Dog and wedding

Hello suziewoozie
There is no point having dogs if you have to keep putting them in kennels
There is also a slight matter of the cost ! Perhaps you haven’t thought of that ?!

I have no idea where you live but a friend here with a dog pays for someone to take the dog if she is going to be out all day.

She found this person by looking for a dog walker. The dog loves her new "friend" and her owner can go out without worry.

Much cheaper than kennels and
OP you are talking about one day......surely you can manage for one day or you could find a willing neighbour or someone else but a dog walker might be better as they will already be used to different dogs

There is no point in having a DIL if you are going to p***s all over her feelings. There is also the slight matter of the cost (to your future relationship with her and her future family).

If you persist with this nonsense, upon your own head be it. Do not be at all surprised if you find yourself estranged from your family.

I feel so sorry for this poor DIL as I contemplate what her future might be with such a MIL.

Just get a grip!!

I note that most of the posts telling you to behave sensibly are from know Gransnet dog lovers. It is possible to love a dog without losing sight of reality.

Kiki2
You are clearly picking your dogs over your son and dil.

It is your right to choose and not for anybody to judge it.

Your son and dil also have the right to pick what is best for them and may not agree with your decisions. It is something you have to learn to live with

NO NO NO I like dogs but no I would not want one at a wedding, at a party or in a cafe thanks they have their place in society and are great companions but never at a wedding and as your new daughter in law has already said no
I m not at all sure why you are even asking us
You have talked about problems within your family already so maybe this would cause yet another fall out

There is also a slight matter of cost perhaps you haven’t thought of that now whose being rude ? If you can’t afford the costs associated with keeping dogs then don’t have one There will be times they may have to go in kennels
I don’t even like the idea of photoshopping the photos what message will than give to the daughter in law if she visits and sees that on the wall (I d want to take it straight down)

Forget your dog and enjoy your child’s wedding

''But a wedding is not the place for a dog. ''

unless of course the bride and groom would like it to be- a wedding with dogs...

In this case, it is clear as a bell NO dog- yours or anyone else's.

Personally, Id love it

youtu.be/WobyjAjSGyE

youtu.be/0ksBMLmXhtU

but ... this is not what you DIL wants - so it is NOT going to happen.

If OP is indeed the same person Hithere it might be a case of the dog being the member of the family with whom kiki has the best relationship. Dogs are patient, loyal, usually uncomplaining and perhaps since the AC left home OP has lavished her love on her 4=legged friend. Especially if the DH is as grumpy as he sounds.
But dogs however much we love them are not child substitutes. (I must remember trying to tell Hattie that when she sneaks up to a spare bed in the night though)
This latest issue is a relationship crisis just waiting to happen.

There is no point having dogs if you have to keep putting them in kennels

Do you keep putting them in kennels? There’s nothing in your posts to suggest you are. You’ve had a number of suggestions but you seem hellbent on ignoring them which makes me wonder why you bothered to post - you seem to determined to continue in your belief that everyone should love dogs and your DIL should accept your dog if she’s marrying into your family. Don’t be ‘that’ MIL.

kiki
*There is no point having dogs if you have to keep putting them in kennels
There is also a slight matter of the cost ! Perhaps you haven’t thought of that ?!*
It’s clear you prefer your dog to your children. Just stay home with your dog.

MawB - "“Four Weddings and a Funeral”"
EXACTLY what I thought when I read the OP.

Kiki2 - Please don't sneakily take your dog. If you have specifically been asked not to, then you've been asked not to for a reason. This could lead to an almighty bust-up and could affect your entire future relationship with your son, daughter-in-law, and any future grandchildren.

I do understand how you feel about your dog, really I do. I think unless you are a real dog-lover, then it's hard to appreciate just how much your pet can mean to you.

But it wouldn't be fair on the dog to take him somewhere that it's really not wanted, or welcome. And as has been said by others, where would he be when you are taking part in the ceremony and reception?

I think the idea of finding a dog-sitter is ideal and you have plenty of time to find one, either near to the wedding location, or near to your home, so that your dog and the sitter can become acquainted.

is this April 1st?

Ive never heard the like of it. If you were invited to someone else's wedding you wouldn't turn up with an extra uninvited guest would you?

I seriously suspect going to a wedding is not high on a dogs list of priorities. Get a dog sitter or put the dog in kennels and go and enjoy the wedding.

Goodness Kiki, how many weddings is your son planning on having if you ‘ keep having to put your dog in kennels’. Plus your rather unkind to those of us that love our dogs but also put them in kennels occasionally.

Btw the kennels my dogs go to costs £15 per night for the 2 of them including food and that’s in Sussex/Surrey borders, not an area renowned for its cheapness.

jura2 your You tube clip is gorgeous, but I suspect somebody might be finding poo in their shoe next morning judging by the expression on the bulldog’s face!!

This is getting ridiculous, the cost for my dogs to go in kennels is £15 each per day that's hardly a fortune. Something any dog lover would happily pay to know their dog was being well cared for and safe for the day. To think you can just rock up at the wedding with your dog in tow is asking for an almighty falling out with your family, they may never speak to again. If you think relations are strained now just wait for the fall out if you decide to go ahead with your crazy plan.

Oh my goodness are you serious? I love dogs but anyone who brought a dog to my wedding (It never occurred to me that anyone might) would have been asked to leave! I had 2 invitees who are severely allergic! I would rather they be imcluded than someone who showed that much disrespect to us!

Never bring anyone (or anything) that isnt invited, to someone else's wedding. For "a few photos" or otherwise

It's just RUDE!

I think you have a fairly unanimous answer kiki

The petsitter I use for my cats charges £10 a day. If that's a stretch for the OP, buy the happy couple a wedding gift that costs £10 less you'd planned to spend.

I am just pondering the difference between a real dog lover and a common or garden not real dog lover.

I like most dogs but that doesn't mean I like all dogs.
I loved my own dogs but wouldn't inflict them on anyone who did not like them or was nervous around them.

Dogs have no place at a wedding imo, not everyone is comfortable with dogs. If the bride doesn't want a dog at their special day then she should be respected. There is no discussion to be had.

Oh yes, I'd forgotten, the only wedding I went to where the dog walked down the aisle, the dog was the ring bearer.
The couple are divorced now.

kiki2, yes, you are being silly - very silly! It's their wedding, after all. Find a local dog sitter and book a place well in advance. (Yes, I do have a dog that's treated as a baby - but she's perfectly happy with the sitter!)

It seems some people have photos with dogs at weddings after all ! So perhaps not completely silly after all

Having just read all the posts, kiki the advice seems to be (and quite rightly in my opinion) do not take your dog to the wedding or ask for him to be in any photos (or sneak him in). What would you normally do if you had to go somewhere and the dog could not come? I understand about not wanting to but your dog in kennels and I never wanted to put mine in either but could someone not look after him for a bit?