Dog and wedding

Yes you arebeing unreasonable.
I would ban children let alone dogs from weddings
Put the dog in kennels.

Their wedding, their choice. I am really unsure why your dog should be in the photos... For goodness sake do not even think about taking your dog. There are pet sitting agencies...use one. There will be major upsets if you go against their wishes and it will ruin their day.

It is very difficult for you to be torn between your children, the human ones and the dog one.

Is this a joke post.if it’s serious then I’m flabbergasted . I’m a real animal lover but there’s no way on this earth I’d want to take a dog to a wedding. I would imagine the bride is shocked hearing this, and of course she wouldn’t want it there, and you would would like it in photos, whose wedding is this, it’s not yours, and you asking if you can just bring him along anyway for some photos,yes all our pets are part of the family if it was your wedding then then you obviously do as you like, but yes I think you are being unreasonable

I agree with 'don't take your dog. It is Their special day .

Where to start?

Your son has made it very clear that your dog is not to be at the wedding, so why are you even contemplating it? This has nothing to do with being a dog lover, has it? If you loved your dog you wouldn't inflict a wedding (long journey and a noisy day enclosed with unpredictable strangers) on him.

It seems to me that this is about power.

Your son and fiancee don't want your dog at their wedding. You don't like being told their wishes trump yours, so you're considering sneaking him in, 'just for photos' - or as I see it, for permanent proof that you got your own way.

*obviously I know that he can’t come to the reception* And where would your dog be during the reception then? In the car for hours, alone? Or would you then be deciding to sneak him in after the meal, just as you did to the photos, because it's cruel to leave him out there? You being such a dog-lover?

"The whole thing feels mean anyway"
And there it is. Your reaction to being told that you are not the most important person at their wedding.

"Would welcome advice , thank you"
Clearly not.

YAB TOTALLY U

Love me love my dog does not count at weddings. It's like when they say "no children" and you take your toddler because it was either that, or you don't go to the wedding; or when it says just your name and you take a friend along, to have company. If you want the dog in photos, photoshop him in later. Why are you willing to risk a scene on a day which is a special one for your son, and his beloved, and not yours? Please, be reasonable.

Like some other posters, I’m beginning to think this is a wind-up!

Kikki2. I think from so many responses ( which I have to agree with) its been made clear what people think. Hope this has given you pause for thought and maybe you can look into the practical advice which some have given.
You do risk a family fallout and I hope you find something you are comfortable with for your dog and that you enjoy the wedding.

What is it with people and their dogs?
My daughter is obsessed with her dog - which is very big and drools a lot. She is devastated and actually cried when my sister told her she couldn’t take the dog to a family gathering. (15 people in a small house, including one with pet allergies).
Please be realistic- use a dog sitter or a kennels. Other people don’t have to love your dog in the way that you do.
Some people don’t like dogs. Some people are frightened of them or allergic to them. Please be considerate of others.

Noooo leave the dog in kennels. Please don't spoil their day. Don't even mention it again as it will add to their stress. It's not your wedding

I adore dogs but I wouldn't expect to be able to take them to a wedding. If you are in my area (Suffolk) I will have him for the day (as long as my dogs accept him). If not then I would ask a trusted neighbour or friend to sit with him, or ask people in your area for recommendations for pet sitters.

I think many people have answered your question ... personally I think taking a dog to a wedding is the height of rudeness, insensitivity and quite frankly irresponsible. Kids running around, people enjoying themselves, clean clothes... why would you want a dog around!! That doesn’t even cover any allergies. No no no ... awful suggestion, please don’t ruin the day with thinking taking the dog is in any way acceptable

Kiki2. Not sure if this post is a wind up but if not YOU are being very selfish indeed. I sincerely hope you don’t take your dog! You’ll be on a hiding to nothing if you do. Your son will be ashamed of you and your new DIL will despise you. Is that what you really want. I adore my dog but I’m afraid she’ll never be more to me than my children. I have a fantastic lady who I trust completely to look after my dog on occasions like this. In fact she gets thoroughly spoilt when she’s with her! Grow up and stop being so selfish. It’s not your day it’s your son and DIL’S!

Craicon you don’t have to read my posts if you find them controversial ! Stop being nasty

Kiki2 I have now read all the posts...took me ages... Every single one says don't take the dog. Hope you have got the hint now that it would ruin the wedding and your relationship with son and future daughter in law.

Fairly certain this post is a wind up. Nobody surely can be this insensitive.

I often think people are unreasonable not allowing children at weddings who after all are actually part of the family but sorry in this case I agree with the bride. A wedding is not a place for a dog. You may love dogs but many people don't. And I don't think it's fair to the dog either. Can't you put the dog in kennels somewhere near you will be staying? . I really think you should put the happiness of your son and daughter in law before that of your dog.

Are you on glue? Who wants a dog at their wedding, and how cruel to leave it in a car all day.
It's also their wedding, so YABU on so many levels.

Once again posters not being nice, I am really fed up with these people. I have had many dogs in my life, I am not different to other people (what is it about dog owners) very insulting. I would never take any of my dogs anywhere they were not wanted and even kept my dogs away from a wedding at home. Made sure they were regularly seen to be comfortable. Sorry but I think you are starting off badly with a future daughter in law.

This is a wind up isn’t it? I cannot believe you are being serious.

7 pages and very little response from the OP - it’s a very strange thread

The whole things seems mean anyway.... what do you mean by that! So does it mean that your son n daughter in law shouldn’t have the wedding that they want, it’s not all about you and your dog you know, sometimes if you find you are not getting on with certain members of your family, it’s not always the others who are at fault,

Sorry you've had some flak - not necessary. I agree with the main thrust of comments, though. Absolutely do not take - or even think of taking - your dog to the wedding. The day belongs to the bride and groom and you must respect their wishes. You have plenty of time to find a reliable dog-sitter - even one near where the wedding will take place. But there should not be a whiff of canine anywhere near the church or reception. I speak as someone who has mourned my little dog for seven years, I know how important they are.