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Me and................

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CountessFosco Fri 22-Aug-25 16:42:21

Virtually every day, we read or hear "me and my husband/sister/friend etc", even on the BBC [well, that's not really surprising is it], but shouldn't the grammatically correct way be "My husband/sister/friend and I"? Or does the phrase "my husband and I" have other connotations? smile

J52 Fri 22-Aug-25 19:18:13

This drives me mad as well! I was taught that if the pronoun stand on its own in the sentence then that’s the one to use. Thus : My sister and I went for a walk
I went for a walk.
We wouldn’t say ‘Me went for a walk’

welbeck Sat 23-Aug-25 01:03:26

This is so prevalent now that I think it has become an alternative form.

Chardy Sat 23-Aug-25 07:42:32

'Me and Fred' doesn't annoy me nearly as much as 'Fred and myself went to...'

escaped Sat 23-Aug-25 07:43:42

welbeck

This is so prevalent now that I think it has become an alternative form.

Indeed.

Aldom Sat 23-Aug-25 07:54:36

A member of my family uses this form of speech. She's a well educated person in her early sixties. If her father was alive I think he would say something to her about it. I just keep quiet, but it grates on me.

keepingquiet Sat 23-Aug-25 07:58:58

I think if we understand the meaning- who cares about correctness?

I don't understand what connotations you refer to?

Georgesgran Sat 23-Aug-25 08:21:36

This is pedants’ corner kq.

Another that grates on me is ‘her and me’. It sounds like a 4 year old at Nursery!

Myself now seems the norm on tv - ‘welcome to the programme, with myself Jane’

While I’m in a roll - stood/sat. We were stood waiting for ages., then we were sat near the kitchen door.

Oreo Sat 23-Aug-25 08:37:42

keepingquiet

I think if we understand the meaning- who cares about correctness?

I don't understand what connotations you refer to?

The late Queen?
The grammatically correct way sounds perfectly ridiculous to me.

keepingquiet Sun 24-Aug-25 10:10:59

Why didn't she just call him Phillip? That was his name after all- we know he's her husband!

Witzend Thu 28-Aug-25 12:11:25

keepingquiet

I think if we understand the meaning- who cares about correctness?

I don't understand what connotations you refer to?

Quite a few of us do! And it really riles me when people say or imply that these things don’t matter any more.

dalrymple23 Thu 28-Aug-25 14:39:37

Misuse of "myself" drives me to insanity. I wrote a stroppy to M & S yesterday following an email which started: "here's reasons". I queried why they were massacring the English language!

These multinationals really must maintain standards.

Skydancer Thu 28-Aug-25 15:19:01

Yes. I hate this constant use of “myself”.

Allira Thu 28-Aug-25 16:10:44

keepingquiet

I think if we understand the meaning- who cares about correctness?

I don't understand what connotations you refer to?

Or does the phrase "my husband and I" have other connotations?

As the old saying goes:
My husband and I are deeply moved
By Andrews Liver Salts

(Sorry to lower the tone.)

Mollygo Thu 28-Aug-25 16:15:44

Allira

Mollygo Thu 28-Aug-25 16:16:39

Allira
🤗🤗
Re the Andrews

Feelingmyage55 Thu 28-Aug-25 16:19:59

Andrew’s?
Andrew’s’?

Mollygo Thu 28-Aug-25 18:02:10

Feelingmyage55

Andrew’s?
Andrew’s’?

His too.
His too.

Mollygo Thu 28-Aug-25 19:01:24

The trademark "Andrews Liver Salt" was registered in 1909

Doodledog Thu 28-Aug-25 20:56:32

When I see this thread title I get an earworm of Me And Bobby McGee grin

Mollygo Fri 29-Aug-25 02:31:51

Doodledog

When I see this thread title I get an earworm of Me And Bobby McGee grin

Me and my shadow, strolling down the Avenue, has been on my mind since reading.

Allira Fri 29-Aug-25 15:10:16

Yes, that's the one, I was trying to remember it 🎵🎶🎵🎵

Allira Fri 29-Aug-25 15:10:51

Doodledog

When I see this thread title I get an earworm of Me And Bobby McGee grin

Meant to quote Doodledog's post

AuntieE Fri 29-Aug-25 15:21:11

It drives me mad too, and has done so, ever since it first cropped up in nineteen-seventy-something.

Jacky1947 Sat 30-Aug-25 13:42:55

Hubby and me, me and my friend/mum/sister....sound more normal imo smile