Husband says "He's Had Enouh"

DH & are in our mid 60s and retired about 10 years ago.

We moved away from our adult children to live where we were both born. DH has a bad back so can't do too much, but has been into gardening and volunteers at a school with our dog.

I ham quite physical, healthy and have a zest for life. I am not ready for slippers, TV and sitting around the house. I did many volunteer jobs, am a school governor and was chairman of a local political party for a while. Although we both play social bridge, I spend time playing competative bridge two afternoons a week. I'm always at home in the evenings and we have a dog sitter on Tuesdays to go to places together.

Anyway, DH says after all these yars he prefers a "traditional wife" who is there more for him and I'm not the one. He says he feels deep resentment towards me, especially as I'm not that interwsted in sex. I would feel more sexy if he was more affectionate towards me, but he's not. The dog is petted and kissed, but not me!

So DH has just said we can stay in our house and lead seperate lives an see how it goes. To me that is worse than being apart.

I accept him for the way he is, why can't he acept me for the way I am? I'm not cruel to him, nearly always initiate cuddles, do all the cooking & shopping. Yet he's closed down emotionally. Tells me not to cry!

Where do I go from here? We've got a big lunch party here on Suday and I can't face the work or the people- mainly family- when this is going on.