on earth is she/he going to use mens lavatories, or if imprisoned (no chance! Too compliant and law abiding) what on Earth would happen to her.

It would be brutal and cruel in the extreme.

I agree, but this is what some trans/tra behaviour has brought us to need.
Advocate gender neutral toilets, with enclosed cubicles opening onto a general space, then we can all feel safer.

Galaxy Thu 24-Apr-25 19:04:45

But they aren't female they are male. Society has put those people in a terrible situation. Eventually reality was going to intrude.

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:09:34

J K Rowling got involved in this arena because she tweeted in response to a "people who menstruate" statement by saying "I'm sure there used to be a word for those people. Someone help me out. Wumben? Wimpund? Woomud?" She got attacked immediately for objecting to the erasure of the word 'women'. I think it was the denial of women as an exclusive sex class worthy of respect and the words that had aways pertained to them that alerted a lot of people to this growing creep. Men have never been referred to as people who produce semen or ejaculate, or people with a prostate. Even the NHS produced articles on the same day that in the male health issues referred to 'men' but in the female health issues it was 'people with a cervix', even once 'people with a vagina' . The more that the safety and dignity of women was stripped away the more fervent she has become. Edinburgh only got a single sex female rape crisis centre because she founded and totally funds it. What a vile person she is 🙄🙄 Fancy letting women raped by men have a safe space where no men may go.

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:16:10

NanaMaryNH

In sports- if the concern is she has an unfair advantage, why not screen all teams for unfair advantages- instead of gender? A lot of All-Stars will be excluded because they are built differently. But it will be "more fair". Eg, our town had weight limits on youth football. How about putting limits on "builds" for all sports? ...I think any other objections to a person deciding who they are is scary.

Why do you think sports have largely been divided into men's and women's categories? Are you aware that 15 year old schoolboys hold records for almost every athletic and swimming event that far exceed the elite women's record holder? Think about that, a 15 year old schoolboy better than the finest world record holding woman. I wonder why 15 year old girls don't even come close, what on earth could be the cause?

bmacca Thu 24-Apr-25 19:17:19

jeniharveymindthegap.substack.com/?utm_source=navbar&utm_medium=web

Not sure if people have already seen this, but it’s an interesting article by Jeni Harvey

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:20:05

You have to subscribe to read it. Can you give a précis?

Mollygo Thu 24-Apr-25 19:20:51

bmacca

jeniharveymindthegap.substack.com/?utm_source=navbar&utm_medium=web

Not sure if people have already seen this, but it’s an interesting article by Jeni Harvey

Thanks bmacca

Galaxy Thu 24-Apr-25 19:26:23

It's an article calling gender critical wonen nazis from what I can see.

Whitewavemark2 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:27:35

I must say that talking to my young relatives, and a few of their friends over the weekend, these threads do not reflect what it appears the younger educated people are thinking.

They have much more empathy, and forgiving attitude. They also seem to speak from first hand knowledge.

They understand the feminist argument, and are clear about the difficulties experienced by a tiny minority of women, but seem puzzled by the stance taken.

They largely came to the conclusion that sex/gender is much more fluid and that it is not binary, but on a scale say from the very feminine woman to the very manly woman to trans men , to trans women to very feminine men to very manly They settled however on perhaps 4 classes.

They also thought that there should be more sex/genders recognised to make life as easy as possible for people and their choices of sex and partner be it one of the opposite or same sex.

However, when talking about the potential risk to say women from a male posing as a female they were very non-compromising.

I think in conclusion that they would be startled and not a little bemused by what we see on these threads.

They are much closer to the American argument than what we see on here.

Mollygo Thu 24-Apr-25 19:27:38

I didn’t subscribe Rodie51. But here’s the complete article. Sorry it’s so long.
Antifeminism. But Make It Progressive.
In the aftermath of the Supreme Court ruling
JENI HARVEY
APR 24, 2025

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1

5
22/04/2025, 19:36

It is the aftermath of the Supreme Court Ruling. The Tuesday after the Easter weekend. There have not been many quiet moments in which to reflect since last Wednesday, life has been a wall of noise.

