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I visited my Mum today!!

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kittylester Fri 30-Nov-12 15:56:14

I was about to post this and then saw onlyme's thread which was very touching. sunshine

On the other hand, I went to see my Mum today and got out the photo album my brother had made for Mum's last birthday. We were doing really well until we got to the pages of my own family when Mum announced that she thought it was unreasonable of us to have adopted DD3 as we already had enough children. I eventually managed to convince her that DD3 was actually 'ours' rather than adopted when she announced that she couldn't possibly 'belong' to my husband as 'she doesn't look like any of the rest of them'. shock

Mum then asked if my children were doing ok and not in any sort of trouble confused and when I jokingly replied 'Yes, they are all fine - I've been a good mother' she said 'I don't think so - they are doing fine despite you!'

It's a good job I can laugh about it or I'd be on a murder charge by now. angry

kittylester Fri 17-May-13 14:11:51

Glad things are looking better for both of you and your relatives Mishap and Nfk. It's such a tried, isn't it. sunshine

kittylester Fri 17-May-13 14:14:29

Tried obviously should read relief. Pesky phone!!

Mishap Fri 17-May-13 14:15:41

Yes - life is much easier and I no longer spend every day on the phone dealing with one crisis or another - phew!

NfkDumpling Fri 17-May-13 18:14:45

Brilliant that you got some Continuing Care Mishap. I'm giving them until we get back from holiday then I'll start chasing to see if we can get a proportion as was promised when mum left hospital. I was also promised a copy of the report - which of course hasn't materialised.
Life is so much easier now she's settled. (I probably shouldn't say that she'll probably go wobbly now!)

kittylester Tue 11-Feb-14 18:24:27

I've resurrected this as I did, visit my mum today. grin

We had thought Mum was in quite a contented place until about a week ago when she cried when my brother left her. Then on Sunday, she rang to complain that no one had visited her (her parents, my father, any of us) and today, when I left after having spent over two hours there, she cried and then told me that she loved me!

I am now totally confused

Ana Tue 11-Feb-14 18:31:55

Oh Kitty, how worrying for you, and how sad for you both! sad

Mishap Tue 11-Feb-14 18:34:40

It is so hard - I really feel for you.

Iam64 Tue 11-Feb-14 18:38:24

Oh Kitty, ageing is so tough isn't it - thinking of you x

TriciaF Tue 11-Feb-14 19:16:56

I don't know about other people, but I used to think - will I be like that too?
Strange with my Mum - we always got on eachother's nerves, but towards the end she was so sweet, and we became closer.

granjura Tue 11-Feb-14 19:20:54

Ah Kitty- so hard for you. Just hang in there- when your mum does go, you'll feel so much better for having tried so hard, and never give up.
Thinking of you- can't send flowers as my Swiss keyboard does not have square brackets

Gagagran Tue 11-Feb-14 20:01:08

flowers for Kitty -as Granjura can't send them but wanted to!

Your description of your ageing Mum brings back so vividly what my Mum was like in her last months. She thought I was the nurse who put drops in her eyes and was really surprised when I told her she had five children. She and my Dad were married just 6 months short of 70 years when he died but she could not remember him or his name. It is so cruel to see what old age can do. sunshine from me Kitty - just for you.