spid
About six months ago I found out that my DP was flirting with a work colleague online. He says there was nothing serious in it but I was deeply hurt. (The flirting was quite outrageous and she is half my age and very attractive.) Since then I have found it very difficult to lose myself in sex. I get flashes of fury and want either to burst into tears or do something violent.
For what it's worth, I believe him when he says they weren't having an affair (I saw her emails and they were quite polite and cool) but I can't forgive him the betrayal. Am I going mad? Is there some way of getting over this? I feel I have in normal life, but when we have sex it all bubbles up again and sort of takes me over.
Hi Spid
Jealousy and suspicion can be seriously debilitating. They eat into your psyche and before you know it you are secretly checking his mobile and trawling through his credit card statements.
I think you need to fess up to your partner and tell him how you are feeling. Getting those horrid thoughts out in the open is the quickest way to diffuse them. It will also allow him to see how his casual flirting has caused you so much serious pain.
He likes his warm-up cuddles when he comes out of the bathroom in the mornings. He's freezing cold! I don't know why! Doesn't have enough hot water I reckon. 