Over the weekend there were protests, which people are entitled to attend. I thought, go crazy - it’s a free country and we still have our ruling for all that. But the sheer ferocity of the backlash has taken me by surprise, though perhaps it shouldn’t have.

It was exactly 8 years ago, in April 2017, that I published my first ever article in the Huffington Post on the issue of gender ideology and its impacts on women. At that time gender criticism was almost entirely socially unacceptable, certainly in the circles I moved in, and I knew no other gender critical feminists at all. Having been much involved with the radically left environmentalist and social justice movements of the 1990’s, it had been a surreal and discomfiting experience to be presented with what was supposed to be the shiny new vanguard of civil rights and equality, only to see something nonsensical and, I thought… sexist. And so, I tried. I turned this new thing upside down. I gave it a shake. I looked at it every which way in order to find some way to believing. But no matter the angle I just could not make myself. Because it was not true. Trans women were not women.

I had not prepared for any great response to my piece; wasn’t sure if it would be read at all. Yet for two days my phone could barely cope with the onslaught of notifications. It panicked me. I turned them off. One long term friendship came to a swift and dramatic end, and I worried I had somehow detonated by life. But I discovered too an underground swell of women, connecting, organising, resisting. I continued to write furiously: male people were not female people, and to pretend that they were cost too much.

Precisely a year later, in April 2018, I spoke at one of the first meetings set up to discuss the issue. A group of women active in the trade unions: feminists, socialists, women on the left, had set up the campaign group Woman’s Place UK to ensure women’s voices would be heard in consultation on proposals to change the Gender Recognition Act. We were due to convene at the Mercure hotel in Cardiff, who then cancelled without warning at the eleventh hour due to harassment and threats made by transactivists. Amid unsettling rumours these activists were trying to locate us we scrambled to find a new venue, eventually holding our meeting in a local primary school.

Just a few weeks later I was set to chair a meeting organised by Venice Allen at the Jam Jar in Bristol. I had arrived early but to access the venue, women had first to run a gauntlet of hostile protestors who had gathered outside to block the entrance with banners and were occupying the stairs leading up to the meeting room. The police had not yet arrived and having managed somehow to get past the entrance, I found myself at once trapped on the stairwell, masked protestors both in front and behind me. For a brief time, I was frightened. Protesters shouted abuse and slogans; I could go neither forward nor back. One man used his chest and arms to prevent me going up the stairs. My nose was at the level of his chest. He was so close I could smell him.

In the June I attended the London radical bookfair held at Goldsmiths university with approximately 300 copies of a pamphlet I had written entitled: Sex, Gender and Women’s Rights. The pamphlet set out to explain the difference between sex and gender from a feminist perspective, as well as the current laws around gender recognition, what the proposals for reform to those laws were, and how these could potentially impact the rights of women and girls. By now I knew enough to ask the people accompanying me not to put my pamphlet out on display until I had had a chance to go to the toilet, as after people had seen me distribute it, it would no longer be safe to go alone. The full story of that day can be found here, but in summary what followed was a sustained attack on women’s speech and intellectual freedom in which my pamphlet was ripped up, set on fire in front of me, and I was subject to torrents of verbal abuse, sexual harassment, and close physical intimidation by men who can only be described as entirely gender conforming. Again, I was lucky not to have been hurt.

Soon after that I spoke at another Woman’s Place UK meeting in Hastings. This one was subject to a bomb threat.

I could go on. But these are just a handful of my experiences of what it has meant to be a gender critical feminist over the last decade, set against a backdrop of endless, endless death threats, rape threats, and disgusting, violent pornographic images sent to me online. I recount them here for the historical record, and to say too that I have been far luckier than some.

So I should not have been surprised by this weekend’s protests and the more general fury brought forth by the highest court in the land having finally said what trans activists had tried so hard to make unsayable: that their demands were not rights at all, had no basis in law or fact, and that actual rights and protections for women and lesbians were being undermined by them. In response the same people who might well decry undemocratic attacks made on the independent judiciaries of France, Hungary and the US took to the streets to declare their own Supreme Court biased and bigoted. Worse though, were the violent expressions of hatred directed at women. Placards depicted us hung from gallows with the slogan: ‘the only good TERF is a dead one’. Others exhorted us to ‘suck trans dick’. ‘Why not try a DIY lobotomy’, asked one, next to an image of someone stabbing themselves in the eye. Another covered in fake bullet holes said ominously: ‘I will make you listen’. A smiling, long haired man held up a sign advocating a return to witch burning, and threats to piss and shit on women abounded on signs and in speeches. In a final symbolic display of contempt for women and feminists transactivists urinated over the statue of suffragist Millicent Fawcett, the only statue of a woman in parliament square.

