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It’s mum

(64 Posts)
nandad Wed 07-Feb-24 08:39:11

Keep seeing British posters using the word mom. Why? It’s mum or mother not mom. It causes confusion when the location of the poster is relevant if you are giving advice.

Callistemon21 Wed 07-Feb-24 11:45:35

Yes, I say Mom but write it as Mum and always did.
It's a Midlands thing.

Pumps
Buz (a mode of transport)
Bath (not barth)

Callistemon21 Wed 07-Feb-24 11:46:33

utha for other

How else would you say it? 🤔

AGAA4 Wed 07-Feb-24 11:52:20

My DD went through a phase of calling me mim. Just to be different.

Esmay Wed 07-Feb-24 11:59:50

I think that mom or mommy is American ,
Mam is Northern or Welsh and Mum , Mama or Mummy is Counties or Southern English .

Parsley3 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:02:51

It's mOther after all, not mUther.

I hear it as muther and my Glaswegian uncles said mither. Never mother for me. It is interesting how many different pronunciations there are for the same word in the UK. Also, I am mum but now I have learned that mom is also commonly used in many parts of the country.
There are so many variations to be celebrated. What about the reason for not shoving your granny off the bus..... for she's your mammy's mammy.....(I should probaby explain, in case people dont know it, that these are the lyrics of a song and not really inciting elder abuse).

silverlining48 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:05:54

Hadn’t realised that some parts of the country say Mom. I always thought mom was American.
In the south it’s always mum mummy or mother. No longer ma ma a la Downton though.

pen50 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:11:15

My uncle married up in a big way, and my cousins genuinely called their parents mater and pater. In the 1970s and 80s!

Callistemon21 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:14:15

Motherrr! is West Country 😃

Bella23 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:15:25

Harris27

Geordieland girl here it’s ‘ mam’ or nithing for me.

Cumbrian girl here I agree 'It's me mam or mammy', for me or nowt.
When I was young we did not call our grandmothers gran or grandma or nanna, we called them mother the generation before said mud and fad and I still hear it around here where I live.
It's regional or how high up the hill you live, or think you do.wink

Theexwife Wed 07-Feb-24 12:18:24

There are many posts where you would not know which country they are in, if it is relevant they state it.

Bella23 Wed 07-Feb-24 12:25:45

Callistemon21

^utha for other^

How else would you say it? 🤔

t'uther
Bath without the r and grass and not graass .

BlueBelle Wed 07-Feb-24 12:33:31

It’s Mom in some midlands areas it’s Mom in Southern Ireland
I ve only ever used Mum but I don’t think it’s only America that uses Mom

Purplepixie Wed 07-Feb-24 12:36:18

I grew up in the north east where we all said mam. Now live in the East Midlands and people say Mum. I do not care along as they speak to me!!!

Grandma70s Wed 07-Feb-24 12:40:45

When I was too old to say Mummy my mother wanted me to call her Mother. It seemed too formal to me. She wouldn’t have allowed Mum, so I avoided calling her anything. My brother called her Ma, which I don’t think she liked but didn’t argue with.

Ziplok Wed 07-Feb-24 12:41:08

You are incorrect nandad in your assumption that only Mother or Mum are the correct forms in Britain to address your female parent. Their are regional differences, of which “Mom” is one.

sodapop Wed 07-Feb-24 12:41:10

For all those people who say it doesn't matter, this pedant's corner and it matters to us

Ziplok Wed 07-Feb-24 12:41:50

There, not their, sorry.

BlueBelle Wed 07-Feb-24 12:43:48

I grew up using plimsolls moved higher up England and they became pumps then more further west and they were daps

nandad Wed 07-Feb-24 13:02:03

Exactly sodapop. There is no consistency, a friend from Lichfield calls his mother mum. Scottish cousins call theirs mom.
And to the poster saying if it’s relevant to say what country the poster is in they will say, the thing is they don’t. Too often on here and on MN a post will get lots of responses and helpful advice given only to find that the poster doesn’t live in the UK and so the advice isn’t that helpful. I’ve been following a thread where the OP is English but used the word mom and it’s been assumed that they are not from the UK and so people have told them they should seek advice from someone in their own country.

MaizieD Wed 07-Feb-24 13:28:32

I’ve been following a thread where the OP is English but used the word mom and it’s been assumed that they are not from the UK and so people have told them they should seek advice from someone in their own country.

The problem is that the same letter in a word might be pronounced differently according to accent. As pointed out earlier, in some US accents what they spell as 'mom' would be pronounced 'marm'. Unless everyone used the International Phonetic Alphabet,where one symbol spells only one specific sound, no-one reading the word would have any idea of how the writer pronounces it.

MiniMoon Wed 07-Feb-24 15:13:05

I'm a Cumbrian lass too, although I now live in Northumberland. My mother was always called Mam by my sisters and me, but I am Mum to my DD. My DS usually calls me Mother.
As for grandmothers, I had a Nana and a Granny.

NotAGran55 Wed 07-Feb-24 15:18:51

Are there greetings cards with Mom or Mam on them anywhere in the UK 🤷🏼‍♀️ ? Or any where else in the world for that matter?

Kate1949 Wed 07-Feb-24 15:28:22

I've never understood why people think mom is only American. I am 74, born and bred here in Birmingham. I have never heard anyone say mum only mom, although as people have said, mum is what's on greeting cards.

Oreo Wed 07-Feb-24 15:52:06

Grammaretto

Another anuther thing learned from GN.

My DM didn't like mum and we called her mummy or mother.
I'm known as mumbo occasionally shortened to mumb. 😀

😁mumbo jumbo?

Oreo Wed 07-Feb-24 15:54:26

Doesn’t bother me, but I’m Mum and so is my Mum.Never heard anyone in England say Mom but it’s obvs a West Midlands thing.