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Daughter doesn't want me in her life

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Luckylegs9 Sat 19-Dec-15 08:26:00

After another rant from my daughter, in which she gets so upset and says awful things. I realised I cannot take it anymore. For many years I have been kept at arms length and gone long periods without contact, but always I worried most about the loss of contact from my granddaughter and put up with anything to see her, once after a period of 5 years apart, so I apologised when I had done nothing and didn't retaliate when shouted at. Everything is my fault and I genuinely think she will not be happy until I am out if her life for good. They have no contact with sil parents or family either. My D and Sil are lovely people with lots of friends and a very good lifestyle, but I have hung on in there until now.

For her health and well being at least, not alone the stress I constantly live under, contact has been severed. What I don't know is how to cope with that permanent void of a daughter and family I love so much. Sorry this is such a long post.

Wendysue Fri 08-Jan-16 06:57:45

I've heard of such services, Granarchist, but don't know much about them. Usually, I'll hear that the GPs wanted to go to mediation but the parents refused. That's only in situations where the parents have some specific thing they want from the GPs, like an apology for whatever, and they say there's nothing to mediate. But, IMO, there are circumstances where it could work. Maybe, in time, the idea will become more popular.

Smileless2012 Sat 09-Jan-16 05:38:48

The subject of mediation usually comes up if GPs are seeking legal advice because they're being denied contact with their GC. Before a case can go before the family law courts, mediation has to have been attempted.

It isn't only in situations where parents have a specific request like an apology and then, if I've read your post correctly Wendysue the GPs say there's nothing to mediate. Before we realised our ES and his wife were hell bent on cutting us out of his and his children's lives, he told his father that they'd never agree to mediation. The reason being that they wanted to exclude us from their children's lives and deny those children their loving paternal grandparents. They got what they wanted and we have the scars to prove it.