To use an analogy that is perhaps inappropriate, but I can’t think of another, now feels like having finally walked out on an abusive relationship, in other words the most dangerous time. Men have been thwarted; told no by a bunch of largely middle-aged women, the kind they deem past it, irrelevant, good only for domestic duties. The kind that are supposed to be invisible, that remind them of their nay saying mothers. And they are apoplectic.

Those lamenting the ruling seem barely able to empathise with women at all. Under de facto self ID, snuck in unlawfully by the back door, women have been subject to sexual assaults by male prisoners in UK jails. They have been locked up, terrified, with male prisoners, some of whom are known to have previously abused women and children. Women in US jails have been raped. We have lost access to women only refuge and support when we have been abused, beaten, or made homeless. Women have been forced to play contact sports against men, endangering their safety. A myriad resources supposed to be reserved for women in an effort to tackle the sexism still pervasive in our society: electoral shortlists, book prizes, scholarships and sponsorships have been lost, and we have been persecuted in our workplaces and social circles - some women losing their entire livelihoods - simply for pointing out that this is unjust. Under de facto self ID many women have felt unsafe and lots of us had begun to change our behaviour in limiting ways as a result.

That all of this can happen while most say either nothing or indeed cheer it on tells us everything we need to know about the continued status of women in society. What the male protestors holding signs telling us that ‘Feminism can do better’ are in fact telling us is that they still expect their interests to take precedence over women’s, still expect that women will cater uncomplainingly to their demands, still think that women who do not comply should be singled out for punishment. The misogyny run rampant through this movement is a feature, not a bug.

On the Politics Joe podcast, Ava Santina, Conor Clark and Charlie Craggs sat down to discuss the ruling. Amid multiple references made to evolution - of society having presumably evolved past such retrograde notions of there existing male and female people and with that any clear pattern of one group oppressing the other - Craggs could not see the problem: “I don’t even like girls so why am I being treated like a sexual predator?” Then for good measure: “especially not girls with ugly terf haircuts.” Betraying at once a total inability to empathise with women’s socialised fear of male violence along with a failure to understand that we cannot tell just by looking who may or may not be a danger, Craggs went on to punctuate the point by employing the exact same joke used by Carl Benjamin in relation to Jess Phillips: you’re so ugly I wouldn’t even rape you anyway. Santina, far from being horrified, can be seen collapsing into mirth, her hand over her mouth. Never mind Ava, at least all the boys like you.

The million ways in which people betray their belief that women are unimportant in relation to men find expression all over my social media timeline. Men in particular rage, whine, and attempt to manipulate. They hector and lecture me, presuming to know more about politics, feminism, the law and women’s rights than I ever could. They are being very reasonable: why can’t I just be kind? Why can’t I just relinquish all of my rights and boundaries when they have made it so very clear they want me to and if I don’t, they will be sad? They simply cannot see themselves for the mansplainers, boundary pushers, and misogynists that they are.

I have told them why. Hundreds, if not thousands of times. In every detailed, careful, painstaking way that I can I have explained how and why female people both exist in reality and are entitled to their own rights in law. And I am tired. Tired and down to one word: no. No, I won’t give up my rights and boundaries. Neither will I tie myself up in knots any longer explaining all the ways in which it is possible to respect everyone’s dignity and safety with third spaces, more unisex provision where appropriate, and some mixed sex services alongside single sex ones. Because while those things are possible and I very much do believe in a society in which trans people are respected and everyone’s needs are met, I know it is a waste of time.

Because the only right answer for some people is that women hand over the lot. All the rights, resources, services, and political movements we created from the ground up in order to advocate for our own interests - god even the very words we use to describe ourselves - should now be open to anyone who wants in. Open to those who wish to subvert, upend, and deconstruct them in service of an anti-woman agenda.

