Dog and wedding

A dog like yours can be a family member. However, nit everyone in a family likes or enjoys the same things. You have to accept the no dog wish. I had dogs and would never use kennels. I did though use one of the organisations that arrange for your dog to go and live with someone in their home. We had photos of what the dog was up to at times. The hosts are usually folk who love dogs but for some reason can't have one full time. More expensive than kennels but worth it. Hope you find a solution without any falling out.

As with most others, I think you are being unreasonable. Not everyone loves dogs, some people are allergic to them. A wedding is not the place for a dog.

My first thought upon reading this post is that it must be a joke.

Let me preface this by saying I am crazy dog lover. Have two that we adore and spoil like mad. I would NEVER, EVER think it was appropriate to bring a dog to a wedding and expect them to be treated like a "member of the family".

I'm sorry but you sound daft.

I just reread your post. You are considering sneaking the dog along and bringing it out for photos? If you are willing to give up any future relationship with your son and his family, go ahead.

Many people have dog or two but I've never seen them at weddings. They all adore their pets but a wedding is not the place to bring your pets. People will be in their finery, they won't want an animal around. It's bad manners. Kennels are fine, they are used to caring for dogs when their owners have to go to an important event. The Bride and Groom are the important people that day, a wedding costs a lot of money, I can't imagine any bride allowing a dog in the photographs. Unless it is a casual wedding and it's the couples' dog.

I cant even imagine why anyone would take a dog to a wedding anway!!

I know we treat our pets likes babys but I think you are going slightly to far with this . I don't wish to upset you anyway but this is a wedding not a get to together in the back garden . They have made there wishes clear and you need to abide by them .

Congratulations on your son's wedding!

The dog can't go because he's not welcome. Is it unreasonable to insist on bringing it anyway? Yes!

It's their wedding and their rules. You need to respect their wishes. Find a good kennel and book in advance. The dog will be fine.

The point of a wedding is that two families publicly bond

No, two people publicly bond. It's nice when whole families can be involved in the celebrations but they are not part of the bonding commitment. The word public is important here: I think anyone can attend the actual marriage ceremony, but only invited guests can go to what used to be called the wedding breakfast, nowadays reception.

We are not allowed to mention on Gransnet a certain five letter word when an opening post gets the kind of response this one has. If we were I'd be tempted to say "Top ***ing!"??

There should be five asterisks.

Sorry kiki but as a dog lover and one who usually shouts fir their rights then, if you are for real, you need to ‘get a life’ and some friends who can have your pet for a day or two.

I'm with the bride. NO DOGS means no dogs! Whatever owners say they always jump up. Imagine marking her beautiful dress.

grannygranby usually it's two people joining together in holy matrimony until death do them part.
Your family may do things differently, though, and I am intrigued.
Gransnet love fuelling anti-dog comments Untrue
dogs like to sleep a lot and are happy in bed in car
No! Do not leave a dog in a car on a warm day, they can overheat and die.

Anyway I think kiki's got the message now!

Get a dog sitter, not that hard surely. I wouldn't want a dog at my wedding either.

Why on earth would you think it acceptable to force them to have your dogs at their wedding !

It’s their wedding and their choice and if you want to maintain a good relationship with your son and future daughter in law, please make alternative arrangements for the dog on their wedding day.

If it isn’t a local wedding, where were you planning to put the dog overnight? Presuming you’re staying. At the very least, it would need to be left somewhere during hours of the reception.

You may be a dog lover, but those who are the principals in the wedding, aren’t. You need to accede to their wishes.

candelle that is indeed a BAD idea as the daughter in law has expressly said I don’t want your dog at my wedding and then she goes round to a lunch invite with her mother in law and sees a beautiful wedding photo complete with dog on the wall or mantle shelf If that was me I would be SO angry I d probably walk out with the photo going in the bin on my way out and not come back, that in my opinion a big no no no

I m not at all convinced Kiki has got this at all and will still try and make trouble with this dratted dog which is obviously more important than the son and daughter in law and their feelings

Sorry kiki2, it’s all been said.

Let's stop blaming the bride for not wanting a dog. The son agreed to this policy as well.
Maybe it was initiated by the son. We do not know.

So it is not only the bride, the groom and bride do not want dogs at the wedding.

No sane person wants to put their dog through this .
No sane person wants a dog at a wedding
Got the message ?

We have a dog - and we would not take her to a wedding. Perhaps ask someone (a neighbour or friend) if they can check on your dog at home, let him out for what he needs to do etc, or let him stay with them for the day? It would be likely to cause a lot of upset wouldn't it, if you took your dog with you, under the circumstances?

You are being completely unreasonable in wanting your dogs to go. Not everyone like or loves dogs and your son is making a future with someone who doesn't like dogs that much so you are just going to have to get use to it or makes a choice between son or dogs.

The problem with asking opinions is that they frequently disagree with your own. I loved my dog, but she went into kennels or to a neighbour’s for all the weddings I attended except my daughter’s, when she stayed at home.
Dearly loved family member though she was, she wouldn’t have understood the significance of the occasion, the need not to bark and the fact that not everyone would want her there.
Don’t risk starting a feud that could affect the rest of your relationship with your son and his wife. Be prepared in advance for the possibility that your dog won’t be welcome to meet any future grandchildren.
If you can get over this, I hope you enjoy the wedding. They will appreciate you honouring their request.

I have 2 very well behaved dogs, but I wouldn’t dream of taking either of them to a wedding, unless they were invited!!!
Who wants a dog with them on such an occasion? Not me.