Dog and wedding

Oh you really take the (dog) biscuit kiki!!

Could it be, demanding your dog is present at the wedding, is a ploy to ruin the day/making sure lots of focus is on you and your dog?

I ask this as no matter how many of us have explained how wrong this idea is, you refuse to take any advice offered.

I have had dogs all my life but, as much as I loved them, never, never have I put them before humans.

Bizarre !

My daughter and her husband actually had their dog at their wedding (and in some photos and the wedding cake topping had a very realistic stylized bride/groom/dog in icing) but, even she admitted later, that the dog had been a bit of a nuisance. I held the lead during the ceremony, which was held outdoors, but she wanted to jump up at the bride as she approached the groom and was whining!

The dog, whom all the family does love, bit off all the expensive flowers pinned to her lead and a sitter had to be found for the day ( while we ate, danced etc. ) as the dog wasn't allowed to be in the hotel venue room on her own. My daughter got told off the next morning, when we all came down for the wedding breakfast, as she hadn't booked the sitter for that.

I think the new DiL will be ramping up for saying no dogs at their house too, especially if children come along, so you will have to start thinking about regular alternate arrangements for your dog if you want to see them often. It's just the way it is. Some people like dogs and can accommodate them, others don't.

Callistemon and MawB -

I am quite sure that new DIL will not want your dog at her home - her position is clear.

You do need to get your head round that.

This would not be an easy thing for us- as we adopted a 13 year old dog last year. She had lived all her life with other dogs, and for the past 12 years with her son. As we could not adopt both- they had the other dog euthanazed and she cannot be left now for more than a few hours. We tried the best kennels for a couple of nights, and she is not allowed to return- as she cried and then howled like a wolf- all night- setting the other dogs off.

So she would have to come with us- and we would leave her in our car- for a couple of hours at a time- and take her for regular walks- then stay at a Hôtel that takes dogs nearby.

As we know she will jump on the bed- we bring a superKS, tightly woven sheet to put on the bed- out of respect for others.

Would never even consider taking her to a function where we know she would not be welcome. End of.

I think perhaps people have been blunt because it’s such a mad idea! Sorry OP but a dog at a wedding is just bonkers.

I cannot believe you are even asking about this. You intend putting your dog (much loved as I am sure it is), before the future happiness of your son and daughter-in-law. How do you think that makes you appear to her - what a dreadful start to a relationship.

Gosh, I love my dog (soon to be dogs) to bits and can undersand your devotion. However, I really think that dogs at weddings, unless they belong to the bride and groom who want them in their pics, are a no no. From everyone's point of view, not least your own, doggie stays behind on this occasion. There must be some arrangement you can make for him/her. You may want to consider joining 'Borrow my Doggie' if you have no one to help out when you need it. I can't personally recommend that as I'm not a member but have a friend who is and is very happy with her arragement. Worth researching perhaps?

Wow - Sensitive much Op? And the dog-thing. Oh my days...all I can say is lord help your daughter in law - I do so hope that she’s a mums/gransnet user- I await her MIL posts with interest!

The dog is not invited, you have to comply with this. You could start a family rift and if I was you I wouldn’t want to lose my Son for causing trouble on his special day. Find a dog sitter and go and enjoy your Sons’s wedding like you should.

I had my lovely retriever at my wedding .. but of course, it was my choice and my favourite photograph of all included her .. BUT .. we had arranged for her favourite family friend to have her for our honeymoon and she had moved house before our wedding so she was fully settled. I will never forget her delight at seeing me walk down the aisle ... of course we had to stop and greet her! However, respect for the wishes of your new family member on her wedding day would be the very best gift you could bring, so my advice is to plan ahead and pay for a dog sitter for the day. I do hope you all have a fabulous day.

Kiki2,
I totally understand why you would want your dog at the wedding as my daughter married her fiancé in October & it was a bit difficult for us too as dog lovers. My sister in law dog sat, as it was a very small wedding with immediate family only. I missed our dogs presence but knew he was being liked after at home. Had I been told quite clearly that he was not allowed there it wouldn’t have been a problem for us a we would have respected the bride and groom’s wishes- as it was -my husband chose not to bring him along himself. Just go along with whatever the bride and groom request as it is after all, their special day. Good luck.

How can you even think of taking the dog?
You must respect the bride's wishes. You may think your dog is part of the family but others don't!
You could always take photos of the dog with your son, in his wedding attire before the day - as the bride doesn't like dogs, there is no way that she would want photos with the dog.
There may well be people in your area that would be happy to dog sit either in your house or their own for a few days if you don't want to use kennels. Ask around other doggy friends for recommendations.

Is this a genuine post? I’ve had dogs my entire life and have always considered them part of the family but never in a months of Sunday’s would I ever take one to a wedding. It’s your son and dil wedding not your dogs. Bringing him out for the odd photo makes it sound like you want the dog to be the centre of attention

You must respect their decision. Don’t do it.
At our son & DIL’s wedding 2 guests turned up with uninvited children!! Not on!! Their day their rules.
My friend’s dog was a ring bearer at her wedding but that was different.
Anyway apart from guide dogs would your dog be allowed at the venue?

Regardless of who loves dogs and who doesn’t the bottom line is that your prospective DIL has said an emphatic NO to dogs. It’s their wedding, not yours so respect their wishes. Would you really want an angry and uptight bride and groom on the day (and for, potentially, many years afterwards)? Instead of trying to wangle a way to sneak the dog in, use your time and energy to find a suitable sitter/kennel. Your dog won’t hold it against you, but your son might!

You are being totally unreasonable.

Dog at a wedding, what a jape. Kiki’s Posts are always controversial. I wonder whether she wants the attention of the newspapers?

In answer to your Q, Kiki, aibu - absolutely, you are being unreasonable. Sorry, but you did ask.

A Wedding is no place for a dog unless it is the Bride and Groom's wish.

I'm do perform wedding ceremonies and I've yet to see a dog at a wedding. But I have seen a few you tube videos so it does It's only when the couple can't bear to leave their "furbaby" somewhere else for the day.

It is her day and that of your son.
I know you love you dog as a family member but you will need to defer to their wishes.
Can you find dog friendly accommodation nearby so you can have your fur baby close by and, if not kennels, a dog day care might also be the answer.
Or.....there are companies who have retired police and military who will house sit your home and dog.
I hope all can be resolved.

Hi kiki2. We to are dog lovers and very rarely go away without them. If we do want to go to London for the weekend or for a big family occasion, we have a local teenage girl come and sit with them. She is the daughter of neighbours and the dogs love the fuss they get from her. I hope it all works out for you.

Do not bring your dog to the wedding! I've never heard anything so ridiculous. Your reputation must go before you if they've had to tell you this. Wise up. Dogs do not need to be in photos. Sheesh I've heard everything now.

I agree with Baggs and Maw. A dog should not go to the wedding if not invited. It is what it is. A Dog not a human being.
I am a dog lover but do not have one anymore. Our dogs were truly loved but as dogs and were not humanized.
Have you thought of other guests? Maybe some maybe allergic to animal dander.
Kennels are a good solution. We used them often for our lab who liked his little holiday there.