Dog and wedding

I totally understand why you would want your dog at the wedding as my daughter married her fiancé in October & it was a bit difficult for us too as dog lovers

This is the attitude I don’t understand. That somehow not watching a dog at your wedding means you are not a dog lover. So entitled. You can put your dog in kennels and still be a dog lover.

Crazygran

OMG !!!!
Why would anyone put a dog before their child ?????

Kiki has complained in the past about how selfish her children are. Either the Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, or selfish means “doesn’t kowtow to me”. Either way, it’s clear she doesn’t like them very much.

It is very difficult for you to be torn between your children, the human ones and the dog one.

What? Yikes

jinty44 has summed this up nicely. Power struggle at its most basic. I’m getting a hint of “mil wants son to choose her side over brides”

Your future DIL will be absolutely furious and might never have anything to do with you again. Not everyone likes dogs and many people don't have children to their big day. Save yourself a lot of grief and put the dog in a good kennels it is not your day.

There’s no way you should take the dog. I am a dog-lover, and also look after friends’ dogs on these sort of occasions. It seems to me that it is not that you don’t want to leave your dog elsewhere, but that you want him with you. He may be part of the family, but I suspect there are some children who will also not be invited.

OP - the spirited responses were because the whole idea is beyond credence!

Good decision regarding your dog. I’m sure you’ll find lots of alternatives that you can use. Where you know your dog will be happy and you can go and enjoy your sons wedding. Fingers crossed you find somewhere that suits you.

So many opinions on this question.unless I’ve missed something everyone saying No don’t do it, there’s your answer. Repeated over n over again, I hope your son and daughter in law have a wonderful day, and enjoy their wedding day, and I sincerely hope you have a great day too but leave your dog at home being properly looked after

I would be horrified to turn up at any wedding to find a dog there. I am a dog owner and there is a time and place for a dog and a wedding is not one of those. Kennels for the day is the answer.

Your dog might enjoy some parts of the wedding but how will he like lots of people, noise, children possibly pulling him about, and a very long day when he probably would want his basket and some peace. It doesn't soud ideal for him, and quite hoesntly you could start a major family row if you try to insist, and alienate your future daughter in law for ever. Why not find a willing neighbour, or dog sitter, and let him have some time with them to get him used to it?

You are thinking of yourself and what you want, not your dog and what is best for him/her. As everyone has said, don’t take the dog to the wedding, kennels or a dog sitter is the answer. It’s the brides special day, not yours

Your future daughter in law couldn’t be clearer kiki

NO DOG

End of. Not negotiable.
Not even by saying your son is a dog lover.
See!
You are already looking for cracks in their relationship.

Wind your neck in otherwise you’ll be on here in 18 months or so, wondering why you and your dog aren’t welcome to the christening of your dear grandchild‼️

I wouldn’t want a dog at my wedding either.

Really??

The subject of this thread was quite clear from the title; I clicked on it with every expectation that the response would be YABU almost regardless of the circumstances. I was still amazed to find the OP was talking about disrupting her own son's wedding ?.

Your new DiL could be the kindest, most gracious person imaginable but if you go ahead with your utterly selfish plan what chance do you think there is of EVER being allowed access to any dgc when you have shown you cannot be trusted?

Like others, I suspect this thread is a wind up. I hope it is because if not I suspect you will become a very lonely person

Go on take the dog to the wedding .... just be prepared to never get another invite to anything!

I really love my dog she is my best friend.
But she is a dog and is treated like a dog. She doesn't sleep with me, eat with me or wear clothes.
She had a soft comfy bed and plenty of dog food. Regular walks running on the beach and muddy fields. Vet care whenever she's ill.
I don't share the dog food or vet. And she doesn't go everywhere with me all the time. Because she's a dog.
Find a kennel or dog sitter before you alienate your son and daughter forever.

Is this really still running?

Your next problem will be when they have a baby and they want the dog around the child.

Why would you ever think that you could take a dog to a wedding? especially if the bride does not want this - It is her day after all.
I have dogs and always use a local kennels if invited to any social occasions overnight.
You may love your dog but lots of other people will not!!

Of course you shouldn’t take the dog . It may be part of your family but it’s not part of theirs.
This is their day and it’s their decision.
Either put the dog in kennels or get a dog sitter.
Surely your son means more to you than your dog.

Yes, you ABU. I have a much loved dog but she belongs within her controlled environment and is not imposed on others. I will admit I feel the same about children at weddings after experiencing quite a few ruined by bored, sometimes screaming, sometimes outrageously badly behaved small people. Dogs possess the same potential.

It’s only 2 days Maw! Actually I’ve only just seen it.

I'm not particularly a dog lover. I wouldn't hurt one and I do make a fuss of friends dogs even to the point of making dog coats when requested, but my friends know that I do not want their dogs in my home. This also applies to the only relative we have with a large, smelly, dribbling, loud, boisterous black Labrador.................IT IS NOT WELCOME IN OUR HOME! They don't bring the dog and would not dream of doing so.

You are not being unreasonable. I had exactly the same problem in 2015 when my daughter got married at a venue 45 miles from where we live. It did get resolved amicably as the venue had cottages nearby and a few more up a lane so we stayed in one of them where the dogs couldn’t be heard if they barked (we have three dogs and actually my daughter has two)..
My daughters concern was she would hear barking as she made her vows (it was held in a stunning barn especially for the purpose of weddings).
Funnily enough 14 years earlier she had been a bridesmaid at my sister in laws wedding which was held at a lovely Inn just before Christmas. We took our dog with us and also looked after my sister in laws dog (both were large labradors) in a camper van we had driven down in. It was my then 13 year old daughter (the bridesmaid) who let them out and they run amok at the reception but luckily the bride thought it was hilarious and they ended up being in all the photos.
I can understand totally how you feel. I would never put our dogs in kennels as they are ‘rescues’ and would hate it. Maybe you could consider a dog sitter but better still can you not book a nearby dog friendly cottage to stay in and pop back every so often to see your dog? Probably bringing the dog to the wedding will cause drama so maybe not do that.
Let us know what you decide.

Definitely do not take the dog unless you want a major fall out with her.

I don't know if anyone has suggested it as I've not had time to read the full thread but why not just get dressed up again a little while later for the doggy photos.

After all the pressure will be off and you will all be much more relaxed about it.

Only 2days but 275 posts * Urmstongran* !