Dilemma with son and daughter in law

I have just joined GN and already can identify with a lot of statements from fellow Grans. My experience is I had a horrible MIL who made our life hell. She didn't like me and therefore didn't like my daughter (her own GC) because she looked like me. Eventually, my husband broke off contact with her and she made no attempt to keep up contact with my two children who as adults made the decision not tohave a relationship with her. I vowed to try and find something positive from this awful experience and that was to welcome and respect my sons choice of partner/wife no matter what. The outcome is a loving relationship with her and my two granddaughters who I see as often as we can manage. She is s wonderful mother to my two GD's and I always let her know this. Her own mother literally lives around the corner and sees the GC every day.

I think that people are quite right in that you should ask for a cuddle in a light hearted way, putting your hands out as if you expect it- I don't see how she can then refuse.
I agree with MaizeD and it all changes when they can walk and talk. They make their own relationship and it isn't to do with quantity or who their mother prefers. I adored my grandfather when I was young and he was very laid back.

Sorry MaizieD

All I can say annodomini is that you have been very lucky with your DILs. If you go on Mumsnet there are to many posts about the fraught relationship between MILs and. DILs.
There are also heartbreaking posts on Gransnet regarding DILs preventing GPs from seeing their GC.
It is all very sad. Your post detailing how wonderfully you get on with your DILs isn't really entirely appropriate on this thread. It is a tad smug and not very empathic,, as the original post was asking about feelings of estrangement, wasn't she? You offered no help or advice, you just related your experience.