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baubles Thu 17-Jul-14 17:00:05

I'm horribly upset, I may even be harbouring slightly unreasonable feelings towards DH's sister.

As some of you may know I'm in the middle of a three month trip. I had arranged for my cat to go into a very swish, well run Cattery for the duration. No one in DH's family would ever countenance paying for boarding a pet, they've only ever had cats and another family member takes over the feeding while the owner is away.

Anyhow DH "let slip" the cost of boarding to his sister who was shocked and annoyed that I hadn't asked her to have Molly. SIL insisted that she would look after my cat along with her own, my objections (her cat is a kitten mine is 12 years old and timid) were dismissed. DH saw no reason why not and against all my instincts I eventually agreed as it was a kind offer, well meant.

I've just been told that three weeks ago my poor wee cat escaped from SIL's house and hasn't been seen since. I had stressed the importance of ensuring that she be kept indoors at least until she was settled and happy and I do feel that my SIL's attitude was a little cavalier. Having said that she is very upset and has made efforts to find Molly including going to my house 12 miles from hers and asking my neighbours to look out for her.

I'm distraught at the thought of Molly being hungry or hurt. I know cats will try to get home but she's elderly and has never been a hunter.

I'm expressing my feelings here as I can't say too much to DH as he now feels guilty for persuading me against my better judgement to leave Molly with his sister.

He feels sad too, he isn't heartless but she's really my cat.

MiniMouse Thu 17-Jul-14 17:12:54

Oh Baubles I can only imagine how you're feeling. I'd be distraught if it were me sad Cats are surprisingly resilient and very good at begging at people's doors, so hopefully she's finding food and she will be returned to you soon. flowers for now.

whenim64 Thu 17-Jul-14 17:27:13

How upsetting, Baubles. I hope Molly shows up soon. Cats are resourceful and it's summer, so she'll be ok if she's outside, but fingers crossed she is quickly found flowers

Lona Thu 17-Jul-14 17:28:12

Oh Baubles I would be livid and distraught. I hope your little cat is ok, and your Sil feels suitably guilty!

Anne58 Thu 17-Jul-14 17:30:41

baubles my heart goes out to you, it is awful to imagine a beloved pet lost, hurt and bewildered. Every good wish that Molly is found safe and sound.

I hope that this will give you hope, when we moved here we had 3 cats, each transported in a separate carrier. As we were getting out of the car, one of the cats (Clucky) managed to get out of her carrier and disappeared! We were distraught, a new house, new neighbourhood that she didn't know, but we went out several times a day calling her name and 2 worrying days later found her hiding in the hedge at the bottom of the garden.

BeeWitch Thu 17-Jul-14 17:47:51

baubles sorry to hear this - I do hope she turns up-some flowers for you flowers

baubles Thu 17-Jul-14 19:03:30

Thanks all for the good wishes.

I'm trying to be positive and not allow my imagination to take over, she won't be cold at least and some kind soul could be feeding her.

Tegan Thu 17-Jul-14 19:18:19

Years ago my cat disappeared and I was distraught [had to have time off work which is unusual for me]. Years later, having moved twenty miles away my husband went to the vets with another cat and, lo and behold our cat was there with an elderly woman who he lived with. Eventually we had him back. I can totally understand why you are so upset. I wouldn't at the time have been quite so upset had something awful happened to him; I would have been heartbroken but it wouldn't have been as bad as the years of not knowing. What I'm trying to say is that cats are very resilient and great survivors. Is she identichipped? Would it be worth putting out a message on a local radio station/contacting local catteries etc etc [I'd hope your SIL has done all of that though; publicity, publicity and more publicity is what's needed]. This also sounds like a time when Facebook comes into it's own. I'm afraid I feel like throttling your SIL [sorry!].

shysal Thu 17-Jul-14 19:58:02

In my experience, making posters and delivering and displaying them throughout the neighbourhood means the cat strolls home the same day! I do hope you have good news soon. As has already been said, it is the not knowing that is difficult. flowers

MiniMouse Thu 17-Jul-14 20:13:36

Shysal You're absolutely right! That's exactly what a neighbour's cat did! No idea where he'd been, but he'd been missing for a couple of weeks and then just wandered home the same day that the posters went up and the leaflets came through our doors grin He was fine and must have been fed by someone somewhere.

Fingers crossed baubles

Just a thought, but the local radio station may be obliging enough to put out an SOS in your SIL's area.

Flowerofthewest Thu 17-Jul-14 20:19:25

Take heart baubles, when we moved our beloved cat was found 3 mile away with our dog. They had decided to walk to our previous home and a neighbour phoned us.

