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farview Mon 14-Aug-23 20:09:48

Opinions please...🐶

westendgirl Tue 15-Aug-23 11:59:32

Yes my little pug sleeps on my bed but likes his own space , except in the morning when he comes over for a tummy tickle.

grandtanteJE65 Tue 15-Aug-23 12:00:45

If the dogs you dog-sit are allowed to sleep on the beds by their owners, it is just as well that you don't mind them doing so when you are the occupant of the house!

I don't currently have a dog, but I would be simply furious if I did and a dog-sitter let it sleep on chairs, sofas or beds, as my dogs have always been provided with a good bed or basket of their own, a rug and all the floor space they could want, but never allowed on beds or soft furnishngs.

suggsy1 Tue 15-Aug-23 12:02:39

Oh gosh! Our two yorkies are 12 and 14 and have always slept on our bed! We bought a super king size bed so that we would all have plenty of room. Now they do struggle to get on the bed, so we have bought some dog steps to help them get up! Oh well, each to their own.

TheMaggiejane1 Tue 15-Aug-23 12:07:08

The very thought of it makes me feel ill, I think it’s revolting. We recently went into a flat for a holiday and I stipulated that I wanted accommodation that did not allow dogs which severely limited our choices but so many people with animals allow them in their beds and the thought of sleeping in a bed where a dog’s bottom might have been would keep me awake all night!

Fleurpepper Tue 15-Aug-23 12:08:38

susz

Your dog, your bed completely down to you, no-one else's business! My Rhodesian Ridgebacks didn't do stairs and were always happy with their own beds downstairs. The Afghan Hounds were a completely different story!

This, totally.

Or dogs never slept in our bed- until we adopted one AC's elderly dachsund. He had his bed by ours, but often ended up with me.

When I had my first very painful knee replacement (old injury and they had to scrape loads of extra bone)- he came to lie along me every day when in recovery.

Our recently adopted rescue has never been upstairs yet- she just does not want to. She took to her bed in the kitchen (lare farmhouse kitchen, well away from cooker and food prep)- and that is it. Either on the patio, under a tree where she has made an earth bowl, or the kitchen.

If one day she ventures upstairs, she will be welcome- but I doubt she will ever get on the bed (famous last words?!?)

Foxyferret Tue 15-Aug-23 12:26:06

Absolutely not. I love the fresh smell of clean bed linen and would not want a doggy smell in my bedroom. I have 5 Labrador working dogs and they have their own custom built kennels and pen outside.

Juliet27 Tue 15-Aug-23 12:32:02

My JR cross starts off in his bed next to mine but then at some time during the night I hear a squeak and when I say ‘come on then’, up he jumps and curls up with me under the cover. It’s just so cosy and comforting.

Mallin Tue 15-Aug-23 12:46:21

Depends on many things but never if they snore.
Always lay a single cotton sheet across end of bed and make dog understand that it is only permitted on the sheet. A law brought in when having two very large dogs who thought it amusing to make it impossible for me to get into bed.
Present dog, a semi permanent visitor, doesn’t snore ( miracle for a Frenchie ) but he smells vile despite every effort to nuturalise him. He's banned from bed but prefers the bathroom rug as he stretches out to sleep. If I forget, he brings it into my bedroom himself.

Juicylucy Tue 15-Aug-23 12:47:22

Of course, where else would he sleep. 🐶

Lizzie44 Tue 15-Aug-23 12:53:07

It's a matter for individual dog owners. I was a dog owner for most of my life but never allowed them upstairs or on the furniture and they knew the rules from the outset. Once, just after my last dog (Lizzie, a rescue Heinz 57) came back from a stay with my dog minder, I found her on the sofa. I looked her in the eye and said "no" and she immediately got down. Later, when I was talking to my dog minder she said how much she loved looking after Lizzie, adding "she likes to curl up on the sofa with me to watch Coronation Street". Poor Lizzie obviously forgot herself when she came home on that occasion. It only happened once.

EEJit Tue 15-Aug-23 12:57:34

Our young pup comes onto the bed when we go to bed. Sometimes I disturb during the night and he is on his bed which is by the bed, at others he's asleep next to me, it's completely up to him.

The problem with him not sleeping on the bed is that we have a brown carpet, and a chocolate lab so he disappears in the dark. I keep threatening to put some luminous paint on his ears to make him stand out in the dark

littleflo Tue 15-Aug-23 13:04:00

I loved my dog sleeping on my bed. She has been gone almost a year now and that is one of the many things I still miss. She was so full of insecurities, that I was never out of her sight. She could not have stood a whole night on her own.

Sometimes if she was tired, she would nudge my feet in an effort to get me upstairs.

Quizzer Tue 15-Aug-23 13:10:00

No, never!

Bluedaisy Tue 15-Aug-23 13:10:23

Oh dear…..yes I’m afraid I’ve always let my dogs sleep on my bed! Seems I’m in the minority but it won’t change now. My dogs have all been non shedders and are regularly brushed. My DH sleeps downstairs now so our dog sleeps where he did. She’s got her own bed next to ours but won’t entertain it, when we originally aquired her she slept in her own bed for about a week, then some afternoons I went upstairs for a nap and took her with me and put her on the bed with me, then that was it, as soon as me and her go to bed every night she stands ready for me to pick her up whilst crying to come on the bed, I don’t get a peek out of her usually until the next morning. I find it comforting especially when she lays against my back.

