missing grandchildren

Well that describes our d.i.l. to a 'T' eddiecat and sadly for us it isn't just the children's relationships she wants to control, but our son's too.

Hope you enjoyed your walk, whose dog did you borrow?

she did start off wanting to control son too - broke up his relationship with his brother - didn`t want him seeing his friends - fortunately for us her continueing unreasonable behaviour has destroyed all the love that he had for her and so he does still want to see us. I don`t think I could cope at all if I was in your situation.
Borrowed dog belongs to dear friend - we march about the woods putting the world to rights!

I seldom see my beloved GGS even though they live just a very short way away from us. I know his daddy has to work but do so wish his mummy would pop round with him on the odd occasion. If it wasn't for my dil bringing him round for an hour now and then we wouldn't see him at all. We can't go down ourselves as neither of us drive any more.
All I can say is thank god for facebook, where we can at least see his lovely little face now and then.
It breaks my heart.

She sounds like a female a Rob Titchner! She'll control the post so your lovely grandchildren probably wouldn't even see the cards and presents.
Dogs are great philosophers, aren't they.

There's a book called Turnaround by Byron Katie, and a very brief synopsis would be "arguing with reality is what causes stress", which is why I advocate focusing on your own life. You'll only hurt your own knuckles by knocking on a locked door. Hugs to you.

Reply to eddiecat78

Love knows no distance. It is understandable that no matter how far away your loved ones live, you love them just as much.

I am saddened to hear / read of the circumstances regarding your family dynamics. As children are people and should be Respected. A loving family can be such a bonus. It is sad tha your Daughter in law seems to behave in such a self - centred, controlling and possessive way.

Unfortunately for you I believe you are well aware of the sadness, and loss this negative behaviour has caused you to feel. All I can say is that it is how it is :- Sadly.
But maybe for your own health etc you need to use your time, thoughts in a way and place that interests you. Maybe something that you find relaxing, fun. As you seem to need some joy in your life.Also it may benefit your son for him to know that you have some happy, joyous moments :- whether that be volunteering. A hobbie etc. You could share the memories of your positive experiences.

Maybe you should consider speaking to your Doctor, as he may know of activities within your community which you could become involved with.

I wish you well.

Reply to phizz

Nice to read that you Dearly love your Great Grandson. It is sad that often nowadays people live busy lives, and see little of some family members. I think maybe in the past we valued and Respected our family more. I can recall us having a close relationship with an aunt who did not stay far from us. We spent happy times visiting her, we had toys there to play with. We regularly had meals and afternoon tea with her. She had friends who visited, some had a dog. We so loved pets. These happy memories live on, and are treasured. That aunt also had a close relationship with Greatnephew, who also treasures times of going to the local park with her.

I so wish that families would make a point of sharing quality time together, particularly with various generations.

Your Daughter in Law sounds a Treasure.

My grandson is nearly 3,I have seen him for 11 hours when my son visited from Canada last year. His marriage has broken up,his wife wants nothing to do with me,we were once close. I am too ill to fly,and most probably will never see my grandson again. It tears me apart,affects my health and I cry every day. So sad for everyone posting that feel's as I do.

heartbroken we don't think we'll ever see our GC either but you never know, maybe your's will seek you out and ours will find us too.

Are you still in touch with your son? Perhaps through his access to his son, you will get to see him again. I hope so.

I think the journal is a great idea - I know that when my difficult teenage years struck, it would have been lovely to receive proof that someone was and had been holding me in their heart.