Also another one of mine went missing for 3 months, she was an indoor cat and not a hunter but she arrived on our doorstep one morning well fed and non the worse for her adventures.

I do hope she is safe and finds her way home. I adore my cats know how you feel.

Flowerofthewest Thu 17-Jul-14 20:20:20

Also a friend's cat - a Burmese - went missing, A very homely cat and very unusual for him to disappear. He also turned up after about 2 months of worry.

Flowerofthewest Thu 17-Jul-14 20:21:32

If you or your family are on Face Book try a message there for people to share. I will private message you with my FB details and will share a photo of her.

janerowena Thu 17-Jul-14 20:23:46

I went delivering posters and met a couple, also delivering posters - they had taken my cat in and were trying to find her owner! I had kept her in for a month, it was her first outing off her lead in the garden - and a great big tom cat came and fought her so she ran away.

Marelli Thu 17-Jul-14 21:01:13

baubles, I can imagine how you're feeling, especially when you're so far away from home. She may not even be far away from your SIL's house, though. We had a wee strange cat in our garden for a couple of weeks, and although she wouldn't come to us, did eat the food we laid out for her. Eventually, we discovered that she lived just round the corner, but was only used to going into her own garden then back in the house again. One day the son of the house had dropped something heavy on the worktop and the noise had frightened her and she ran out the front of the house. Apparently she just lost her bearings, but hadn't travelled far. Fingers crossed wee Molly's soon home again. As everyone's saying, though - it's warm during the night and will be for a good while yet. Let us know how things go? xx

merlotgran Thu 17-Jul-14 21:05:42

Like Flower, I think the more people you can get to share the details on facebook the better. Has she been micro chipped?

Fingers crossed she'll be found safe and well.

Deedaa Thu 17-Jul-14 21:14:27

I once looked after my friend's 2 cats while she and her husband went to Tunisia. (They had been kittens we had bred so they weren't complete strangers) After a couple of days one of them got out and disappeared. Suffice it to say that, after various adventures, including one idiot catching her and taking her collar off to read the address - whereupon she vanished again, we did get her back. When our friend arrived to pick them up the first thing she said was "Have you found the cat?" Apparently her husband had had the local paper sent out to Tunisia and he'd seen the Lost Cat advert I'd put in!!!

We had a cat go missing once when we moved. He had never been a hunter but managed to survive for three months until one of our old neighbours caught him.

Nanabelle Thu 17-Jul-14 21:37:42

I would agree with the local radio request. My two cats went missing when only 5 months old while a neighbour was feeding them for us while we were on holiday. They had both found new homes but neither of the people in these homes had contacted the Cats Protection etc. They just took them in and fed them. I was so lucky to knock on the right door the other side of the park from our house. Another time one of these two went missing again and I put out a message on local radio, and got a response the next day! She was only up the road, but lost in some allotments!
Good luck and I do hope you are reunited. We all love our cats so much and hate to think of them lost.

Aka Thu 17-Jul-14 21:51:07

Hope she turns up. We had an elderly one went missing for 7 weeks. Turned up fit and well, just strolled in one day and demanded to be fed asked for her dinner.

Do try local medal, leafleting and Facebook

numberplease Thu 17-Jul-14 22:40:00

After going through this nearly 2 years ago, I know just how you`re feeling Baubles. I do hope that Molly is soon safely back where she belongs.

moomin Thu 17-Jul-14 22:46:13

Baubles - hope she is found safe and well very very soon

annodomini Thu 17-Jul-14 23:33:54

Poor you, Baubles, so far away and feeling sad and frustrated. Cats do reappear after quite long periods. My son's partner's cat was missing for five weeks when she was not much more than a kitten. They put out flyers all over town and finally someone rang to say she was in their garden -about 1km away. Relief all round. Is Mollie chipped?

baubles Sat 19-Jul-14 17:02:35

Sorry for delay in replying, the internet connection here is not so good.

I can't actually remember if she's chipped, we got her from a cat rescue centre so she may be but I'm not sure.

I've posted on Facebook and SIL registered her as missing.

I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful that she will turn up unharmed.

baubles Tue 22-Jul-14 08:02:44

Delighted to report that Molly turned up safely at SIL's house. She is apparently looking thinner but otherwise ok.

I dare say she will be the most pampered cat on the planet now. smile

whenim64 Tue 22-Jul-14 08:04:58

Thank goodness for that, Baubles. Huge sighs of relief all round smile