Dog sleeping on my bed

My daughter has three dogs. They aren't small. Most nights they take over her bed and she's quite happy to let them do so lol

It can be a problem when they get old and frail and can't jump on to the bed then you have to get them a step or a dog ramp.

Dogs who crawl under the duvet have to have a breathing gap made for them .

25Avalon

No. My dog isn’t allowed on furniture including beds. She is very big and has her own bed anyway. I wouldn’t like to be woken up by a slobbering dog either. Very unhygienic but if that’s your choice it’s up to you.

I think you make some very good points about health and hygiene However, l think we are very much in minority these days.

When animals are treated like children and take over some people's lives That is their choice.

Animals have their place and their of own territory just like their owners.

It’s interesting this discussion has led to the current obsession with describing dogs as fur babies, treating them like children. My dogs are definitely members of my family. They showed signs of distress during my husband’s illness. My young male Labrador’s behaviour changed after my husband’s death. He’d never shown guarding behaviour but for a few days, growled, snarled, looked aggressive towards any men who came to the house, or came close to me when we were on lead walks. He clearly picked up on my distress.
That behaviour was stopped within five days but reminded me we underestimate them and don’t train them at our peril. His obedience was good which helped me to help him.
My point - yes it’s possible to love a dog but it’s a dog with basic dog needs and ability to understand. The dog needs a handler who treats it like a dog not a baby

It's a privilege to have a furry
friend /pest on your bed.
I do however, miss my little children bursting-in for a cuddle in the moanings.

Iam64

It’s interesting this discussion has led to the current obsession with describing dogs as fur babies, treating them like children. My dogs are definitely members of my family. They showed signs of distress during my husband’s illness. My young male Labrador’s behaviour changed after my husband’s death. He’d never shown guarding behaviour but for a few days, growled, snarled, looked aggressive towards any men who came to the house, or came close to me when we were on lead walks. He clearly picked up on my distress.
That behaviour was stopped within five days but reminded me we underestimate them and don’t train them at our peril. His obedience was good which helped me to help him.
My point - yes it’s possible to love a dog but it’s a dog with basic dog needs and ability to understand. The dog needs a handler who treats it like a dog not a baby

Your lab seems to be specially adept at guarding when he feels required to guard. It goes to show that breed is only a guide to temperament. I had a GSD who was very soft, and another GSD who was bossy but loved everyone.

What I am 64 said.
Dogs are amazing & most will be lovely pets even if spoilt & babied, but we do need to remember they are dogs, & particularly with more active breeds and more highly-strung pups, be consistent & firm & get them trained & stick to it.

Tell your ''friend'' to mind their own business, it's absolutely nothing to do with them.

If you're happy having your babe on your bed and she's glad to be there, then that's good. Nothing ''wrong'' at all.

valdavi

What I am 64 said.
Dogs are amazing & most will be lovely pets even if spoilt & babied, but we do need to remember they are dogs, & particularly with more active breeds and more highly-strung pups, be consistent & firm & get them trained & stick to it.

Easier said than done. One of my visitors regularly and frequently feeds my dog treats and then my dog constantly interrupts our conversations at meal times . I don't let the dog do it as he has scratchy claws , and so he never bothers me. My visitor who adores dogs can't seem to understand the connection.

TheWeirdoAgain60

Tell your ''friend'' to mind their own business, it's absolutely nothing to do with them.

If you're happy having your babe on your bed and she's glad to be there, then that's good. Nothing ''wrong'' at all.

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Saying you do or don’t like it is one thing. Telling others what they shouldn’t do demonstrates controlling behaviour, more worrying than a dog on the bed.

Also the visitor in question always tells the dog not to do something in a polite way as one normally would to a child, when what the dog needs is a simple short command

Mollygo

TheWeirdoAgain60

Tell your ''friend'' to mind their own business, it's absolutely nothing to do with them.

If you're happy having your babe on your bed and she's glad to be there, then that's good. Nothing ''wrong'' at all.

👏👏👏

Saying you do or don’t like it is one thing. Telling others what they shouldn’t do demonstrates controlling behaviour, more worrying than a dog on the bed.

Yes that is true. I am very old and I guess that is why my beloved visitor, my son actually, doesn't seem to take what I say very seriously.

Caleb, I find it much harder to train my adult children, especially sons in law, than my dogs.

My sons in law love my huge lab. They actively encourage jumping up and general excitability. I’ve not yet found a training class that would make then obey 🙈🤣

Dee1012

Suzysues

I have two big beautiful Golden Retrievers, they sleep on the floor at the foot of our bed, but when the weather gets cooler the older one sneaks up and lays full length between hubby and me. I put my hand on his soft head and go into a lovely relaxed sleep. The younger one jumps up as soon add hubby gets up for his morning mummy cuddles, I love it 🥰

A number of years ago I rescued a dog...she was a huge Rottweiler and although I've had dogs all of my life, she really was the most affectionate, gentle girl that I've ever had the pleasure of sharing life with.
She would always go to sleep with her paw on my hand and like you, that touch made me so relaxed.
I will forever miss her.

