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minimo Thu 19-Jan-17 14:27:52

Keeps commenting on my weight blush. She's not openly rude about it, and she's not a mean person so I know it's not coming from a bad place. It started off as being amusing and now has become really annoying! She'll give me the (noticeably) smallest slice of cake. Or make a point of having salads for lunch when we come over. The bread is placed on the other side of the table and when I ask for it to be passed to me she'll be all charming but pointedly ask me if I think that's really such a good idea? I'm overweight, admittedly, I enjoy my food. But I'm nowhere near obese and my doctor has never cautioned me or told me to lose weight. I'm a happy (if slightly heavy) woman. I don't really now how to bring this up with her without things becoming really uncomfortable.

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Jalima Sun 22-Jan-17 12:14:39

I see from your profile that you are 38 missmelli

Listen and learn - you may be a MIL one day wink

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Starlady Sun 22-Jan-17 14:18:22

Yeah, I'm afraid Jaima is right, op. If you tell your dil off, you risk making her an enemy. Be firm, yes, but be polite.

Maybe that's why dds sometimes get away with more, Jaima, because there's a sense of love there. I wouldn't take it from my dd though. If she starts to get pushy with me in any way, I let her know it's not all right. I don't give her unsolicited advice, and I don't accept it from her either.

Also, on the flip side, some moms can tell their dds off without worry because they know they'll still have a loving relationship after. But not all, of course.

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Anya Sun 22-Jan-17 15:08:44

She'll learn!

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Zorro21 Thu 26-Jan-17 10:04:07

I think it must be very wearing having a daughter in law like that. When she next asks if its a good idea to eat her bread, put the onus on her to prove why its not a good idea.

She's obviously very health conscious but also a pain in the arse for inflicting her views on everyone else to the point of being a bore.

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Zorro21 Thu 26-Jan-17 10:06:27

I have to say, when we go round our very health conscious step daughters you don't get any food at all !!! She goes to yoga daily for 1.5 hours !!!!! She loves it !!

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Smurf52 Sun 29-Jan-17 12:43:09

I think it's a case of jealousy towards the other woman in her husband's life. She is trying to find fault in her mother in law to stir things up.

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Leticia Sun 29-Jan-17 16:24:15

The first answer from Jomarie was the best.

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