Dog and wedding

I am a dog lover & I get that you don't want to leave your dog behind or put it in kennels but it is their day not yours and the bride and groom should be the focus of the wedding after all. Taking your dog along because you want a couple of photos is unrealistic when it's not welcome in the first place.Let's face it, in this instance the photos aren't likely to be happy ones to cherish are they? I understand the way you feel I can't bear to be parted from my dog and will be in a similar situation to yourself should either of my children get married and have christening parties etc, he will just have to go to kennels or a dog walker/sitter as I don't have anyone else I trust to leave him with.If you've got some time before the wedding it might be worth trying him at a kennels/dogsitter etc beforehand to see how he gets along then if you do decide to go ahead you'll be more relaxed at the wedding because you'll know that he's ok and safe.

My dog is a much loved family member. I put her in kennels for 2 nights when my daughter got married. It’s all too much for them.
Your dog will be in strange surroundings if taken to wedding anyway. So why not pop the dog into nice away from home kennels. People will dig sit in your home too. Good luck I wouldn’t take the dog.

Yes theoddbird I have now got the hint thank you
When I posted this , I didn’t realise it would unleash such passion
I would like to thank the people who have advised me nicely and have kept a neutral tone and if you are one of those , you will recognise yourselves so thanks again.
I would also like to say though that I am quite shocked by the tone of some of the responses which occasionally borders on the vitriolic
Quite a few adjectives have been used by some of you to judge me when in fact you don’t know me
You should really be more magnanimous and you should NEVER judge until you know the full story
I am very disappointed that so many of you are like that on gransnet , it is very sad and I feel sorry for you as you clearly have plenty of nastiness and anger within you
Thanks again to those nice people out there , it has helped me realise that I can’t take the dog , thank you

kiki2
I know you are probably feeling a bit sore by now. I'm sorry if you are, but please don't take your dear dog to the wedding, even for a short visit.

Aside from the fact that you have been asked not to, it will likely cause all manner of problems in the future.

I do hope you find a kind and loving pet-sitter and that you all have a fabulous day.

When my daughter married we had a dog who was very nervous and had health issues . I looked up dog minders , these are people who will either dog sit your dog at home or have them in their home . They do it because they love dogs . Go for this option rather than kennels but. It’s no place for a dog . Let someone lose over your dog for a few days . The dog will be happy lots of walkies . And the wedding will be happy

That was let someone love your dog

This reminds me of office Christmas parties - invite partners or not. I always preferred not because I would have to spend time looking after my OH who wouldn't have known anyone, rather than enjoy myself with my workmates.

In all seriousness I would be worried about my dogs which would take my mind off the wedding. So, don't do it.

No nastiness or anger here.

Just flabbergasted that someone would want to wreck her future DIL's wedding day and risk their future relationship for the sake of a dog, however much loved the animal is.

Try the Cinnamon Trust, they cater for things like this. They also have a website www.cinnamon.org.uk Good luck and hope you manage to get to the wedding, but I do know what it's like, as we try to take our dog everywhere with us, if we can. x

I totally agree. Their wedding. Their choices. No dogs allowed, of course not.

Are you my Mum, Kiki? It’s the sort of thing she’d do, putting her needs before every one else without any thought of how it will impact on her relationships. No solution will ever do because she wants her way. YABVU.

Wow .This is a popular thread , and though late to it ,like others I thought it must be a joke. Then I remembered that many ( not all) dog owners cannot believe that not all people love their dogs as much as they do. It’s probably all been said on another thread and this one ( re entitlement in restaurants etc) and now a wedding? Perleeeeease!

I totally agree no dog at the wedding I would be the same under no circumstances would I take a do. Sorry if this upsets you.

My son is getting married on New Years Eve, and not wanting to use kennels, I’ve arranged for a friends daughter too move in for the five days we’ll be away. She’s a student, and sitting here for 5 days,and getting 100 quid suits her nicely! Find a friend to sit at your place, then everyone is happy, simples!

My daughter used to dog sit and has been asked a few times to take the dog to the church (but they are normally the bride or groom's dog) then back home after but as it is some distance away this may not be possible to arrange. Enjoy the wedding and keep the peace x

I’d also be thinking about your ongoing relationship with your DIL, and son for that matter if the issue is brought up again. Some of us, me included, absolutely love dogs. Others don’t. Respecting those who don’t means that we need to be sensitive about the choices we make, I’d never take my dog to visit anyone who actively, and for whatever reason, doesn’t like them. They also have a choice whether to come to my house which is the dog’s home, although I’d be happy to keep him in a separate room for a while. Once you’ve shown that you empathise with her, you stand a far better chance of a good, mutually understanding relationship. Something along the lines of “I really love to include my dog in everything, but I understand and I’m willing to compromise, if he/she makes you feel uncomfortable “.
Good preparation now could make all the difference in the future, especially if the pattern of little human feet might come along!
Wishing you all the best at the wedding ?

Whatever the subject , whatever the passions and strong feelings , it’s critical on a forum like this that we don’t just let rip , be rude or rant. You never know what someone’s circumstances are.

I once stood at a bus stop while an old lady chatted away non stop for more than 25 minutes. I was exhausted and could hardly raise a smile but nodded etc. As we got on the bus she said thank you love for listening - you’re the first person I’ve talked to in a month !! I felt a bit ashamed and never more grateful for my family and friends.

Oh, and a decent photo shop can superimpose your dog onto the pictures later ?‍?

Book your dog into kennels near to where you'll be staying for the wedding then you won't be parted from your beloved pet for longer than necessary but don't even consider taking the dog to the wedding, it's their wedding and they don't want the dog there, respect that. They'll be grateful to you for respecting their wishes.

Oh for Heaven's sake!! No of course a dog cannot go to the wedding even for a couple of photos. He/she would be much happier at home with a good dog sitter. If the couple both wanted it there OK but not for ceremony & only for a short while at reception.
I love my dog but I treat her as a dog not a child & some weddings don't want those there either!
It's their day!

I think you are being totally unreasonable. Sort the dog out, just for a few days, then enjoy yourself at the wedding.

My dog would be petrified if I took him to any kind of social gathering. He'll be happiest in his crate in a quiet room on Christmas day, for example. I will spend time with him too, and take him outside, but just him and me. To be honest, leaving out spending time in a crate, I'll be happy getting away from the melee too! ??

When my daughter married we arranged for our dog to stay with a dog sitter at her house. Our dog was perfectly looked after and we had peace of mind.

I am feeling sorry for Kiki, OP. She is obviously happy when with her dog, it is so important to her that being without her faithful companion seems unthinkable. Of course the posts are right, the request is to not take it, so the dog cannot cannot cannot go, even if it is a “member of the family”. The bride and the wedding couple decide what is appropriate for their day. But the longing Kiki has for the dog is real to her.

I would make some enquiries near the wedding venue and find out if there are any dog sitter/walkers who could look after your dog for the day.

I don't think they're being mean. It's their day and their wishes must be respected.