They take a piece of our hearts when they leave us don’t they? But also make our hearts bigger when they are here.

I have loved reading the responses on this thread. I didn't have a dog until I was in my 50's. Our first dog was bought for my daughter's 10th birthday and he brought such love and joy into our lives. I feel so lucky to have had dogs (three now) in my life!

I had a dog in my childhood but then didn't have one in my adult life until I was in my fifties. He is the best purchase I have ever made.

My huge immature lab is my twelfth dog during my adult life, I can name four from my childhood.

🌞🐕🐶 good job the giant excitable boy isn’t my firstb

Yes, ours is on the bed for about 30 minutes morning and night. She jumps down to her pillow when she really wants to sleep! Luckily we have a king sized bed, so it's no discomfort to us.

She doesn't go on any other furniture.

minniemouse

Well, having read multiple posts stating dogs sleep on the bed, it makes me even more wary of 'Dog Friendly' accommodation, even if it states no dogs in the bedrooms or on the beds ! Difficult now to find anywhere to stay that isn't dog friendly !

We did holiday lets for 3 years and allowed one small dog only. Holidaymakers were also told dogs were not allowed on furniture or beds.

We very often found dog hairs on the bedding and regularly on the sofa and easy chairs which meant cleaning took longer. I used to run a sponge cloth along the front of the sofa and it invariably came off full of dog hairs.

We always take our fog on UK holiday and stay in soft friendly accommodation, he comes with his own bed and we cover a place where he can settle with a freshly laundered blanket but he will shed hair. I'll shed hair and skin too. It's a normal process for dogs and humans. If property owners don't want dogs they just don't allow them. It's normal practice to charge extra for dogs, we normally pay £30 or more for a weeks stay or £10 for an overnight stay. This covers any extra cleaning costs and general wear and tear.

Dog not fog

foxie48

We always take our fog on UK holiday and stay in soft friendly accommodation, he comes with his own bed and we cover a place where he can settle with a freshly laundered blanket but he will shed hair. I'll shed hair and skin too. It's a normal process for dogs and humans. If property owners don't want dogs they just don't allow them. It's normal practice to charge extra for dogs, we normally pay £30 or more for a weeks stay or £10 for an overnight stay. This covers any extra cleaning costs and general wear and tear.

We also had people with a dog and you wouldn’t know there had been a dog in there! It’s the ones who allow their dogs to sleep in the bed and on sofa who spoil it for others because they then stop allowing dogs.

Some dogs shed more than others and they also can shed more at different times of the year. If you allow dogs it is inevitable that if you look you will find some dog hair however careful the owner is. I try to leave our accommodation in a clean state but I absolutely can't guarantee he wouldn't leave a few hairs behind. We recently stayed in a lovely newly decorated cottage for two nights, we paid £25 extra to take our little terrier, I think that would more than cover vacuuming up the odd hair that he might have left behind. We met the owner briefly when we arrived and she made a huge fuss of our dog, very sensibly all the downstairs floors were tiled, she'd put easily washed blankets on the sofas although we had brought our own and she pointed out the tap she had put outside to wash muddy boots and paws if needed. We always appreciate owners who are happy to have dogs and tbh expect them to make arrangements that suit the dogs as well as the owners if we are paying for the dog to stay.

foxie48

Some dogs shed more than others and they also can shed more at different times of the year. If you allow dogs it is inevitable that if you look you will find some dog hair however careful the owner is. I try to leave our accommodation in a clean state but I absolutely can't guarantee he wouldn't leave a few hairs behind. We recently stayed in a lovely newly decorated cottage for two nights, we paid £25 extra to take our little terrier, I think that would more than cover vacuuming up the odd hair that he might have left behind. We met the owner briefly when we arrived and she made a huge fuss of our dog, very sensibly all the downstairs floors were tiled, she'd put easily washed blankets on the sofas although we had brought our own and she pointed out the tap she had put outside to wash muddy boots and paws if needed. We always appreciate owners who are happy to have dogs and tbh expect them to make arrangements that suit the dogs as well as the owners if we are paying for the dog to stay.

Nobody minds a few dog hairs but bedding and sofas covered in them is something else! Until a few years ago we always had dogs ourselves so I am not anti dogs.

The first year we did holiday lets we charged nothing for one dog. The next year we charged £20 per stay purely because of dog hairs, dog biscuits spilled on the floor and dog poo left in the garden. I left dog poo bags, old towels in the shed in case of wet dogs and a polite note in the kitchen. I also always left dog treats if a dog was booked in.