MadeInYorkshire Tue 15-Aug-23 13:18:32

TerriBull

My son and girlfriend started off with their dog sleeping downstairs, but he's needy sad so they moved the dog doughnut (stress relieving dog bed I'm told, where's the human equivalent I'd like to know hmm) up into their room and when they come to us, so the doughnut comes too and upstairs it goes! He goes through the night, the dog that is, without so much as a whimper I'm told, unlike if he was downstairs when he gets frighted by noises, foxes bring out so many neurosis that he positively morphs into a canine version of Woody Allen shock

Ha, ha, the equivalent is a weighted blanket! I have used one for many years now and sadly it's getting beyond it's best, and little glass beads are appearing everywhere. A new one will be required for the winter ..

Yes for me - have always slept with my animals and as long as they're de-flead etc then (umm is this one of those occasions where an apostrophe is needed, auto correct doesn't like any variation?) I personally have no issue with it. Sadly I can no longer sleep in a bed, and use a riser recliner chair, so it doesn't happen unless I have my friend's dog staying - a small KC Cavalier, who I can cope with on my lap, and actually I get a much better night for some reason.

I have 2 dogs, one a stocky med sized x-breed, and an extra large Golden Retriever, and both like to come up for a cuddle! As I have a massive abdominal hernia, I have to be very careful, but, both do come up, (individually I might add!) put their back ends between my legs, and rest their front ends on the arm rest, so don't touch my hernia - gets a bit warm, but it's generally for max. 15 mins and they jump off, but its nice!

My daughter has a smallish Basset Hound, and she sleeps on their bed all the time, and when she comes to stay she does try to come and sleep with me, but doesn't stay too long as it's obviously not as comfy! So they all use the sofa across the room - in fact, I think I could do away with one dog bed and it's contents, as they are a trip hazard for me when strewn all over the floor, and I can't safely get down to sort it.

Eloethan Tue 15-Aug-23 13:25:11

Yes, our dog sleeps on our bed. I don't particularly mind on the hygiene front but it often makes sleeping uncomfortable as she plonks herself down anywhere. We tell her to get off but she sneaks back on again.

Treetops05 Tue 15-Aug-23 13:26:29

Our dog sleeps on a chaise at the bottom of our bed, and pops up to say good morning at 7.20 to have a starter hug.

3dognight Tue 15-Aug-23 13:40:22

No sleeping on the bed with mine.

But if I’m raising a youngster and it’s a miserable winter afternoon I will invite them upstairs to play.

Only got a small home so playing upstairs doubles the space.

There are a few upstairs toys and I will hide them around and send to find, I also allow them to have a mad five minutes and then five minutes obedience on the actual double bed, but only if the bedding is going in the washer!

Iam64 Tue 15-Aug-23 13:44:59

My kiwi friend tells me in her homeland, the phrase 3 dog winter is used when it’s very cold and throwing a 3rd dog on the bed is needed

CaroleAnne Tue 15-Aug-23 13:47:26

Definitely not. Most unhygienic.
I am a dog lover but am a firm believer that they should know their place.Not on beds or furniture.

SheepyIzzy Tue 15-Aug-23 13:47:48

Yes! I lost one of my beloveds last year, still can't get over it and for most of her life, my bed was hers as was mum's (mum said many a time, she'd get up in the night to go to the loo, come back to find Flo had "rolled over" and was now in her space! Flo was a 38kg Rottweiler X, but a gentle giant! Mum would pick Flos legs up and get back into bed. Flo was also Epileptic and yes, let rip on the beds, but bedding can be washed, we changed to lots of blankets and have a twin tub! Dogs for us are a huge part of our lives.

Dinahmo Tue 15-Aug-23 13:56:50

Years ago we took over my Mum's Westie who never slept on Mum's bed. She didn't come upstairs until the big storm of the late 80s that hit the south east. I was working away from home but my DH said that the house shook, some of the tiles fell off and the noise was incredible. Hattie started to cry so he allowed her upstairs and on to the bed. When we got a 2nd dog she was quite happy to stay downstairs with him.

Several years later, with an aging Cairn who was blind I encouraged her onto the bed because then I would be aware of her needs during the night.

Over the last few nights we've had tremendous storms and both dogs are petrified. Ruby who is blind and now as a fracture at the top of one leg does come onto the bed. This means that I can calm her by cuddling her. When she gets too close to my face I turn over and settles down against my back.

The cats htat we had, before dogs used to sleep on the bed. It's amzing how much space 2 small creatures can take up.

Dee1012 Tue 15-Aug-23 14:19:37

I share my bed with 3 dogs...they sleep on a throw at the end of the bed although I've occasionally been 'spooned' by my Rottweiler! She'll lie behind me and literally wrap a very large paw around my waist - if I ask "what do you think you're doing?", I can hear her tail going like mad.

Nicolenet Tue 15-Aug-23 14:28:18

Would you go and sleep in dog's basket?

Mollygo Tue 15-Aug-23 14:31:54

Nicolenet

Would you go and sleep in dog's basket?

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