Dog and wedding

Up to them its their wedding. Deal with it and organize kennels.

Unless it's a guide dog, why on earth would anyone take a dog to a wedding? I'm quite fond of my cat but I don't expect to take her to social events. If you ask around or even just google, I'm sure you could find a lovely, caring kennel. It's on a day or so - please don't let this become more than a trivial issue.

Have you heard of Borrowmydoggy.com? There are doglovers on that who walk dogs for others simply for enjoyment of their company, also some who can have them over holiday periods. I walked a lovely dog for months who went to another family for holiday stays, as I couldn't manage to have him in my flat.
Never take your dog anywhere where dogs are not welcome for whatever reason. Many people have health or anxiety problems with dogs, also unfamiliar busy situations, such as weddings, are totally confusing and anxiety creating for the animal, however much you personally would like them there.

Yes, most of us are fond of pets, but realise that animals are animals that provide company and affection for their owners, but should be respected as the beings they are.

What this boils down to, is that very few dogs are comfortable at large gatherings, so that is one very good reason for not taking a dog to a wedding.

Another, even better one, is that you have been asked not to bring the dog. Unless you want to start a row with your DIL, obviously you cannot take the dog, and to be quite honest you are the one being unreasonable here.

You say you could prevent the dog jumping up on the bride's beautiful dress - are we talking about taking a dog to church? The only dogs I have ever seen in church were guide dogs, unless we are talking about a St. Hubert's Mass where hunting dogs are obviously brought on that one occasion to mass.

Presumably, you have time to either find a neighbour who can and will look after the dog for the day, or find a kennel.

If your son and daughter-in-law are intending to have a family, you may as well face the fact that the dog won't be welcome at the christenings or probably around the children.

Your daughter-in-law has just as much right not to like dogs, as you have to be fond of them.

Some couples like to have THEIR OWN DOG at their OWN wedding- but ive never heard of other guests taking their dog along as though its 'one of the family',unless you need an assistance dog then theres no reason for it.Baggs was just being honest& blunt,you seem a bit 'sensitive' kiki2 if anyone criticises your dog? Isnt your son more important to you? I love my cat but wouldnt want to take him along to family gatheringsFind the dog a dog sitter-or go look around a few local kennels,see if theres any you might agree to,im sure theres some that treat them like a four star hotel for pets these days?or look around locally,theres people who look after pets in the dogs own homes,or just pay daily visits/ walks etc,or look after them in their own homes,etc etc.lots of choice.or surely theres a friend or neighbour who could help whom your dog probably already knows?i feel youre making a big issue of this as your future DIL is not a dog lover.she doesnt have to be.she does love YOUR SON though,and thats the main thing,isnt it?

I walked away, but had to come back and reply
Kiki, you are being unreasonable
Your priority is surely for your Son and his future wife
I am a dog lover / dog sitter, but find your idea incredulous.

Can you befriend another family locally with a similar type of friendly dog as yours - have a partnership thing going, you help them/they help you - you bothe get great benefit from it and the dogs are happy for some company and a change of scenery.

I have a very unfortunate allergy to dogs...along with many, many other things, that affect my lungs. I would be so very, upset, that the one place I thought I could go to and enjoy with my family, could end up with an embarrassing and uncomfortable episode for me.
Apart from anything, it is “their” wedding day, we have had ours (possibly), some respect for them now will go a long way for the rest of your life, don’t rock that particular boat!

Lol nooo of course you can't take the dog to the wedding or reception! I've never seen a dog at any such event. These days you're lucky if you can even take children

I think it's unreasonable to take a dog to a wedding unless it's either a guide dog or hearing dog which my cousin has got. And just sits quietly. Not everybody likes dogs.. if it's problem don't go to the wedding.

Do not take your dog to the wedding.
If you dont want to put into kennels then use Trusted House Sitters or House Sit Match where people come to your home and look after your pets there.
They are well respected and even my police officer friends use them si they must be good.

At first I thought this was a wind up post, but no the OP is obviously just blinkered selfish and oblivious to the feelings of others. The only permissible dogs at weddings should be guide dogs who are trained to behave well.

OMG !!!!
Why would anyone put a dog before their child ?????

You are being totally Unreasonable!!! I love and have two dogs but I wouldn’t dream of placing anyone let alone a future dil in a situation that she felt uncomfortable with - I really can’t believe that you are seriously thinking of sneaking the dog into their wedding day so he can be in a couple of photos - this is unrealistic and deranged thinking - you will lose your son instantly - get a dog sitter and if you don’t know one already and you never use kennels this is perhaps a wake up call to yourself that you are over reliant on your dog - not healthy.

Kiki, I can't believe you are serious with this question. It' your son's wedding. It's not about who is or isn't a dog lover, it's your son and his bride's wedding. A very special event for humans not dogs. You have been told quite specifically not to bring the dog. What is there that you don't understand about that request? It's not your day and not about you and your dog.

You are being deeply disrespectful of your son and his bride and are in grave danger of ending up with an estranged son and DIL but a terrific relationship with your dog. Your choice.

Ask your usual vet if theres anyone or any kennels they can recommend to you?or maybe ( if you know them well) one of their own nurses may help if its just for a day or overnight? Some veterinary students may offer this service to boost their student finances?Or older people who love animals & want to boost their earnings or a small pet sitting buisness?I found a lovely couple who look after my cat when im away on a card advertising in my usual vets practice on notice board.Reasonable rates and theyve been taking care of him 10 yrs now,and i 'sussed them out' first with the vet.im sure theres the same thing maybe for looking after dogs too?you need to bother to look.

Sorry but I agree with everyone whilst I can understand you regard your dog as part of the family it would be wrong to take a dog to a wedding. Sometimes we have to put others wishes before our own.

You are being a silly lady . It’s not up to you who comes to the wedding. I would hate to be your daughter in law with you banging on about your dog, I would know I did not mater at all . It’s all about a photo for you not anyone else, Photo shop the dog on to a picture.. Put your energy into your sons life by welcoming his bride. Otherwise you will find yourself not invited to see them or future grandchildren because you put your fear of leaving your dog before them. If the dog could talk he would say a wedding was not the right environment for him he would rather go for a walk with a dog sitter. Alternatively perhaps you should stay at home with your dog !

I admire your son for being honest with you. It can’t have been easy for him to have this discussion.
I agree with most of what others have said. You are putting your own feelings before those of your future daughter in law, not a great start to this relationship.
What would you do if you were hospitalised or had another emergency? Who would take the dog?
I hope you take heed of the advice from Gransnetters and draw a line under the matter now.

And really,your dogs not going to care one way or another if hes in any photos or not,is he?

Well, I've heard it all now!
Most children are not allowed at weddings.
I have 3 dogs and love them all dearly but would never dream of taking them so someone's house never mind a wedding.
Kennels do day and half day care. They don't have to stay overnight.

YABVU! If you had a guide dog, that would be another matter. You sound very eccentric! If you persist with this obsession, you will not be welcome in your son's home.

Baggs, where does “what on earth is it with dog owners” come from?

I adore my dogs, but I wouldn’t consider taking them to a wedding. Others here have said the same.

To the OP, no need to put them in Kennels, use a pet sitter.

I can’t quite believe this. I wouldn’t have a dog at a wedding under any circumstance! Put your son and future daughter in law first and wake up. Put it in kennels and enjoy the wedding. It’s a dog not a human being.

At a recent family wedding the much loved family dog's photo was set in a prominent place on the head table, so was included in photos that way. Said dog stayed happily at home but since that will not be possible at this event so why not arrange kennels for the day somewhere very local?

This has got to be a wind up! Got some response thou'.