How can you improve your relationship?

When I was younger I would have battled argued to the bitter end to get my point across or go in huffs that could last for days.
Now being older and wiser I really can't be bothered with bickering and arguing at all. Life's too short.

Well said kitty! N.B. must try harder!

I did have a look at the relationship checker (for scientific reasons you understand...) and thought it was disappointing, not very subtle at all. Relationships in later life are a bit like bone china, strong but delicate at the same time.

If I had to recommend one thing to do this week it would be say "I love you" at least once a day.

It always makes me feel better when DH says it.

Those are the last words that Mr soop and I exchange as we turn off the light.

When asked how we have managed to stay married for 45 years we both say that at any given time at least one of us has been working at it. That of course is an over simplification but anything good is worth working for and our marriage is very good.

A young friend recently asked for my recipe for a long-lasting relationship. I promised him a poem, in return he and his partner, (living in America) phoned at 7.30. next morning to say how much they appreciated the poem
Nice to know that it was appreciated but to be woken up at seveny
thirty unexpectedly --!!!!

gramps! Lovely story, but more to the point - where have you been?

Are you alright? Or in modern talk, RUOK.

So sorry Ladies,
But I have been unwell for a few weeks now. I haven't really wanted to talk to many people, partly due to my Parkinson's, partly due to terrible pains in my legs, have been rather down!

I can't settle down too , skipping around the forums on the computer still writing poetry.
My consultant has sent me see a neuro surgeon to try and relieve the pain some waiting for consultation with anaesthetist at the moment.. Thanks for your concern I didn't think I was that missed by anybody. Best wishes to all keep the Bar clean for my return!
Gramps xxxx

Bless you gramps, of course we missed you. Sorry that you're not feeling too good, hope they can help you
Keep your pecker up!

We've been together for59 years and married for 57. I wish I knew the magic ingredient that keeps us so happy in each others company. I'd bottle it and make a fortune!

Cheers to Hunt! 59 years and many more!

gramps do you mean Lils bar? That and clean can't be put in the same sentence!
They're still using the pair of long johns you abandoned in Lils bed to scrub clean the counter!

Oh Galen, they needed incinerating months ago, but when I got near the furnace the smell was so pungent. It acted like a fire extinguisher and killed the furnace stone dead!
Be very careful how you handle it --sontaneous combustion may occur if the long johns dry out!! POOMPH!

ok so a missing "P" may help!

Gramps you are a special person. A warm hug from me to you.

Hi Soop,
thank you for your lovely comment and a very warm hug from me. You will probably need all the warmth you can get in Scotland just now!
Did your move go smoothly? Are you settling in well now?

Stay warm and hope you're not too snowed in !
Love and best wishes,
Vic. xxx

Darling gramps It is cold and sunny and we are still having on/off problems with the power supply. However...we born-again Scots are hardy folk. Even Rory, the cat, maintains a stiff upper lip.

We haven't moved, gramps...in fact we haven't yet purchased the plot or sold our present home. It will be at least a year before we are living in the wee hoos in the orchard.

Keep warm. Much love. xxx

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lol at Rory keeping stiff upper lip.

jings Rory's such a trooper. He can now hobble on the injured foot. That is so much better than hopping along. He's not allowed out without an escort. Mr soop insists that, until he's able to fend off an aggressor, he needs a bodyguard. To watch the man and his cat slowly stroll around the garden, is a real treat.

To be blunt I think for me this question is a dead duck!

Has something specific happened Nellie?

As a male I would suggest laugh often, love unconditionally, accept faults and freilties and think back to the wonderful times you have had in the past; above all consider each others feelings and needs as life can unexpectedly throw obstacles in our way which can be a problem for some and we need to be aware of that in order to be able to share our partners burden. Communicating feelings is the key in my humble opinion. I hope that helps.