Daughter-in-Law possible breakdown - what to do

And stop making things up or imagining things.

Your previous post was called 'Daughter in law from hell' so you can't like her that much!

Seriously though, you need to say the things that she has done/said to you. Why do you think she has depression? Or a possible breakdown? It's really hard to say who needs to do what. You shouldn't talk about her mental health behind her back. It won't end well, believe me.

I don't think it's fair to label her depressed
Me neither; you say she is a good wife and mother which she may not be able to manage if she was truly depressed or heading for a breakdown.

I agree with Luckygirl.

May I add that, having a Greek background, upbringing and family values may be slightly different.
Families we know from Eastern Mediterranean backgrounds are close, then clash, not speaking and then best of friends. Sometimes it's difficult to keep up and I have found it is best to keep out, say nowt, however difficult that may be at times.

I agree with Luckygirl
and all the other sensible posts on here

Right so Daughter in Law from Hell is now morphed into Daughter in Law - possible breakdown

If that's the case I hope to goodness she doesn't read Gransnet or the sh1t will hit the proverbial..... Poor DDIL, she doesn't stand a chance, does she?

"The problem here is that my son several times has asked us what we think of Wife." (OP)

Soon, you are reading more into the OP than is warranted. In what way does the above quotation mean that the DS is asking for advice - it sounds more like an opinion is required. Giving an opinion on a DiL is even more dangerous than giving advice. And it's absurd to detect depression from the account given by a MiL who obviously doesn't like her.

Alea and annodomini.
This is another part of what the op wrote herself - see my post 15.16pm.

OK, I have been through the thread and have clearly missed where OP says her son is worried his wife is suffering from depression, or is asking OP's opinion regarding her mental health.
Could you please point out where she has said any of that? Or where he has specifcally asked for advice?

I don't see how any of us can offer good advice for this situation where we don't know the history, or the personalities involved.

'I am wondering if she is really in a bad way and he wants us to confirm it to him. I am hesitant to do so. I know something about depression and it would seem she is depressed and heading for a crisis - there are other pointers i can't put here. So wondering what to do, if anything.'

OP has said that her son keeps asking what she thinks of his wife. No one including OP had managed to work out what he means by that. OP then says the above and she thinks his wife is showing signs of depression (which she could be, but no examples have been given) and is wondering if her son wants her to confirm it but is unsure whether to do so.

Perhaps OP could come back and contribute?

Still not reading as much into it as Soontobe. OP may have her own opinions but nothing she says seems to corroborate her suspicions.

OP needs to reveal much more (within the bounds of anonymity) for anybody to even think of offering a valid opinion.

fluttERBY123 you said on a previous thread that your DIL is used to a lot of rows and feuds in her own family.
Perhaps that is the way they operate - some nationalities are naturally more volatile than others. However, the best way is not to rise to it.

Unless you have serious concerns about depression (and are qualified to recognise it) then don't mention it to your DS. Things said cannot be unsaid.

Thanks for all the input. It is pretty pointless asking for advice here whena lot of what has been going on, which would give a quite different perspective, I can't be specific about.

I will soldier on. I thought I had already responded earlier but must have given it up as a bad job.

without knowing the full background and facts no-one could be expected to give a helpful answer.

However, as my DM always said, 'Least said, soonest mended'

I can see that it might not be possible to give full details - but unfortunately that does mean that the request "what to do?" can only result in inappropriate answers, as the full facts are not available.

What does come across is that you do not like this DIL, which is why the "least said, soonest mended" advice is particularly relevant.