I do not believe it a coincidence that this movement has gained so much power at a time when misogyny as a whole has been rising exponentially. Across the political spectrum frightened men living in the aftermath of a financial crash, a global pandemic, and environmental collapse are looking to regain a sense of control. Women find themselves caught in a pincer move between misogynists on the right and left, who threaten either to shunt us back into the kitchen with attacks on our reproductive rights and freedoms, or to deny that we have any specific rights at all. They fight each other for ideological supremacy through culture wars fought mostly online. But when it spills out onto the streets and into the real lives of women it is ugly.

Our brothers on the left would do well to remember their history; that feminist waves emerge from their failures. When in 1848 Elizabeth Cady Stanton found that she and other women were denied a place equal with men in the abolitionist movement, her response was to organise the first women’s rights convention at Seneca Falls that would lead to the demand for women’s suffrage. In the 1960’s the refusal of the New Left and civil rights movements to offer women positions of leadership gave rise to the unstoppable Women’s Liberation Movement that won us the rights we are now fighting to retain. In every instance women who believed in social justice took a good look around and realised that the male compatriots they thought were on their side were not. This time it is no different.

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:27:56

Galaxy

It's an article calling gender critical wonen nazis from what I can see.

Thanks Galaxy glad I didn't bother to subscribe, same old, same old then.

Carlotta Thu 24-Apr-25 19:29:33

we will also to ensure that trans people are treated with respect, and we will, and to ensure that everybody is given dignity in their everyday lives

So what are you getting your knickers in a twist about then? You've received categorical assurance that NOTHING has changed regarding the rights of the trans communities; they have the same protection laws today that they had last week. Their are STILL laws that protect everyone, irrespective of race, religion, sexuality or creed; nothing has been withdrawn apart from women's spaces being for women. But getting angry with women for this is futile; you're angry with the wrong sex. Direct your anger at the violent aggressive men who abused your rights to such an extent that they had to be reduced.

Mollygo Thu 24-Apr-25 19:30:12

You can read it above if you like.
I cut and pasted it.

Carlotta Thu 24-Apr-25 19:38:28

I must say that talking to my young relatives, and a few of their friends over the weekend, these threads do not reflect what it appears the younger educated people are thinking.

Get yourself over to Mumsnet whitewave they're a much younger demographic and x100 more exercised by this! They're young, educated, professional and jubilant! Your theory doesn't hold water at all! grin

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:40:10

Thanks Mollygo that's a good read.

WWM2 to your young people I'd reply there are about 4 billion males on this planet, 4 billion females and 8 billion personalities or 'genders' if that's the word you prefer. Unless you're going to be proscriptive about who qualifies for what 'gender' then our individual personalty is what we have. None of us, not even identical twins are clones of each other. And all 8 billion were the result of a male gamete, a sperm fusing with a female gamete, an ovum, and were 'grown' in the uterus of a female person, commonly called a woman in English speaking countries.

Galaxy Thu 24-Apr-25 19:40:51

And people can obviously believe that sex isn't binary in the same way people can believe the earth is flat but it isn't true.

Rosie51 Thu 24-Apr-25 19:49:33

It's astounding how many ignorant people really think they know than one of the world's leading fertility experts Sir Robert Winston. Perhaps they really do think they're more educated than him, and he got it completely wrong when he said two sexes, determined at conception, immutable.

Ellemo Thu 24-Apr-25 19:50:54

Husband is struggling to use bathroom and shower, can anyone recommend a disabled shower room/wetroom installer

Carlotta Thu 24-Apr-25 19:57:08

What a desperately sad and depressing read that was MollyGo; all that anger and violence against women just wanting to speak. I'd like to say that I'm shocked that a woman would find you're so ugly I wouldn't rape you being said to another woman as being funny but a couple of posts on this thread alone leads me to believe it's happening. It's ironic that our age, our intelligence and our lack of empathy and understanding is the root cause of the whole situation but, there we read a first hand experience of the sheer terror that TRAs wreak on women who have the sheer audacity to not agree with them. No mention of men lacking empathy or understanding is there?